When my son was three years old, I carried him to the car every morning with bare feet. In the freezing cold, in the rain, in the snow.
Before this started, putting on shoes to leave the house was a screaming battle. One morning I thought, why am I fighting this? I scooped up my barefoot son and walked out the front door. He stopped crying. When we got to daycare, the socks and shoes went on, no problem.
This was a huge lesson for me. Letting go of one thing made our lives much easier. Are there behaviors – as annoying and frustrating as they may be – that you can choose to ignore?
“If you’re seeking perfection as a parent, that’s not realistic. But if you’re aiming to be a better mom or dad, that’s really good enough.” – Janet Lehman, co-creator of The Total Transformation
I encourage you to take a step back and think about what would happen if you chose to ignore certain behaviors. What is crucial and what is an irritant?
Here are some questions to think about:
- What would happen if you ignored this behavior?
- Do you need to focus on this?
- Where else could you spend this energy?
- If the neighbor’s child were doing this, how would you feel?
When you find yourself wanting to correct every concerning behavior no matter the size, take a moment to prioritize. You will be effective when you concentrate on the most important issues. The others? Take a deep breath and – for now – let go.
Wishing you the best this week,
Rebecca W., Empowering Parents Coach