I am a mom of two boys, ages 16 and 22, both with ADHD, bipolar disorder, anxiety and depression. I have remarried and my husband has 2 boys, ages 13 and 16. The 13 year old lives with us, and has some behavioral problems and attachment issues. There is always something happening at our house!
Cell phones. Internet. Facebook. Email. It’s been interesting watching the progression of technology over the years and the different ways each has individually impacted our 4 boys. There is a big age gap so the differences were very apparent. The ages at which they requested these privileges varied. We learned very quickly that there was... Read more »
My family is imploding! We are in such a negative cycle that I am afraid we will never get out of it. My friend calls it “Big Toe Syndrome.” She explains it as the point you get to before a divorce where you have had it with your spouse -- to the point that even... Read more »
They say 50 is the new 40. So, 20 is the new 30? 10, the new 20? I heard that youth is now defined as ages 17-24. Young adulthood is starting later and later. 21-year-olds are more like what we were at 17. At the same time, kids today are exposed to things at a... Read more »
When your acting-out child's behavior changes abruptly for the better, it feels surreal -- like you've stepped into an episode of The Twilight Zone.
This happened recently with my 12-year-old stepson, and now I am waiting for “the other shoe to drop.” I have told myself the old child will return, that this is a “honeymoon period”... Read more »
“Isn’t it wonderful that you consider getting your 15-year-old off to school with less fighting than usual a good day? Isn’t it great that your threshold is so low?” This is what my friend said to me this morning after our morning check-in phone call.
I guess I should give a little background. I have a... Read more »
What is the purpose of an after-school detention? I think I know what the intent is, but let’s get serious. Who does it really punish? Certainly not the child.
My 7th grade stepson got after-school detention for passing gas in class. Yes, you read that correctly. The note did not specify what he did exactly, only... Read more »
We have all heard the saying, “The apple does not fall far from the tree.” Not many people like to admit it, but we are all judgmental. We make assumptions by what we see, even if we don’t have the whole story. I found myself recently in this conundrum.
My 12-year-old stepson found himself in trouble... Read more »
I live in a house full of irrational people, more commonly referred to as “children.” My 12-year-old stepson has decided he is very angry at me for acting like his mom. My 15-year-old is angry at me because I do not “trust” him to take his own diabetes medicine. He does not like to be... Read more »
We just returned from a fun-filled, yet relaxing vacation camping near the beach. The traffic was non-existent, the weather was great, the kids all got along and even thanked us!
Oh, wait! That wasn't OUR vacation!
We have spent the past several years tent camping, and the boys really love the camp ground we go to, not far... Read more »
None of my boys have been “officially” diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, but 3 of the 4 of them have had oppositional behavior and been defiant at times, some more than others. In my 21-and-a-half years of parenting, I thought I understood what consequences were, how and when to implement them, and the purposes behind... Read more »