Imagine a crowd cheering you on each day as you parent your kids. They encourage you, support you, and maybe take over for a bit when you need a break.
As parents, we need all the support we can get. That’s why I talk to parents about “building their team.” Who can be your cheerleaders? Who can help with your kids? If you’re having trouble coming up with a list, we can give you some ideas. There are probably more people than you think.
The phrase “it takes a village” exists for a reason! Raising children through to adulthood is a huge amount of work. Work best shared by many people. Often parents feel bad asking for help. But people like to help. Truly. When you ask the right people, you will receive support.
“Find a support person who doesn’t judge you and is a good match with what you need. And, once you’ve found that support, let them help.” – Janet Lehman, MSW
Who cares about your kids? Who has an interest in them as people, and concern for their future? Some people on your team may be:
- Guidance Counselors
- Church community
- Aunts and Uncles
Talk to your “team” on a regular basis. Check in with your pediatrician, build a relationship with your school, ask a relative or friend to spend an afternoon with your child.
Like all relationships, these connections take time to build. But it’s worth the effort. You will have more support and resources while you parent. And your kids will have more people to lean on and learn from.
Everyone here is on your team. Good luck this week; we’re here if you need us.
Denise R., Empowering Parents Coach
Denise Rowden is a parent of two teens: an 18-year-old daughter and a 19-year-old son. She has worked in Special Education, Alternative Education and adolescent group homes. She has a BS in Psychology from the University of Southern Maine and is currently working on her Life Coach certification from the International Coach Federation.