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Parenting Articles about Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Does your child have Oppositional Defiant Disorder? You don't have to walk on eggshells around your child with ODD anymore. You've come to the right place, because Empowering Parents has articles and advice from the country's top experts to help you manage oppositional, defiant children.
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I Hate School! What Can I Do When My Child Refuses to Go to School?

I Hate School! What Can I Do When My Child Refuses to Go to School?

If you’re like most parents, you probably take the responsibility of getting your kids to school very seriously and get angry and frustrated when they refuse to go. This can easily turn into a power struggle if you feel this is a “battle” you have to “win.” It’s all too easy to react to your own anxiety and emotions about the situation rather than acting in a well-planned, effective way that will get you (and your child) where they want to be.

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Does Your Child Challenge Authority? 4 Things Parents Can Do

Does Your Child Challenge Authority? 4 Things Parents Can Do

Does it ever feel like your child or teenager has an answer for everything—and usually takes the exact opposite position on what you’ve just said? Many kids struggle with authority, and have trouble following limits or rules, complying with requests and or generally are disrespectful to others in society. Some wear their defiance on their sleeves and are angry in their refusal (How dare you tell me what to do?!). Others are more subtle and simply “dig their heels in.”

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Is Your Child Engaging in Delinquent Behavior? 4 Ways to Manage It

Is Your Child Engaging in Delinquent Behavior? 4 Ways to Manage It

It seems whenever you turn on any news program there’s a frightening story about today’s youth: violence, vandalism, risky behavior and outright refusal to follow parental or societal rules. The fact is there have always been a certain number of people – youth and adults – who engage in criminal behavior, since the beginning of time. In our world of technology, we hear and see it more. A teenager committing a violent act today is likely to end up on YouTube. But what about the parents who hear the stories and think, “That could be my kid” or “Will that be my kid in a few years”?

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No Such Thing as a Bad Apple: Fix the Behavior, Not the Kid

No Such Thing as a Bad Apple: Fix the Behavior, Not the Kid

How many times has this gone through your head? Your “difficult” child—the defiant one who’s constantly acting out and upsetting everyone—has just done it again. Maybe he’s called his little sister a foul name, smashed your favorite framed family photo, or screamed in your face. In a moment of defeat, you think, “What if there’s no hope? What if he’s just a ‘bad seed’—the bad apple of the family?”

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Angry Kids: 7 Things Not to Do When Your Child is Angry

Angry Kids: 7 Things Not to Do When Your Child is Angry

Stop and think for a moment: When your child or teen is in the throes of a tantrum or an all-out rage, what is your initial reaction? Do you get angry yourself and start yelling, do you freeze and say nothing, or do you become frightened and give in? Maybe your answer is even, “All of the above, depending on the day!” You are not alone. Dealing with childhood anger and explosive rage is one of the toughest things we are faced with as parents. Not only is it hard to do effectively, it’s exhausting and can easily make you feel defeated, even if you don’t lose your cool.

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9 Ways to Get Though The Holidays with a Defiant Child

9 Ways to Get Though The Holidays with a Defiant Child

Do you have a picture of what the holidays should look like? Most of us do whether we admit it or not. When the reality doesn’t match the expectation you have in your head, it feels awful. Parents of acting-out kids know this firsthand, because the reality so often doesn’t match their expectation.

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When They Don’t Leave at 18: Parenting an Adult Child with ODD

When They Dont Leave at 18: Parenting an  Adult Child with ODD

There’s a calendar date parents of Oppositional Defiant kids often cling to: the 18th Birthday. That magical day when your child becomes an adult and you are no longer responsible for him — at least not legally. Sure, you’ll still be his parent. But things will be different! No more power struggles, disrespect or refusal to follow the rules. No more embarrassment over the way he behaves or the choices he makes. No more feelings of shame, disappointment or anger about the relationship. He’ll be an adult and out on his own. If he doesn’t like the rules of your house, then he just needs to move out!

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4 Ways to Handle Back to School Behavior Problems with Your ODD Child

4 Ways to Handle Back to School Behavior Problems with Your ODD Child

The start of every school year brings all sorts of images to mind: shopping for clothes and school supplies, getting back into a routine of dinner and bedtimes that may have become relaxed during summer, and relief from arguing siblings who have been stuck together 24/7 for the past three months. Many parents are relieved when school starts up again, but for parents of Oppositional Defiant (ODD) kids, this is often a time of anxiety and even dread.

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My ODD Child is Physically Abusive to Siblings and Parents—Help!

My ODD Child is Physically Abusive to Siblings and Parents—Help!

Recently, there have been several stories in the news about violence in children and what can—and should—be done about it. A five-year-old boy was taken out of his Kindergarten class in handcuffs in Indiana, and the same thing happened to a six-year-old girl in Louisiana. Talk shows and the news media have been hosting shows on whether or not a parent should ever call the police on their own child. Everyone seems to have an opinion—usually a strong one—about the “right” way to handle a child or adolescent who is violent toward others, particularly family members. There’s no behavior—with the exception of substance abuse or self-harm—that frightens parents as much as a child’s physical aggression.

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Defiant Child Behavior: Is Your Child's Bad Behavior Escalating?

Defiant Child Behavior: Is Your Child's Bad Behavior Escalating?

Before you had kids, you probably expected your child to misbehave at times. Children test limits and parents respond with consequences. It comes with the territory of having kids. What you probably didn't expect was that someday — despite your best parenting efforts — your child would not only refuse to respond to your discipline, but the behavior would actually worsen over time.

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Young Kids with ODD: Is It Oppositional Defiance Disorder or Just Bratty Behavior?

Young Kids with ODD: Is It Oppositional Defiance Disorder or Just Bratty Behavior?

What should you do when your child is behaving in a way that is clearly beyond bratty or what most of us would call “typical?” How do you know if your child’s behavior has moved into Oppositional Defiant Disorder? How young is too young to diagnose ODD?

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Is Your Defiant Child Damaging or Destroying Property?

Is Your Defiant Child Damaging or Destroying Property?

Kicking holes in the wall. Breaking and throwing things. Smashing in the windshield on your car. Most of us never expect to face these behaviors from our children, and certainly not when our child is “old enough to know better.” If you have a child who purposely destroys family property out of anger or spiteful, vengeful reasons, you naturally feel a variety of hurtful and negative emotions. It feels like a punch in the stomach.

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When ODD Kids, Entitlement Mentality and Verbal Abuse Collide

When ODD Kids, Entitlement Mentality and Verbal Abuse Collide

Over the years, as technology has evolved and material things have become more readily available, our society has developed a strong sense of “the wants.” In this modern world, we don’t like to wait for things like computers, cars and houses—delayed gratification is a thing of the past. Our children have embraced this sense of entitlement likes ducks to water; most of them have grown up with it from the time they were born. They often expect that they will get what they want (not necessarily what they need) when they want it. Their attitude seems to be one of, “What do you mean I need to earn things like a cell phone, expensive clothes or an iPod? I deserve them, simply because I’m here!With their low frustration tolerance, poor coping skills and tendency to react impulsively, ODD kids are especially prone to the belief that parents are here to meet all of their desires. Faced with disappointment or the prospect of not getting what they want, an attack of verbal abuse (swearing, name-calling, yelling, intimidating, threatening, belittling or demeaning) may erupt that can leave parents feeling as if they’ve been hit by a tsunami and wondering what just happened.

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Parenting ODD Children and Teens: How to Make Consequences Work

Parenting ODD Children and Teens: How to Make Consequences Work

Does it ever seem as if you’ve tried every parenting approach out there, only to find that nothing works with your child? Kids who exhibit behaviors of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, angry and disappointed. It often seems like nothing matters to them, which can make it hard for you to know how to respond to their behavior and what consequences to give. Kim Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner are child and family therapists who have worked with parents of kids with Oppositional Defiant Disorder for 20 years—and Kim is also the parent of an adult child with ODD. They’re also the creators of The ODD Lifeline, a new program that offers real help and hope to parents of children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder.

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