A House Divided Against Itself

If you’re struggling with your co-parent (or an ex) – arguing about whose style is more correct, or more effective – you’re not alone. Coming to an agreement can be very difficult. And when you’re talking about parenting, emotions can certainly run very high. The good news is, you and your co-parent can find a… Read more »

Positive Parenting: “Catch Them Being Good”

Positive Parenting: “Catch Them Being Good”

We have something for you to try this week. It’s something Dr. Robert Myers calls “catch them being good.” If you see behavior you like from someone in your house, pull them aside and tell them what you saw. Any behavior, any moment. From your kids, partner, or other relatives and friends. Keep a tally… Read more »

Coach Advice: Listen to Your Worries!

Coach Advice: Listen to Your Worries!

As a 1-on-1 Coach, I talk to a lot of parents who are full of worry about their child’s future. Parents worry a lot! And that’s a good thing! Parental concern is nature’s way of making sure we attend to our child’s needs. Worry keeps us involved, attuned to our kids and can even give… Read more »

Dealing with Chronic Negativity in Kids

Dealing with Chronic Negativity in Kids

Let’s face it, we all have bad days. And sometimes kids seem to have never-ending bad days! Nothing ever seems good enough or makes them happy. Kids can get stuck in negative patterns, especially during certain stages of development. Here’s how to deal with chronic negativity at home. Know that negativity is part of normal… Read more »

A Tip for Picking an Effective Consequence

A Tip for Picking an Effective Consequence

A frequent question we hear from parents is, “What should I choose as a consequence?” Our answer is always to choose a task-specific consequence. These are the consequences that will help your child practice skills and behaviors that need improvement. Here’s an example of what we mean by task-specific. For example, instead of saying, “Clean… Read more »

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Earlier this week, we wrote about celebrating success with your family. But what if things suddenly seem to be getting worse? Don’t panic. Setbacks are a normal but difficult part of the change process. With a good plan, you’ll get through these tough times and back to celebrating more success. Here are some tips for… Read more »

Don’t Compare Your Insides to Everyone Else’s Outsides

Don’t Compare Your Insides to Everyone Else’s Outsides

With Thanksgiving just three days away, images of smiling families and overflowing cornucopias color every TV, website and magazine in America. But for many parents, learning how to cook the juiciest turkey is last on the priority list. There are much bigger concerns, like making sure your son doesn’t hit his sister at the dinner… Read more »

Understanding Emotional Triggers

You specifically told your daughter to be home by 9pm. It’s almost 10 o’clock, and you’re sick with worry. As you pick up the phone to call her again, the front door opens. You can’t contain your emotion… Where have you been? Do you realize how worried I was? You never answered your phone! I… Read more »

“He’s going to flunk!” More Solutions for Parental Anxiety

We received some great feedback on our last newsletter, written in response to parental anxiety and futurizing. Thank you for your kind words and insightful comments! Remember, futurizing happens when anxious, overwhelming thoughts lead to negative predictions for a child’s future. Since this is such a common topic for parents, I want to share another… Read more »

Feeling unappreciated?

After a long day at work, you come home exhausted. The chores you asked your child to do aren’t done — again. He comes up with excuse after excuse, and you’ve had enough. Feeling frustrated and unappreciated, you blurt out, “I work hard so I can put food on the table and clothes on your… Read more »