Coach Advice: Listen to Your Worries!
As a parent coach, I talk to a lot of parents who are full of worry about their child’s future.
Parents worry a lot—and that’s a good thing! Parental concern is nature’s way of making sure we attend to our child’s needs. Worry keeps us involved and attuned to our kids. It can even give us energy when we’re exhausted.
Here’s how you can use worry to your advantage.
When you find yourself overwhelmed with worry, ask yourself this question: Are you worried about what’s actually happening now or something that might or might not happen in the child’s future?
The best way to feel relief is to focus on the present. Maybe it’s schoolwork or how he’s treating others. Identify the behavior you’re worried about in present terms and let that be your new focus.
Remember, you can’t control your child and you can’t control the future. But you can control your actions right now.
“Anxiety…. fools us out of the now and into worrying about tomorrow. It makes our focus rigid and keeps the present, real issues out of sight.” – Debbie Pincus, MS, LMHC
The Debbie Pincus quote above is from an excellent article that you can find here:
Worry really is a good thing, but it can be exhausting and counterproductive if we feel helpless in the face of our fears! If you need more help, our online parent coaches are here for you with support and guidance, or you can share with the community below.
Darlene, Empowering Parents Coach