Last week a comment from a reader caught our attention and sparked a discussion among the coaches here.
Our reader shared that she likes to take advantage of “car time” with her teenage daughter on the way to school. For this family, car rides can sometimes be a calm time to discuss topics small and large.
We say “communication” instead of “conversation” because many times it might be you explaining something to your child, not asking for feedback or answers. You could be explaining a ground rule, a boundary or appropriate versus inappropriate behavior. Other times it might be a back and forth with more connection involved. Either way, finding a calm time is important and challenging.
So much of what we talk about on our site, and in our programs, advises not to act or try and solve problems with your child in the heat of the moment, when emotions are high. We encourage parents to step away and reengage when things are calm. But when is that moment?
This made us stop and think about our own versions of “car time” with our families. We found that as a group, we also use many different opportunities for calm family talk. Cooking is one. Playing sports and going for walks were also high on the list.
Do you see a pattern of calm in your family? Are there times each day or week when you can communicate with your kids? And, if needed, address a larger issue?
In today’s fast-paced world, it can be a challenge to find calm times. You might try creating a reason for a drive, a walk or something that clears space for you and your family.
We’d love to hear your thoughts or any ideas you have on creating calm space for your family.
Wishing you peace this week,
The Empowering Parents Coaching Team