For more than 25 years, noted psychotherapist Debbie Pincus has offered effective, compassionate therapy and coaching in the Greater New York area. As an expert in calm parenting, one of her strengths is helping parents cope with anxiety in the face of disappointment, frustration and anger at their children’s behavior.
Debbie leads parent groups through Greenwich Hospital and The Relationship Center. She is the founder and Executive Director of The Relationship Center. She serves on the Board of the Larchmont/Mamaroneck Counseling Center and writes online articles for EmpoweringParents.com.
Debbie lives in Westchester County, NY with her husband and three grown children.
Her post-graduate training was at the Gestalt Institute of New York and the Bowen Family Institute of Georgetown.
She is also trained in cognitive-behavioral and dialectic behavioral therapy.
She is a certified Screamfree Parent and Marriage Coach.
A Word from Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC
“I will help you to develop your capacity to stay connected to those who matter to you, while maintaining your sense of well being. You will learn ways to reduce your anxiety and reactivity, become aware of the role you play in your problematic interactions, and become more successful in resolving conflicts and talking to one another.”
Why is it so hard to motivate kids? As parents, we often have a funny, inaccurate belief that our children won’t care unless we twist their arms. But the simple truth is that your attempts to motivate your child are probably working against you.
There’s something wrong with the picture if you care more about your... Read more »
How do you motivate a child who doesn't seem to want to do his school work? As parents, we are invested in our child’s academic life because we know how important it is for their future. Our kids should be motivated to do well. After all, it's in their own interest to do well. Nevertheless,... Read more »
Have you ever noticed that when things aren’t going right, particularly with your kids, your knee-jerk reaction is to do more of something—not less? If they are not listening to you, you most likely raise your voice, rather than lower it. If they are struggling with something difficult, you jump in with loads of ideas,... Read more »
Why is it so easy to go from “zero to 60” when our kids make us angry? There are many reasons, but I think it’s mainly because we allow ourselves to go to 60. And in a sense, when we get up to 60—when we react emotionally—we’re allowing the behavior of our kids to determine... Read more »
Most couples have experienced this situation at one time or another—you think you should discipline your child a certain way, and your spouse wants to handle it differently. You each become entrenched in your position, and that’s when the fighting starts.
At some point, most couples will argue over how to discipline their children. After all,... Read more »
Calm Parenting—most of us aspire to it, desire it, and even promise ourselves we’re going to do it—but it’s so difficult to sustain. We know how important it is to parent from our principles rather than from our fears, but despite our best intentions we lose it and end up yelling at those we love... Read more »
Feeling underappreciated goes with the territory of parenting. As a mom, how many times have you wished for more acknowledgement for all you do—from your children, your mate or society? And how many times have you been disappointed when you didn’t see or feel that acknowledgement and encouragement coming back to you?
It might be a... Read more »
If you are estranged from your adult child, if your child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. When your child cuts you out of her life it provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn... Read more »
If your child is struggling—socially, academically or behaviorally—he is probably getting a lot of your attention right now. So much attention, in fact, that you may feel like you have nothing left for yourself at the end of the day. Working, taking your child to tutoring or counseling, running back to school to pick up... Read more »
“Mom, he just called me a bad name.”
“I did not, you liar!”
“He did too, Mom, and he always does; you just never see it!”
“Get lost, you brat; you’re such a baby!”
“I hate you!”
Siblings bicker; it’s what they do. They tease and taunt and fight. It can drive parents crazy and wear us down—and for good... Read more »