Every day you find time to get the kids off to school, go to work, spend time with family…not to mention the necessities, like making meals or paying bills.
Phew…you’re doing a lot! Add difficult child behavior to the mix, and it can feel like you’re walking around with boulders on your shoulders.
Parents are great at multitasking, but child behavior issues can be overwhelming. If you’re dealing with multiple bad behaviors, how do you know where to begin?
Parents often feel like they have to solve every issue right now. It’s understandable — you see a lot of things that concern you, and they’re all equally important.
The truth is, trying to tackle everything at once will likely leave you feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, or defeated. Spreading yourself too thin also affects stress levels, which can impact how you react to your child’s behavior.
It’s okay to admit you’re doing a lot — you are! At the same time, you’re only human. Relief starts by giving yourself permission to say you’re overwhelmed. Next, choose one behavior you want to change, and start there.
For help with knowing which behavior to start with, check out “My Child’s Behavior Is So Bad, Where Do I Begin?” How to Coach Your Child Forward.
Remember, we’re here to help support and guide you. Let us know in the comments how things are going!
Darlene B., Empowering Parents Coach
“My experience is that if you want to change everything at once, you’re going to be very disappointed. Not only is that an impossible task; you’re going to alienate your child.” – James Lehman, creator of The Total Transformation
Darlene Beaulieu is a parent to two teenage daughters, ages 13 and 16. She has been an Empowering Parents Coach since 2009 and has helped thousands of families in that time. She earned her Master’s Degree in Counseling and has worked in school and community settings helping children and families with academic, social, and behavioral issues.