The Calm Parent AM & PM™

5 Audio Lessons (+ 1 Bonus CD), 113-page Workbook

4.6 out of 5 based on 114 customer ratings
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Remaining calm is a universal challenge for parents, especially when managing defiant and aggressive kids. While you can’t just “will” yourself to be calm when your child is pushing your buttons, you can learn to stay calm in the most emotional situations with your child. The Calm Parent AM & PM gives you realistic solutions to help you keep your sanity and become a more effective parent.

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  1. 5 out of 5

    The Calm Parent

    I am a grandparent as well as a Nanny and it has helped tremendously. It is still hard and I have to think about the program before I react, but I know that by being calmer and not arguing with the children, it does work. I am giving them the responsibility to make their own choices and then they will More have to deal with the consequences. This program is work in progress. I do see better results with the children.
  2. 3 out of 5

    Knowing your child's needs

    I purchased the program because I was not in control and I believed that trickled down to my child. But, the result was simply that I didn't understand my child's needs. Now, I do to a much greater extent. We are both more in control from use of the program's techniques.
  3. 4 out of 5

    What a difference!

    I started using the Calm Parent program as a supplement to the Total Transformation program. I had a knack for flying off the handle when disputes would arise, which is neither good for me or my children. Following the lessons and taking the time to fill out the exercises in the workbook, along with More using the tools I learned with The Calm Parent has made significant changes in our household. I no longer hold on to the emotional aspect of anger when a dispute arises, I let go of the "why" I feel angry, re-adjust my perspective and focus only on how we will come to a calm and concise conclusion. I would recommend the use of The Calm Parent Am & PM as a stand alone guide, as well an accompanying program to the Total Transformation - The title is simple, and it works! We now have conversations instead of arguments - we get to the source of the conflict and we all walk away calm. AMAZING!
  4. 3 out of 5

    Calm Parent Review

    The overall objective of this program makes sense. I purchased the program to better help me deal with my son who is defiant at every turn. The Calm Parent is logical however is easier said than done. In order for it to work you have to be willing to operate with grace and keep starting over with the More Calm Parent intention in mind. I have had the program almost two months not quite. I have not seen any changes in my son however my guilt has gone down dramatically which helps me to think more clearly with him. Once I'm calm I know I didn't do anything fir him to respond to which means that I am closer to getting to the root of the problem.
  5. 4 out of 5

    Great parenting tool

    A therapist once told me I needed to create a space between my child and I when I am angry. I had no idea what that meant and didn't know how to do that. I listened to the calm parent CDs and did the workbook and guess what? I found the tools to create that space. My relationship with my son has improved More immensely and our household is more calm. I'm so glad I ordered the CDs and did the work.
  6. 5 out of 5


    I titled my review as Really beacause that was my reaction to being able to calm myself and deescalate the situation. My child and nephews really responded well to the program! I really enjoyed it myself, I found myself yelling less and staying more calm!
  7. 5 out of 5

    Calm Parent = A More calm child with practice

    Having raised three children of my own, and having experienced many of the journies that the parents, program managers,counselors, educators and any others who have been engaged in the battle can attest to having and facing that pure feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. I searched for answers from More other parents, from psychologist, psychiatrist and any one else that would listen. I had been hearing about this on and I can truly say after investigation of the program on televsion that I am a satisfied patron. Why you ask? It is simple. The applications work. Many thank yous to the writers and implementors of The Calm Parent. How very important this information, the tools present here are
  8. 5 out of 5

    Changing how we interact with our son

    I would like to suggest that all parents get this program. It has changed the way that my wife and I talk with our fifteen year old son. We are calmer now and can separate our responses from our normal way of dealing with him. Great product happy that I brought it.
  9. 5 out of 5

    Happier overall

    We wanted the Total Transformation and the Calm Parent Programs to help us deal with a 15 year old sibling/sibling in-law (18 year age difference) and to prep us as we move to adopt. The Calm Parent Program not only helped us to relate much better with our challenging teen aged loved, but has helped More us to relate better to one another! We highly recommend this program.
  10. 5 out of 5

    Once was out of control and now I am calm

    The calm parent CDs has gave me peace when dealing with my teenager. I can use the STOP which give you time to think and calm your self down before encountering any conflict that has in the past been a real big issue in my home. Thinking about where I want my relationship to be with my teen in the future More is very important to me and it help me to stay in my own box and let him grow and learn in his box from his own mistakes. I highly recommend the am and pm calm parent CDs to every home and I truly believe that you can't go wrong. Thank you for letting me share.
  11. 4 out of 5

    Calmer with my own parent

    I purchased the book to try out some of the techniques with my students. The great part about the book was it even gave me tips on working with my parent. Being able to understand the thinking behind your thinking is such a wonderful tool. I hope to find some parents who are willing to walk with me through More the program! If I do I will be back to purchase more workbooks!
  12. 5 out of 5

    calm yourself

    I was having a hard time with teen age daughter. after listening to calm parent it help me understand that out is not just het behaviors that affect the house but she could read some of the tensions I was having and it would not help the situation. I needed to realise that I was being part of the problem More that I was unintentionally causing some issues by not dealing with my own emotions before trying to work with hers.
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  14. 5 out of 5

    yelling vs being calm

    My wife and i had been trying to figure out for the longest time on how we could get our kids to listen, stop fighting, show respect, back talking, we found it through this program, it works, its hard not to yell at them when all they would like to do is back talk and not listen, we've been using the More program for three weeks now and the difference in the response from our kids is phenomenal, we personally would recommend this program to anyone that is having any difficulty coping with odd behavior from their kids
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Product Features:

  • 3 Calm Parenting Audio Lessons on CD
  • 1 AM Audio Lesson CD
  • 1 PM Audio Lesson CD
  • Bonus Audio Lesson CD: “The Instant Calm Down”
  • 113-page Workbook

Keep your cool, and your sanity.

If it were easy, every parent would be cool, calm and collected in the face of their child’s anger. Just remember that it is doable. This program shows you exactly how to respond to your child in a calm way, especially in stressful day-to-day situations.

Move beyond being reactive.

  • Respond calmly when your child pushes your buttons
  • Don’t allow the adrenaline of anxiety overtake you
  • Separate from the anxiety and be more effective
  • Stop taking your child’s misbehavior personally
  • End the anger, resentment and embarrassment about your child’s attitude and behavioral outbursts

In this program, you’ll learn:

  • Why, like most parents, you react to your child
  • What’s been missing in your attempts to stay calm with your child
  • How to recognize your reactivity and understand it
  • What your specific triggers are
  • How to separate emotionally from your child’s behavior and think more rationally
  • Techniques you can use in the moment to not lose control
  • Boundaries to set with your child that let you remain calm and teach him responsibility
  • How to apply the calming process in everyday morning and evening scenarios

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Our professional staff of 1-on-1 Coaches is here to help guide you through your learning program. Many have experienced parenting challenges firsthand, and offer a fresh and knowledgeable perspective.

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Q: My child's behavior is so bad! Can I really become more calm by listening to this program?

A: In short, yes. The author, Debbie Pincus, has years of experience helping parents to respond more effectively to a child’s acting-out behavior, rather than reacting out of frustration or anxiety. The techniques described in The Calm Parent can be applied to most parenting situations you may encounter, from mild disrespect to more outright defiance and noncompliance.

Q: I have both The Total Transformation® Program and The Calm Parent AM & PM. Which program should I start with?

A: Both programs can be helpful in changing the relationship between you and your child. Starting with The Total Transformation Program can assist you in addressing your child’s inappropriate, acting-out behavior. The program will give you step-by-step tools to start making changes in your family. The Calm Parent AM & PM can help you with changing your own reactions to your child’s behavior, such as yelling at your child, giving your child the silent treatment, or simply feeling overwhelmed with his/her behavior.

Meet Debbie Pincus

Debbie PincusFor over 25 years, Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC, has offered therapy and coaching to individuals, couples and parents, helping them heal their relationships using Bowen Family Systems Theory. Debbie is the creator of The Calm Parent AM & PM, and has authored numerous books for children and young adults on interpersonal relationships.

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