Your Turn to Sound Off: Tell Us What You Think about Empowering Parents

Posted January 2, 2009 by

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Here we are, the start of the new year and a chance for all of us to take stock of how far we’ve come in the past 12 months — and to think about where we’d like to see ourselves headed in 2009. My friend Brooke calls this a “Top of the Ladder Moment”:  When one of her young children accomplishes something (like climbing the ladder of the biggest slide at the park for the first time) she  says it’s important to take a minute and tell her kids, “Hey, look and see how far you’ve come! You did it!”  The truth is, those little moments of validation are important for all of us.

As the new year begins, I think we need to stand at the top of the ladder for a moment ourselves. Although our kids may act out, talk back, and drive us crazy, there are times when we do get it right as parents, small triumphs that can and should be celebrated and built upon.

Here at Empowering Parents, we’re doing the same thing. This week, I’ve been surprised and moved by the many emails we’ve received from you about the ways EP is helping you to stand at the top of the ladder. I don’t have room to share every message here, but here are two that really resonated:

Your newsletter has been an eye opener for me, enabling me to lead my family (wife and 5-year old son) to a more stable and happier home.  Keep up the good work, and know that you’ve made a real difference in this family’s life. Thank you!

–Mark Lee

I want to thank you very much for the endless work you are doing–you are big blessing to us readers, in my family especially (I’m also spreading the word to my extended family!!!) Thanks for your newsletters, for the encouragement  that I/we are not alone with our growing kids. Nobody had any Degree in”Parenting” before having children. Thanks to you, James Lehman, for your wisdom to empower us to never give up  with bad behaviors and attitudes of our children because our society needs good ones. Your help is real, experienced and very much appreciated.

–Tatiana Vinogradski, Mom of Two Teen Girls

We really love hearing from you, and you’ve sent us tons of ideas for articles and ways we can improve our newsletter. We’ve had requests from parents on topics you’d like to see us cover in 2009 — articles on only children, video game addiction, help for teachers dealing with behavioral problems in the classroom, and more for step parents and blended families, to name a few. We hear you, and will do our best to tackle the issues that you’re dealing with in your life right now. Thanks to everyone who’s been reading EP, writing to us, asking questions, and most importantly, working and learning how to make their families stronger.

Now it’s your turn! What would you like to see in Empowering Parents? What are we getting right, and what would you like to see added to our site? Give us your thoughts on what you’d like to see in 2009.

And remember, we’re all in this together!

–Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor


Elisabeth Wilkins was the editor of Empowering Parents and the mother of an 10-year-old son. Her work has appeared in national and international publications, including Mothering, Motherhood (Singapore), Hausfrau, The Bad Mother Chronicles, and The Japan Times. Elisabeth holds a Masters in Fine Arts in Creative Writing from the University of Southern Maine.

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    I love reading the articles and they make a lot of sense. But the more I read the more I see that my parents raised me by example. And I can not seem to get my husband to see and understand that concept. he and his children (much older) cus in the house all the time whether it be about something or at each other, he defends it by saying that is just talk or we have always talked like that. And there are other issues that he does that I can see our younger children are learning from him and I. Is there any articles that mainly confront the issue of being a role model to your children. I have the waking up issue not only with my 7 and 5 year old twins as I do with their dad. I am the one that gets up and has to get all of them and their dad up. I can’t get it through their dads head that they are just doing what they see daddy doing. Meanwhile I am so stressed out that i find myself yelling at the kids and my husband every morning. Please help

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    I love the newsletter and recommend it to everyone I can. I was wondering, how can we model being good advocates for our children? Even with all of the insight that has been gained in regards to ADHD and learning disabilities, many “educators” still remain (some by their own decision) “un-enlightened” and even un-willing to participate in any kind of daily report to the parents or even weekly or monthly communication with them. I have found them abundant in highly rated schools and in various parts of the country. It is disappointing, to say the least, when a parent finally finds tools to help their child but the school really resists it and labels the parent a “nuisance” or “problem parent”? Then the child loses hope again as they see others viewing their parent as a “problem creator” and not a “problem solver” in regards to that child’s life in an academic setting. Any ideas other than diplomacy, patience and perseverance?

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  6. kitkat (Edit) Report

    We struggle with older brothers (ages 16 and 14) being mean to the younger brother (age 10). The teenagers want him to act grown up all the time and when he doesn’t, they say very mean and hurtful things to him. The 10 year old was recently diagnosed with ADD. I just want them to speak decently to one another.

  7. Louise Sanborn Report

    Hey Everyone, I want to thank all of you for your wonderful comments, questions and insights — I have learned so much from all our parents this year, and I have to say, I’m glad we’re all traveling on this road together. We’ll have a new forum in EP soon that will allow us all to talk specifically about the issues that we’re going through right now, so please stay tuned! (Ronda, I think the forum would be a great place for you to post your question about discipline!)

  8. Ronda (Edit) Report

    My niece and nephew were both adopted, and both appear to have some form of attachment issues. How do you discipline kids who just don’t care if they disappoint you or if they lose privlages or toys? The youngest, my niece, seems to take great pleasure in hurting her Mom’s feelings.

  9. Mary Ann (Edit) Report

    as a mother and grandmother, I’ve had a lot of “work in the field” and I can honestly say this website and James Lehman are a great opportunity to fine tune “parenting” skills with common sense and practical info….. great topics and no phsycho babble…. you should be commended!!!!! don’t change a thing!!!! can’t improve on perfection. Thank you

  10. blondy62 (Edit) Report

    Thank you ever so much for a fantastic way to get information! My daughter’s 12 year old step-daughter moved in to her home last summer. She was having back-talking issues from her, when I recieved the news letter about it I sent it to my daughter. She read it but wasn’t sure it would work. To her surprise, the first time she applied it not only did it stop her step-daughter in her tracks, it has almost put an end to the back-talking completely! Thank you again!!

  11. Paula (Edit) Report

    I want to Thank You for your Newsletter which I have received for sometime now.
    Your ideas and suggestions are practical and insightful.
    My eldest grandson has some emotional issues which are not being addressed by my son who is a single father. The boy is 7 yrs. old. Because I am a grandparent I am limited to what I can do because my son has full custody.
    I will do what I can for the sake of this child.
    Thank you for caring about children who are our future.



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