Your Child Is Not Your “Friend”
by James Lehman, MSW
 With the best intentions in mind, many parents assume or hope that they can be their child’s “best friend.” But it’s a critical mistake. Your child has plenty of friends. What he needs is a parent. When you attempt to make your child your confidante by sharing all your feelings and thoughts with him, you can actually end up damaging the respect he has for you. If you have been trying to be your child’s best friend and are wondering why you’re having troubles with behavior, here’s why he won’t listen and what you need to do today to be the parent he really needs.
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Gut Check:
Do You Tiptoe around Your Child?
by James Lehman, MSW
 You may not want to admit it, but you do it. You’re afraid of setting your child off, so you don’t ask him to pull his fair share around the house. You dread the next outburst, so you put on a happy face, ask him politely to help and end up doing it yourself anyway. There’s a difference between being considerate of your child and tiptoeing around him. Here, James Lehman talks about about tiptoeing around kids who are reactive in a negative way. He defines tiptoeing as being afraid to ask your child to do routine responsibilities or to meet age appropriate expectations out of fear of that child’s reaction. How did this happen and what can you do about it? |
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The Holiday Ceasefire:
How to Manage Family and Behavior Problems amidst Holiday Stress
by James Lehman, MSW
 Perhaps the biggest problem we face as adults during the holidays is the increase in stress. We are often overwhelmed by the amount of work we need to get done on the job and the amount of pressure we feel due to social obligations at this time of year. Add in the stress of gift buying (especially in divorced and blended families) and we feel a tremendous emotional fatigue—which means we have fewer emotional resources with which to manage our kids. An adult who is emotionally fatigued and anxious is less able to be there for their kids emotionally.
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Does Your Child Say This?
by James Lehman, MSW
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When children act out, they aren’t necessarily confrontational. One way kids try to get around the rules of the household is by procrastinating and putting parents off until you eventually stop asking them to help out. (Part five of a six part series.) |
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James Lehman Live Online
This is your opportunity to learn The Total Transformation Program directly from James Lehman. Beginning January 13, 2008, James will guide you through the entire program, answering your specific questions along the way. It’s the best possible solution to the problems you’re having with your child: you and James Lehman working together to turn around your child’s behavior.
Click here to learn more from James and register. Hurry! Enrollment is limited to 50 participants.
One-Minute Transformations
Each month in Empowering Parents, you'll receive a One-Minute Transformation: a technique you can use to transform your child's behavior that only takes a minute or less to apply.
This month:
Accept Bad Moods and
Bad Days
Just like everyone else, children have bad moods and bad days. I think if you accept that about your child, you’re going to cut down on fights.
Free Audio Lesson!
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