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Apr
07
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 As parents, we hear a lot about the importance of being the authorities in our own homes. I know it’s hard for us Boomers—we’re the generation that was told to “question authority,” and no one is (or at least I’m not!) advocating a return to a 1950s “Daddy-Knows-Best” style of parenting. But the pendulum has swung way too far in the other direction . | |||
Blog Posts by Linda Falcao
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Mar
11
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When it comes to giving consequences, I think it’s important to find your kid’s lever, and use it. By their “lever” I mean whatever moves them – it could be time with their friends, their electronics, karate lessons, dance class, use of the car, etc. So in giving them more of a sense of connection (getting them to come to the table for family dinner) or more encouragement for independence (doing their own homework), what lever will you use? Read more » | |||
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Feb
11
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Don’t grocery shop on an empty stomach and don’t try to parent when you’re having a fight with your spouse. Let me explain what I mean here. Your children have an innate, God-given total selfishness, a “me-first” drive, that would keep them alive if their plane crashed on a desert island. (I saw that on Lost, so I think maybe it could happen.) It’s good, and it’s natural, and you need to account for it in your parenting. | |||
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Dec
16
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I read some wonderful research years ago (which I would credit if I could remember the author), that said parenting is so tough because you have to first create the idea in your child’s head that “Mommy and I are one” (sorry, child-rearing guys!), to give your child a sense of safety, and then, as the child matures, you create the idea in their heads that they are separate entities that must go out and create their own lives in the world and be masters of their own destinies. | |||
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Oct
09
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My husband Kemuel (another EP parent blogger) and I have co-raised three children, who are now in their mid-20s and successfully living on their own in careers and lives they have chosen for themselves. I remember how useful the advice of parents who had gone ahead of me was while I was actively in the trenches raising my kids — so I offer you these words of wisdom that provided me with strength and guidance when I needed it. | |||
