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Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Parenting a child who has very defiant behavior or who is diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder is different than parenting a “typical kid”. Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is defined as: “a child or teen who has a frequent and consistent pattern of anger, irritability, arguing, defiance and often vindictiveness towards their parent(s) or other authority figures.” Children who consistently behave in this defiant way towards parents and authority figures don't eventually comply with most limit setting or consequences. Why? Because kids with this level of defiance are focused on being in control. When extremely defiant kids are facing a limit or consequence, their acting out behavior escalates, sometimes violently. ODD is a very challenging diagnosis that takes a certain set of parenting techniques. There are ways to effectively parent a child with very defiant behavior or ODD. Below you'll find the list of articles we suggest to get you started. Why the Word “No” Sets Off an ODD Child Your Defiant Child's Behavior: 5 Things You Can – and Can't – Control As a Parent Is Your Child Engaging in Delinquent Behavior? 4 Ways to Manage It

Parenting ODD Kids: Advice from Two Moms Who’ve Been There

Nobody understands what it’s like to parent an oppositional, defiant child unless you have one. The exhaustion, isolation and feelings of helplessness and shame can be debilitating for any parent. Kim Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner understand where you’re coming from, because they’ve worked with parents of kids with Oppositional Defiant Disorder for 20 years—and Kim... Read more »

Child Rage: Explosive Anger in Kids and Teens

Screaming fights. Destructive behavior. Volatile moods. Do your child’s anger and rage make you feel exhausted and out of control? In a recent Empowering Parents poll, Angie S. commented, “I walk on eggshells around my 15-year-old son. It’s embarrassing to admit, but I’m afraid of his explosive temper.” In that same poll, more than 50... Read more »

The Oppositional, Defiant Teen: How James Lehman tackles the toughest behavior disorder (Excerpted from Transform Your Problem Child)

This week, read about an oppositional, defiant teen in James Lehman’s compelling new book, Transform Your Problem Child. Meet the parents and family of Caleb, who have been dealing with their son’s behavior since he was a young child, and “raising their tolerance for deviance” with each instance of acting out. When Caleb gets physically... Read more »

Oppositional Defiant Disorder: The War at Home

When Hunter was a baby, Pat never imagined parenting him would mean becoming trapped in an argument that would last 15 years. From the time he was old enough to express himself, it seemed that he was looking for a fight with her. “He’s a very strong-willed person,” says Pat, her polite demeanor belying an obvious... Read more »