“Facebook Parenting” Dad: Father of the Year, or Over the Top?

Posted February 10, 2012 by

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A new video posted to Youtube on February 7 by in irate father who was tired of his daughter’s sense of entitlement and disrespect has garnered more than a million and a half hits in just a few days. The video shows Tommy Jordan of North Carolina reading a status update his 15-year-old daughter Hannah recently posted on her Facebook wall. In the update, called “Dear Parents,” she says, “I’m not your damned slave. Next time you want a cup of coffee, get it yourself.” She also goes on to say that she should be paid for the chores she does around the house, and that she won’t be there to wipe her parents’ behinds when they’re old and infirm.

Enough to make any parent crazy, but her dad’s response is what has gotten everyone talking.

Hannah blocked her parents from seeing this update, but didn’t take into account that her dad works in IT for a living (bet she’s kicking herself today) and he easily accessed and read her update. (She’d been grounded before for posting inappropriate things on Facebook.)

In response, her dad read her status update and described her responsibilities, which amounted to cleaning up a little after school and doing homework. It’s what he did next that’s got everyone talking. He then took out her laptop, aimed his .45 at it and shot it 9 times. (One shot was for her mother, who is also mad at Hannah.) He then uploaded this video to Youtube and posted it to his daughter’s Facebook wall.

People commenting on the video on our Empowering Parents Facebook wall have been divided in their reactions. One commenter said, “I have seen this and absolutely agree with what he has done and would have put the laptop in a box and wrapped as a present for her. I would have included the phone and iPod too.” In contrast, another parent responded, “Unbelievable that people think this is so great. Let’s teach our kids that its ok to do exactly what they did, airing dirty laundry on FB, and then add some gun violence to it. This guy is no example of parenting.”

What do you think? Is this man voicing (and acting on) what a lot of frustrated parents feel every day — “A candidate for Father of the Year,” as some have proposed — or did he just add to the problems he and his daughter already have by essentially one-upping her original Facebook post in a shocking way?

And what do you think their house is like at dinner time these days?

We want to know what you think. Feel free to comment below.

About

Elisabeth Wilkins is the editor of Empowering Parents and the mother of an 10-year-old son. Her work has appeared in national and international publications, including Mothering, Motherhood (Singapore), Hausfrau, The Bad Mother Chronicles, and The Japan Times. Elisabeth holds a Masters in Fine Arts in Creative Writing from the University of Southern Maine.

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