As a 1-on-1 Coach, I talk to a lot of parents who are full of worry about their child’s future.
Parents worry a lot! And that’s a good thing! Parental concern is nature’s way of making sure we attend to our child’s needs. Worry keeps us involved, attuned to our kids and can even give us energy when we’re exhausted.
Here’s how you can use worry to your advantage.
When you find yourself overwhelmed with worry, ask yourself this question: Are you worried about what’s actually happening now or something that might or might not happen in the child’s future?
The best way to feel relief is to focus on the present. Maybe it’s schoolwork or how he’s treating others. Identify the behavior you’re worried about in present terms and let that be your new focus.
“Anxiety…. fools us out of the now and into worrying about tomorrow. It makes our focus rigid and keeps the present, real issues out of sight.” – Debbie Pincus, Creator of The Calm Parent: AM & PM
Remember, you can’t control your child and you can’t control the future. But you can control your actions right now.
The Debbie Pincus quote above is from an excellent article if you would like to do more reading: Worried Sick About Your Child’s Future? How to Stop the Anxiety.
Worry really is a good thing, but it can be exhausting and counterproductive if we feel helpless in the face of our fears! If you need more help, the coaches are here for you with 1-on-1 support, or you can share with the community below.
Take care this week,
Marissa, Empowering Parents Coach
Marissa is a proud mom to two boys, age 12 and 7. She earned her degree in Sociology from Saint Joseph’s College of Maine and has been a 1-on-1 Coach since 2011. Prior to coming to Empowering Parents, Marissa gained experience working as the House Manager of a group home for teenage boys, as a Children’s Mental Health Case Manager, and also spent several years working on the Children’s Unit at a Psych. Hospital.