Parenting Articles about Yelling & Swearing

Are you tired of yelling—and hearing your kids yell—all the time? Does your child use foul language with you and others? Teach your kids how to speak in a civil tone and learn how to parent without yelling. Articles and advice that really works from our experts.
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Losing Your Temper with Your Child? 8 Steps to Help You Stay in Control

Losing Your Temper with Your Child? 8 Steps to Help You Stay in Control

Do you ever struggle with temper tantrums at your house? You know what they involve: yelling, screaming, bad-language, and all-out loss of control until you almost can’t take it anymore and you just want to…put yourself in time out? Yes, I’m talking about our own parental temper tantrums, which we’ve all been known to experience at one point or another as we raise our kids. Read on for tips on how to stay in control.

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Disrespectful Child or Teen? 5 Things Not to Do as a Parent

Disrespectful Child or Teen? 5 Things Not to Do as a Parent

Eye–rolling, curses and insults, backtalk, name calling, ignored requests, snide comments: disrespect from your child or teen comes in many different forms. If you’re struggling with disrespectful behavior from your kids, you’re definitely not alone: this is one of the biggest topics of conversation on Empowering Parents each week.

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Anger, Rage and Explosive Outbursts: How to Respond to Your Child or Teen's Anger

Anger, Rage and Explosive Outbursts: How to Respond to Your Child or Teen's Anger

Everyone gets mad sometimes, children and adults alike. Anger is an emotion that can range from slightly irritated to moderately angry, all the way to full-blown rage. A child’s anger often makes us feel uncomfortable, so there can be a natural tendency to try and change the situation for your child, so the anger will evaporate.Or on the flip side, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “bringing down the hammer,” to put a stop to the anger through intimidation or punishment. But the fact is, your child will experience situations that may trigger anger throughout life. You can’t stop the triggers, but you can give your child the tools to understand anger and deal with it.

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How to Keep Calm and Guide Your Child to Better Behavior This Year

How to Keep Calm and Guide Your Child to Better Behavior This Year

Have you been looking back on the last year, reflecting on how things went with your child? If so, perhaps you feel frustrated when you think about his or her behavior—and your reaction to it. Maybe you feel like no matter what you do, nothing changes. But understand that positive change can happen in your family. You’re not stuck in those negative patterns—you really do have the power to improve things, starting today.

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6 Ways to Manage Tantrums, Misbehavior and Meltdowns During the Holidays

6 Ways to Manage Tantrums, Misbehavior and Meltdowns During the Holidays

If you have a child or teen who misbehaves, the holidays can be a source of infinite stress and anxiety. Your individual expectations of the holidays can be seriously at odds: you expect to have a nice, shared time with your whole family and maybe attend some larger family gatherings; they expect to get every gift they demand, and they intend to spend their school break staying up late, sleeping in, and playing video games. The resulting holiday season can be filled with tantrums, obnoxious behavior, and lots of yelling and screaming.

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How to Respond to Disrespectful Children and Teens

How to Respond to Disrespectful Children and Teens

Ask any parent and they’re likely to have at least a few instances in which their child was disrespectful, rude or inconsiderate – even outright defiant. Sometimes disrespect comes along with adolescence; other times a child may show disrespectful behavior from an early age. Either way, it’s a behavior that can push any parent’s emotional buttons!

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Perfect Parents Don’t Exist: Forgive Yourself For These 6 Parenting Mistakes

Perfect Parents Dont Exist: Forgive Yourself For These 6 Parenting Mistakes

Guilt and parenthood just seem to go together. Maybe you lost control and screamed at your child today, or perhaps you’re struggling to give your kids enough—or you might be worrying that you’re doing too much. Whatever the cause, most parents experience guilt regularly. I’ve talked with so many people who were beating themselves up over something they’d done, sure they’d failed as a parent. But as James Lehman said, “It’s not about blame or fault; it’s about taking responsibility.”

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Stop Aggressive Behavior in Kids and Tweens: Is Your Child Screaming, Pushing and Hitting?

Stop Aggressive Behavior in Kids and Tweens: Is Your Child Screaming, Pushing and Hitting?

When a child is aggressive toward others – hitting, screaming, pushing, throwing things – the natural response of the people around him is to withdraw. It’s frightening to see someone whose anger has reached a point where it seems out of control. If your elementary or middle school-age child is behaving aggressively toward others, it’s important to address the issue now, before it escalates to serious consequences such as suspension, legal problems or serious harm to others.

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Trapped in a Screaming Match with Your Child? 5 Ways to Get Out Now

Trapped in a Screaming Match with Your Child? 5 Ways to Get Out Now

If yelling worked, parenting would be easy, wouldn’t it? We’d simply shout, “Do it!” and our kids would comply. But here’s the truth: it doesn’t work. I’ve told parents, “Look, if screaming at our kids was effective, I’d be out of business. You’d just be able to yell at your child and he’d change. Or you’d bring your child to my office, I’d shout at him and call him names for 45 minutes, and then he’d go home and be nice for a week.”

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“F--- You, Mom!” How to Stop Your Child from Cursing in Your Home

F--- You, Mom! How to Stop Your Child from Cursing in Your Home

Don’t pick up that bar of soap yet! James Lehman, MSW has great advice for parents on what to do when their child has a foul mouth, from generalized cursing to verbal abuse.

If your child curses at you, what you need to understand is that they’re trying to hurt you, throw you off balance, or suck you into you into a fight. I believe that families should have clear rules about cursing. There shouldn’t be any discussion about it when it happens. And in my mind, there’s a difference between kids cursing in general or cursing at you or another family member, and calling you rude names. But either way, families need to establish rules around it.

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Kids, Swearing and Potty Language: How Do You Handle It in Your House?

Blogger Recently, a girl was denied her high school diploma because she said the word “hell” in her Valedictorian speech at graduation. Like most other readers, I find this punishment to be a bit harsh. Sure, she’s the valedictorian, so she should set a good example. However, she used it in the context of a favorite movie quote and wasn’t telling people to go to the place named this said explicative. I don’t even consider “hell” to be a swear word, even though there are people who would disagree. If that were the case, priests everywhere would be washing their mouth out with soap.  There are many other words out there that are way more offensive and I’m guessing even the principal of the above-mentioned school has used some in his daily dealings.
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EP Contest Winners 3: Our Final Week of Winners Announced!

Blogger Dear EP Readers, This is the last week that we’ll be featuring winning entries from our recent EP Contest in our blog. We appreciate all the parents who wrote in with suggestions for “Parenting Mistakes I’ve Made—and How I’m Going to Fix Them!” To all of our winners, thank you once again for the encouragement and inspiration you offer—you have truly empowered other parents out there with your words! --Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor
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Open Parental Conflict: Taming Your Inner Lion

Parent Blogger Two recent articles on Empowering Parents sharply caught my attention.  James Lehman’s recent article, Differences in Parenting?  How Your Child May Be Using it Against You, and EP Editor Elisabeth Wilkins’ blog, Is Yelling the New Spanking? both hit home.  I’m ashamed, but I must admit:  My fiancé and I occasionally roar at each other in full view of the children.
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Is Yelling the New Spanking?

Blogger I'll admit it -- I yell at my son more than I'd like. Take yesterday, for example. We were on our way out the door (it always seems to happen when we're in a hurry) trying to make it to Alex's first Parent-Teacher conference of the year. Getting out of the house is challenging for us, but it all started out well, with me laying down the ground rules: OK, I need your cooperation so we're not late today. This swiftly devolved into shouting at the top of my lungs, Come on! I said we needed to hurry. I'm starting to get angry now!  In fact, I went from the Calm Mother voice to the Crazed Mother voice in, oh, about 30 seconds.
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