How to Cope With an Emotionally Distant Child

How to Cope With an Emotionally Distant Child

Do you ever wonder what happened to your sweet, affectionate, “glad to be part of this family” younger child? Did your child enter adolescence with a sudden cloud of distance, brooding, sullen behavior, and a desperate need to be as far away from your family as possible? Though it’s one of the more heartbreaking aspects… Read more »

How to Use Incentives and Encourage Behavior You Want to See

How to Use Incentives and Encourage Behavior You Want to See

Incentives are a powerful way to encourage certain behaviors in kids. Used correctly, they can motivate children to make change and stick with it. Parents often have mixed feelings about using incentives, and they ask us how incentives differ from bribes. Here’s how incentives are different from bribes, and how to use them effectively. An… Read more »

The Gift of Unhappiness

The Gift of Unhappiness

When I was eight years old, my friend was invited to a neighborhood birthday party and I wasn’t. There was ice cream cake and the promise of a piñata. I was devastated. My parents could have asked the neighbors to invite me. They could have sent me along to the party uninvited. They could have… Read more »

Coach Advice: Explain Yourself Once and Move On

Coach Advice: Explain Yourself Once and Move On

Here’s a piece of coaching advice I often find myself giving to parents: Explain yourself once to your child and then move on. You can’t solve an argument – or make a child do something – by trying to make them understand and agree with you. The fact is, they don’t understand you! They’re going… Read more »

Holiday Stress: Should You Cancel Christmas?

Holiday Stress: Should You Cancel Christmas?

It’s here: the most wonderful time of year. Trees are trimmed, music fills the air and hearts swell with gratitude. While many are out shopping, wrapping gifts and enjoying the holiday whirlwind, you feel conflicted. Your child’s behavior goes beyond the “naughty list” and normal consequences aren’t working. You want your child to know you… Read more »

Difficult Child Behavior: Where Do You Begin?

Every day you find time to get the kids off to school, go to work, spend time with family…not to mention the necessities, like making meals or paying bills. Phew…you’re doing a lot! Add difficult child behavior to the mix, and it can feel like you’re walking around with boulders on your shoulders. Parents are… Read more »