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Oct
20
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 All right! I admit it, I am a natural-born enabler. Oh, not for drugs and alcohol or food, but definitely for laziness and for small infractions of the house rules. At two my grandson Coby needed someone to pour milk into his glass; at four, it was just easier and safer to keep doing it; at nine, it is purely enabling! There he is sitting in front of the TV set while I am here in front of the computer. “Gramma,” he says, “can you get me a glass of milk?” My first instinct is to jump up and start pouring milk. Or, he asks to go to the skate park. There is a bike trail from our street to the park so there is no reason he can’t ride there on his own. So, being parental, I say, ” OK, but you have to get there and home again on your own.”
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Archive for the ‘Laziness & Motivation’ Category
Blog Posts by Gigi
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Mar
11
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When it comes to giving consequences, I think it’s important to find your kid’s lever, and use it. By their “lever” I mean whatever moves them – it could be time with their friends, their electronics, karate lessons, dance class, use of the car, etc. So in giving them more of a sense of connection (getting them to come to the table for family dinner) or more encouragement for independence (doing their own homework), what lever will you use? | |||
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Nov
12
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Dear PSL: I am at my wit’s end. I have been trying to get my 19 year old son to get a job for months now. He says he’s trying, but I can’t be sure, as I am not home during the day to supervise him. I also just found out that he has been lying to me about finishing his high school diploma online. I try to motivate him to get a job, but he just doesn’t seem to care. He’s not a bad kid. I just find that I am starting to resent working so hard to put a roof over his head when he is doing nothing all day, and then lying to me about it. What can I do to make him care? –Pulling My Hair Out
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Aug
27
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When it comes to teaching your child skills, remember to keep their eyes on the prize. This means reminding your child of what they enjoy doing and what privileges they’ll earn once their responsibilities have been met. Another part of this technique is looking for ways your child is improving or making an effort and commenting on that. When you can specifically state, “I saw you do this,” or “I heard you talking to your sister nicely…good job,” it shows you’re paying attention.
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