The Total Transformation®

Jump Start, 7 Audio Lessons (+1 Bonus), Parent's Workshop Video, 116-page Workbook

4.68 out of 5 based on 1470 customer ratings
1488 customer reviews

Most parents struggle with bad behavior, whether it’s disrespect, arguing or severe defiance. But with the right skills and support, you don’t have to struggle anymore. The Total Transformation Program takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good.

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ADHD and School Issues

Jo-Ann and Kath were looking for ways to help their son Brennan, who is diagnosed with ADHD and Slow Processing Disorder. They recognized that Brennan is talented, creative, and a natural leader, but his tendency to challenge authority and test limits created serious issues at school and at home.

Angry Outbursts

The Bentley family was looking for answers to help 14-year-old Alex manage her anger differently. Her ADHD made it difficult for her to control her behavior when she got frustrated. Outbursts of anger led to slamming doors and disrespect, which left the family feeling disconnected and discouraged.

Physical Violence & Disrespect

Carolyn Nash saw a big change in her son Theo after she and his father divorced. His disrespect led to outbursts of rage and even physical violence. Carolyn tried everything from grounding to counseling, but nothing seemed to work—until The Total Transformation.


What Are Parents Saying?

  1. 5 out of 5

    Cheryl Hobbs

    The program provides simple steps to deal with my son and things have improved dramatically in our home.
  2. 5 out of 5


    the changes in the way he children lisened is remarkable.
  3. 4 out of 5


    Our experience was a welcome change. Prior to this we had no one to turn to for ideas and suggestions because the people we knew all have normal children and they would not understand our situation. My only regret was that we wish we could have known of the program a lot sooner. But as they say, its More never to late. Its been a great help to all of us and best of all, a pleasant and new found confidence in all of our family. Keep up the good work.
  4. 3 out of 5

    it all sounded good at first

    well my son is 12 and 100% defiant. i got this and tried it and it seemed like it was working, then he started backtalking in the form of "so is this what those dvd's told you to do, you cant be yourself." after all ive done all he would ever say is he hates me and wants to live with his mother, so More two weeks ago i moved him out of my house and into his mothers house. i will not let him destroy myself or my family. he is gone and im out another chunck of money. thank you anyway.
  5. 4 out of 5

    It's the right approach, if you can make it work.

    My wife and I are both physicians. We've got an incredibly difficult child to manage and found the program of cognitive behavior therapy compelling. The program is well packaged and presented, and is clearly the only kind of therapy that makes any sense of stands any chance of success. The problem More is that it's incredibly difficult to make it work when the child is incredibly recalcitrant -- no matter how good a parent and manager you are, or think you are. I don't think we did a good job of making it work and wound up sending our child to a military academy. It's actually an well-regarded college prep school, not one of the abusvie "boot camp" things we've heard so much about. Surprisingly enough, our daughter went of her own free will, which is a requirement for admission, although she said her motivation was primarily her enthusiasm for being "anywhere but here" with us. So the program is great, but we're still struggling to make it work in our family.
  6. 5 out of 5

    Life Changing

    An absolutely life changing program. We had tried everything but when we found was 'the' answer for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
  7. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    MoreThe total transformation has helped me to be come a less emotional parent when dealing with explosive behavioral issues. Tough behavioral issues are now approached more rationally instead of more emotionally. The tantrums are much shorter because my emotional "fuel" has been taken out of the "fire".
  8. 5 out of 5

    Review Of Total Transformation

    I liked the program, I think there should be an advanced class for "seasoned" Oppositional Defiant Parents who, like myself, have gone through books, therapy, self-help, school meetings, etc, and need more advanced techniques. The basics of the program are great and they work, but more help would be More nice.
  9. 5 out of 5

    My review

    I have only listened to the CDs so far and worked in the workbook. I plan on putting the detailed tools to work soon and expect to be using the support line too as well.
  10. 3 out of 5

    Opinion of Total Transformation

    I think this is a good program but I think it's based on the premise that you can actually reason with your child. When your teenager immediately goes on the defensive and is abusive as soon as a conversation starts, it's rather difficult to use the various techniques suggested. I have tried to use several More of the techniques and some have worked but it's not that often I'm dealing with a rational teenager who really listens to what I'm saying. We will continue with the suggestions along with her regular therapy to see if we can make some positive changes.
  11. 5 out of 5


    My son started on my scale of 2.5 and now having used the total tranformation program for about 2 months he is about an 7.5. We still deal with some behavior issues that haven't been totally resolved like getting to school every day on time and doing homework which he is working on, but we see less and More less of the blatent disrespect and that is a big change. He has become much more responsible or at least willing to take the responsibility for what he needs to. He no longer blames me for everything. I wish that I had known about this program a long time ago!!! We laugh together every day now. And our house is no longer a battlefield but instead is peaceful. Thanks for making it available for people like me - it's so nice to have a new outlook on life for our family.
  12. 5 out of 5

    Effective Parenting Tools

    I am completely impressed with the Total Transformation Program as a tool to develop effective parenting skills. Before listening to the program, I was constantly looking for excuses (i.e. sick, not enough sleep,etc.) to justify certain inappropriate behaviors because I was under the illusion that my More daughter's behavior could not be attributed to my ineffective parenting style but rather something beyond my control. In fact, my daughter was in therapy for a short while and the theraspist approach, like mine, was to concentrate on why my daughter was feeling a certain way or acting a certain way and not on how she was being parented. After applying many of the techniques in the program, I have noticed a significant change in behavior and am happy to report that our life has become a little calmer since the power struggles have become less frequent. Thank you.
  13. 2 out of 5

    Not for youngsters

    This program will be great for me when my kids get older. This program is a liitle hard to implement with toddlers up to 5. That's the ages of my kids. Sorry I couldn't be more help. I am looking foreward to using as my kids get older though.
  14. 4 out of 5


    I enjoyed the program but feel like I need to go back and refresh my memory or come up with additional strategies. Every day is a challenge with my 10 year old boy as opposed to my 8 and 4 year old boys. The program was really eye opening and there is still alot I need to do with my 10 year old. The More techniques work most of the time with my youngest but I am still in need of assistance with the 10 year old and sending him to Army Boot Camp is sounding better and better.
  15. 4 out of 5


    I have read just about every book under the sun about discipline and adhd kids. The information was lacking to say the least. When I came across The Total Transformation program, at first i was apprehensive because of the price. Then I got to a point where I had no where else to go and decided to give More it a shot. i am happy I made that decision. James is brilliant and his knowledge is outstandingly direct. I tell everyone I know about this program. It is even good information for kids that don't have defiant issues so I tell people with kids that behave. This program is priceless...I wish I could have access to James personally though because sometimes it is hard to be consistent as a single parent. I still need to apply all the the tools myself but from what I have applied it has been a Godsend. Thanks a million!
  16. 3 out of 5

    None Given

    I think there is so much information given that it is almost impossible to use the program. I can't remember all the things he talks about and so it's hard to be consistant with this program
  17. 5 out of 5

    Peace and Happiness...At Long Last!

    Our home had been a virtual battle zone for years. Although our twelve year old son also required other therapy,(neurofeedback)it was the addition of The Total Transformation Program that gave us the tools we needed to be better parents and to more effectively guide our child toward better behaviors.The More most valuable lesson we learned was the need for BOTH parents to unite, set boundaries and stay on the same page.At first, we chuckled at how many times in the Total Transformation series, we are advised to "say___and walk away"... or to "stop the car", etc but that WORKS. There have been dramatic, positive changes over the past few months! We have strongly recommended this program to several friends who are also struggling with various behavioral issues.
  18. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    It was a great program I liked being give tools for me to use with my son. Other options we have used did not provide this and they ended up not working. It would be nice it legacy parenting had a list of agenceys or web sites that can offer referals based on location.
  19. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    It's awesome!
  20. 5 out of 5

    Thanks for the help!

    I was very please with the tapes, it helped me to better understand my daughter, her behavior, and improved our relationship. Although, the tapes usually are geared towards adolescents, it seemed to work beautifully for my seven year old too!
  21. 4 out of 5


    The program is successful when used because of its continuity. Everything seemed to be connected and the logic was useful. I adapted and used it for dealing with abberant behavior in my students.
  22. 4 out of 5

    Excellent tool for parenting oppositional children

    This program gives you the tools required to parent a child who has a strong will and try to channel their anger in a different way so that you have a child who is less defiant and more cooperative.
  23. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    The Program was great confirmed my inner beliefs would like more hands on or direct incorperation/examples of usage of philosophies
  24. 5 out of 5


    I am glad that I ordered the Total Transformation Program. Before getting the program, my son had low self esteem. He was having problems in school. He was getting low grades. Now I am amazed at how fast his grades are improving. He has more confidence in himself and he is much happier. Everyone around More him is much happier, too.
  25. 5 out of 5

    Thoughts on Total Transformation

    The program is well thought out, without all the feel-good self esteem psychobabble one usually is fed as a tool for behavioral change. There are hard lessons in here, not only for confused kids, but also for their parents. Parents will have to kick themselves for having kicked themselves for so long! More I learned that as long as I was taking responsiblity for my child's behavior, then he didn't have to do it! This program is more work than one might think - you have to roll up your sleeves and get after it - no lazy parenting! But the rewards of actually following this method outweigh the hard work of consistency. Hats off to Total Transformation!
  26. 5 out of 5

    Life Changing

    I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to More work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!
  27. 5 out of 5

    Life Changing

    I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to More work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!
  28. 5 out of 5

    Support in a Time of Crisis

    It is great to have a program so supportive of parents trying to navagate raising their children 's lives in times of crisis. I found this system fab.
  29. 5 out of 5


    We are on disk 4 of the program, have used many of the tools so far and our daughters are cognizant of the program and are learning the skills that are needed. We are impressed with how some of the skills are learned in such a short period of time. We have called the Parentl Support line a couple of More times and used the advice successfully. We will continue with the program and ingrain the parental skills in order to help our daughters learn how to cope in today's world. My hat is off to James and his team.
  30. 3 out of 5

    Good program but too late for my 18 year old

    The program supports things I learned from a parent support group I attended last spring. It was based on the tough love concept. By the time I learned of your program, my son was within two months of turning 18. He had stolen over $8,500 from us, was drinking, not coming home on time or at all, not More calling, not ansering his cell phone. Had there in school suspensions in the first six weeks of senior year. He cut over 110 classes from 9/07 to today. He had been to five therapists, in the PINS Prevention and PINS programs. I started using your techniques, but NOTHING worked with this boy. Based on his refusal to follow the rules, we told him to leave our house last Friday. It has been very difficult to do this as we don't don't if he will ever return home.
  31. 5 out of 5

    great improvement from very difficult situation.

    I am a well educated person raised in loving, stable home. I was unprepared for difficulties I faced with several of my children. They exhibited severe tantrums, uncontrolled yelling, hitting. there were many characteristics that made me wonder about various psychological disorders. I was at my wits More end after being bitten, hit, lied about, etc and was having zero results. Now my home is peaceful and ordered, and all the kids are happy as well. I was amazed how quickly I was able to make the program work. The key for me is not so much discussing things after they happen and helping learn lessons (though I do try to do this too). The key for me has been constantly reminding them of the priveleges they like (which previously I had looked upon as not that big of deals) and going over with them the things they like, refocusing them on those things, then taking them back hard to what their behavior is about to cost them when they get their priveleges taken away. "your so close, don't blow it now." "don't do it". I sound like a clone of the CD audios of lehman (and some of my kids are even repeating some of the phrases, have kidding, but also just because they like the way it sounds). before I never could get my daughter to focus on how her actions were going to affect her, or get her to stop herself, stop because of upcoming punishment etc - now she is able to focus on something else quite quickly! (the things she likes) realize she is about to lose them, and then quickly change her behavior. in addition the amount of trouble incidents, and especially tantrums have dribbled down to very few. life is great! all the kids are helping clean up. i can't express enough how much this program has helped me in parenting and the relief it has given my spirit. thanks much, Frank Burch
  32. 3 out of 5

    It's OK

    I did enjoy learning about the total transformation process. I did find it difficult to work through with my children, however. I have concluded that this approach to discipline can be effective in part but that the many nuances that come with parenting cannot be handled with a program. I have kept the More parts that I like and continue to use them.
  33. 5 out of 5

    This program is astounding!

    While I was relieved that my kids are not as violent and lethargic as some described, the methods were empowering and a sense of control, serenity and order has returned to our home. We have 4 busy, active, vocal kids. The truths about tying consequences to misbehavior, never tolerating abuse (emotional More tantrums, etc) was life-altering. This program gives the ticket to becoming the parent I know my kids need. Only dislike was the flimsy packaging -- I listen to these in the car so a sturdier package needs to survive the car tumbling.
  34. 4 out of 5


    One thing that would be nice is less "discussion" I found myself getting impatient and skipping past the couple asking questions and the music and thinking, please get to the point. I understand the concept, and in most cases, I am sure that some parents/guardians would need that 'discussion' type format. More But I preferred hearing Mr. Lehman only. Like the Ten Points disc. THAT was excellent and to the point. As in, "Problem" - "Solution", extremely helpful. I implemented the techniques and was pleased with the results. It helped us to get our'authority'and confidence back as parents. I didn't do much of the workbook, but plan on getting back into it. I just dove into the discs. It is worth the price, worth the time and effort and I recommend it often to others. My only regret is not knowing about it sooner when my son was younger.
  35. 5 out of 5

    How Total Tranformation Transformed our Family

    Our family has seen amazing results with the Total Transformation Package. I am very pleased I had the courage to order your product. My children are happier, making better choices and we have dramatically increased the quality of our familylife. It has truly enriched our family experience and we More are able to do things and be together like never before. From simple things like going out to dinner without incident to family vacations that are enjoyable for all. These things were not possible before the Total Transformation. I am a school teacher and it has been applicable in that area as well. I know I am a better parent, teacher and person because of the Total Transformation.
  36. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    With The Total Transformation Program it helped me be more firm and finally more in control with my 4 year old son. He is very determined in getting his way with everyone but together we've learned to hear each other instead of screaming in the house.
  37. 5 out of 5

    The program helped us cope

    We do not have full custody of our son and so we had to make a strong impact in the brief time we have. The program allowed us to be consistent and firm. Our son balked at the rules at first but we see that he prefers our home to his mother's now (she lets him run wild). We will always have ups and downs, More but at least now we have the tools to cope.
  38. 5 out of 5


    The program is excellent. It provides useful tools that are simple to understand and very effective. I especially like the newsletters.
  39. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    It works! The fighting has stopped and we've only gotten thru 3 disks.
  40. 4 out of 5


    I think the Total Transformation is an excellent program. It is logical and when I really thought about a lot of the things James talks about, there are really no surprises. It's amazing how far afield you can get from holding kids accoutable. It helped me to adopt a systematic approach to re-training More my kids on what's acceptable behavior.
  41. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    We are pleased with the program. However, I am disapointed with myself because we have not successfully completed the entire program, nor have we used the parental support line. Therefore, we continue to struggle as parents.
  42. 5 out of 5

    Thank You!

    Every precept James Lehman teaches about in the Total Transformation program has the ring of truth about it. We recognized lots of things we already "knew," but which weren't clear or which we weren't sure how to go about implementing. I don't think there was a single issue that we have already faced More or will be facing that was not addressed in the TTP. In following this plan, it seems possible for anyone to be able to raise children to be happy and productive members of society.
  43. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    We are still in the process of working through the program. From what we have done, I feel it is very helpful. Just understandng the behavior is such a help and then having a program to address that behavior is even a greater benefit. The behavior started prior to my daughter becoming physically ill. More The program has helped, even knowing that some of the issues she has have been because of the chronic pain and illness she has. It has brought my husband and I closer, knowing that we are working from "the same page" under the premise that we love our child and are working together to make our home a more functional home.
  44. 4 out of 5

    Excellent Program!

    I have the highest regard for the Total Transformation Program and for James Lehman. His own personal suffering, overcoming, and growth qualify him more than any formal degrees, though he has both as credentials. Because the program is based on behavioral science per se, I understand that behavioral More aspects (rather than moral & spiritual aspects) are the emphasis. This is the only thing I'm not as fond of, because children receive only selfish motivations for positive behavior changes (i.e., the hope of reward or the fear of loss), versus learning to love others as themselves just because it's the right thing to do (because God says so). But I love Mr. Lehman's teachings and his proper emphasis on the child's accountability and acceptance of personal responsibility. When I finished going through the material the first time, things changed immediately. The kids shaped up, and I was relaxed and happy (I could enjoy my kids!) rather than angry and frustrated -- because I was confident in my parental authority and was now exercising it! I'd recommend this program to anybody.
  45. 4 out of 5

    my son michael

    We loved the program because it did help us get the power back and cut down on wasted arguing. however, there are apparently some children who are beyond help. our son is addicted to a computer game and any other videogames or wild shows will be a substitute if he is desperate for entertainment. Our More computer room now has a deadbolt. our t.v. goes off automatically at 11 p.m. We take the remotes to our bedroom at night so he can't play DVD's, but he can still play videotapes. he is impossible. we have finally told him he is an addict and will never play games again in our house, because we have tried giving him time on the computer, and it's NEVER enough. he now just leaves when he gets home from school and goes to the library to play there, or to another kid's house. we have no control over where he goes and we have used all the techniques. you can't take things from him, because he doesn't care about things. you can't deny him activities, because he's not interested in any activities. it's not the fault of the program, but he has not been helped, but we have been. we are using our power and now have him picked up each day by a bus and taken to a special school for kids with learning problems, etc., at the expense of our school district (we got an advocate who helped us out). soon he will probably be sent away for full-time school/psychological care... Carol
  46. 5 out of 5

    Not Too Early to Start

    This program is great! I've altered a few things to fit our situation since we are dealing with a 4 year old, but the results have proven to us that it's not too early to start. People are amazed that I can get my children to listen so effectively and this has changed our family dynamic for the better. More This program is a God-send! Thank you!
  47. 5 out of 5

    Incredible Program!

    This program has changed our lives!
  48. 4 out of 5

    dina burnett

    i have found this program to be very helpful, esp. in that it helped me detach and not take my son's behavior personally.
  49. 5 out of 5

    Helping a parent relax!

    I am a Grandmother and I do wish I would have had the total Transformation when my children were growing up I Bought the program for one of my daughters and it is so very informative.. things to say to the child that we didnt think of!Thank you !
  50. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    We have used this program to help assist our foster parents in better understanding the behaviors of the children in their homes as well as give them better "tools" to deal with those behaviors.
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  • 116-Page Workbook
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Regain control of your child, your family and your life.

You need help in the moment when you are overwhelmed with defiance and bad behavior. You need tools you can use at home to get your child to solve their own problems without acting out. And you need the fighting, screaming and defiance to stop.

Restore peace and sanity in your home.

  • No more walking on eggshells around your child
  • End frustration and exhaustion from constant arguing
  • Stop pleading and negotiating with your child
  • Feel empowered, not helpless
  • Stop blaming yourself for your child’s behavior
  • No more feeling like a bad parent
  • Replace power struggles with accountability

In this program, you’ll:

  • Get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school
  • Learn the 10 words to say when your child talks back
  • Eliminate “acting out” in public
  • Stop the blame game for good
  • Master specific consequences for kids of all age groups
  • Discover exactly what to say and do to stop arguments and get through to your child
  • Understand how to prevent future issues before they start
  • Get your child to cooperate and comply, without raising your voice
  • Learn how to talk so your child will listen and respond appropriately
  • Teach your child problem solving skills
  • Rediscover the joys of being a parent
  • Establish lasting respect between you and your child

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Q: What is The Total Transformation® Program?

A: Total Transformation takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good. The program works well for parents of children from 5 to 18 years of age who are exhibiting anger, underachievement, poor school performance, substance abuse, lashing out (physically or verbally, including abusive behavior), defiance and disrespect, but can be helpful for any child—even adult children. Total Transformation is designed to assist parents in dealing with negative behaviors (both typical and extreme) children and adolescents engage in.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® really work?

A: We think the families who’ve used our learning programs answer this best. In fact, thousands of parents, grandparents, teachers and professionals have shared their positive experiences—with each other, online, and in video testimonials—about the effectiveness of Total Transformation with their children and teens. Created by renowned child therapists James Lehman, MSW and Janet Lehman, MSW, the program is a life-changing tool in helping parents to quickly address unwanted child behaviors. Check out our constantly updated reviews where you can see our customers’ authentic and unedited comments. Our goal is to help you get to what works with your child so you can form a better relationship, starting today.

Q: Can this program work for me if I'm divorced and my ex lets my child(ren) get away with everything at his/her house?

A: Yes. One of the primary goals of Total Transformation is to develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your child. You will be able to teach your child to be accountable for his behavior in your home, regardless of the standards of behavior and expectations in the other parent’s home.

Q: Can I return my Empowering Parents product?

A: At Empowering Parents, we strive to help you get to what works. If you are not completely satisfied with your program, we offer a 60-day money back guarantee on all purchases. Simply call us within 60 days from the date you receive your delivery (Order date, plus 7 days) to return the program for a full refund of the purchase price paid (excluding shipping and handling charges, if any). We will provide all return instructions for your purchase. You may be responsible for any return shipping and handling costs.

Q: What happens after I purchase?

A: You will receive your program by mail in an unmarked package to protect your privacy.

Q: What does The Total Transformation® teach, and what types of behaviors are covered?

A: Total Transformation helps parents with specific techniques that enable them to deal with problems such as fighting and arguing, lying, temper tantrums, talking back, destroying property, picking on siblings, bullying, acting sullen and withdrawn, lack of motivation, risky behavior, and behavior problems in school and in the community. It’s important to note that the skill-set honed in the program helps build stronger relationships with all children in the family, not only those who have attitude or behavior problems.

Q: Will The Total Transformation® work for all children?

A: Various factors impact whether the program is effective with a particular child—including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s environment/background, and the parents’ consistency in applying the program. Acknowledging that, every day we hear from parents, grandparents, teachers and other caregivers who have found success in using Total Transformation. These concerned parents come from all walks of life and from all over the globe. We encourage you to read their authentic and unedited reviews.

Q: My child's behaviors are not as extreme as James Lehman describes. Will this program work for me?

A: The program is designed for children ages 5 to 18 and is very effective for most child behavior problems, ranging from mild to severe. Any parent can benefit from the effective parenting strategies taught in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® religious-based?

A: Total Transformation does not have any religious affiliation. Parents of all faiths (including those who don’t practice any religion) have used the program successfully with their families while remaining true to their own core values. Our emphasis is on helping all families to change unwanted behaviors in their kids.

Using The Total Transformation® Program

Q: My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will it work for him/her?

A: Yes. Total Transformation can be helpful for children with these conditions, and was in fact born out of James and Janet Lehman’s decades of experience working with defiant, oppositional youth. A good approach for many families is to use the program tools in conjunction with the support of a trusted, qualified, and local professional.

Q: Is there anyone who shouldn't use the program?

A: Children with autism, profound intellectual disabilities, and severe psychiatric disorders that result in an inability to communicate may not benefit from the techniques outlined in Total Transformation. However, their parents may benefit from the parenting concepts taught in the program.

Q: How long will it take to achieve a real change in my child's behavior?

A: Not long at all. In fact, you might see a change in your child’s behavior almost immediately after you begin implementing the program. As they adopt more effective parenting roles, use behavior management techniques, and hone problem-solving skills, most families say they experience significant, lasting results as they work with the program.

Q: Can grandparents use The Total Transformation®?

A: Many, many grandparents use Total Transformation with great results. Some of these grandparents are raising their grandchildren, while others share the program with their grandchildren’s parents. Total Transformation will help you develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your grandchild, and teach him or her to be accountable for his/her behavior in your home.

Q: Can The Total Transformation® be used by teachers, educational technicians and counselors?

A: Absolutely. Countless teachers, mental health professionals and caregivers use our program on a daily basis. Every adult who interacts with children in a meaningful way can benefit from the concepts and practical ideas presented in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® the same as therapy?

A: Total Transformation is not therapy. Where therapy is usually child-centric, our program is parent-centric. Total Transformation addresses how a parent can change the behavior dynamic by learning effective parenting skills.

Q: Should I use The Total Transformation® instead of counseling and/or stop my child's therapy, counseling, medication, etc.?

A: Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication, and you should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: What is the age range for which The Total Transformation® is designed to be used?

A: Total Transformation is a valuable resource for parents of children of any age, because it provides guidelines to help you develop the most effective and productive parenting style for any given situation. Although it is recommended for children ages 5 to 18, you may see immediate results with children of any age. By the time a “typical” child reaches the age of 5, all of the concepts in Total Transformation would apply to him or her. As your child grows, you’ll see the added benefit of the advanced features of the program. Each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for yours.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® work with children with medical diagnoses?

A: James and Janet Lehman designed Total Transformation as a powerful tool for parents—a tool that also supports behavior therapy goals at home. The best way to see if the program will be helpful in your specific situation is to try the program in your home, along with the support and guidance of your mental health and medical treatment professionals. Various factors may affect whether the techniques are effective with a particular child, including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s setting/environment, and the parent’s skill in applying the techniques.

Note: Total Transformation is not designed to deal with children who have severe psychological disorders or medical conditions that impair their communications or problem solving skills. Children who exhibit signs of dangerous behavior, either to themselves or others, should be placed under the care of a qualified professional. Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue such care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication. You should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: How can I get in touch with James Lehman?

A: Unfortunately, James Lehman passed away in May of 2010 after a long illness. His legacy lives on in The Total Transformation® family of products for parents, and on Empowering Parents, where you can still read his articles. His wife, child behavior therapist and co-creator of the program, Janet Lehman, MSW, continues James’ work to teach the principles of The Total Transformation® Program to families, and in her popular articles on Empowering Parents.

Cost & What’s Included in The Total Transformation® Program

Q: How much does The Total Transformation® cost?

A: Total Transformation retails at $327. Our goal is to make it accessible and affordable for any family in need of an effective program that can be practiced in the privacy of their home, so we provide unique incentives and promotions periodically.

If you would like to place an order or have further questions, please call Customer Service at 1-800-258-4315, Monday through Friday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. EST.

Q: Do you ship internationally?

A: We do ship internationally. Total Transformation cost is $327 plus $25 for shipping and processing. All prices quoted are in U.S. currency. Upon receipt of the order, we will bill $352 to the credit card provided and will then ship the entire program to you. We do ask that you allow up to 30 days for the shipment to arrive. We also ask that you please contact us once your package arrives to confirm receipt. If you have any questions or would like to place an order, please call Customer Service at 011-207-856-5600, Monday through Friday, 9:00am to 5:00pm EST.

Q: What comes with The Total Transformation®?

A: The following items are included in The Total Transformation® Program:

  •  The Jump Start Audio Lesson (CD)
  •  7 Audio Lessons (on 7 CDs)
  •  Bonus Audio – The One Minute Transformation (CD)
  •  Parenting Seminar Video (DVD)
  •  118-page Workbook
Each lesson in the workbook is broken down into three sections: a pre-test, with objectives and materials to go along with the audio lesson; specific “action steps,” a section on what to expect when implementing the lesson; and finally, a note from James Lehman, using real-life examples to illustrate how the specific technique has helped parents and children in similar situations.
The workbook will take you step-by-step through each lesson. There is also space for you to write your plans, reminders to keep you on track, and even reminder cards. These reminder cards are for you to tear out and use throughout your day to keep you focused on exactly what to say and do—and how to say and do it.

The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.”  James LehmanJames Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

“Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.”

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