Handling the Holidays with Your Gifted Child: Excitement, Anxiety and Acting-out Behavior

Posted December 11, 2013 by

Over the years, I would inevitably get a phone call from the school as the Holiday season approached. I knew my daughter would get overly excited and anxious, causing her worst behavior traits to be exposed. She would be easily upset over something minor and burst into tears, and she would be very fidgety. I found that as the weather got colder and the school would have inside recess, she just couldn't control that extra energy.

My advice to all parents is to try not to overreact to these bouts. Think about how much pressure we put on kids to be good so that they will get presents during the holidays. Please listen to your children, give them your complete attention so that you can help them find strategies to cope.

My daughter is now 13 and very rarely has any of the elementary age behaviors any more. Some teachers in the past viewed her as "bad" and I always gave her the chance to explain the reasons behind her actions. She was never intentionally bad. I have been my daughter's advocate and I always will be. I believe my love, my calmness in the face of her behaviors, and my acceptance of the way she thinks and feels has created a person I can totally respect.

Related: How to stay calm with your child, no matter what say or do.

A gifted child has something special, but also some personal challenges. It is hard to know what goes on inside their minds. They are not always accepted openly by their peers because they act and think differently. They want to feel appreciated and loved. I have allowed my daughter to be herself, I have listened to her ramblings about daydreams. She amazes me. At 13 years old she has published her first book. She told me she wanted to be an author and I didn't stop her. I encouraged her, but I didn't push her. Her gift is a brain full of creativity and stories. She uses her life experiences to develop characters based on some of her difficulties with socializing. Currently she is working on her second book and I am very proud of her.

If you have found yourself crying because your child is different, don't give up on them. They need your love and support and with that they will flourish!

About

Parent Blogger Amanda Lane is the mother of an 11-year-old son and 13-year-old daughter. Amanda has been married for 16 years and works as a Clinical Systems Analyst in the hospital in her rural community. She hopes to give hope and confidence to others as she writes about her journey through parenthood.

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