The Us Factor™

12 Video Lessons (+1 Bonus DVD), 282-page Workbook

4.92 out of 5 based on 12 customer ratings
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It’s normal for couples to drift apart over time, especially when they lack the skills they need to stay connected. Us Factor shows you and your partner how to build on what’s right in your relationship, rediscover excitement and intimacy, and learn simple ways to work through your most challenging problems.

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the us factor program helps solve marital problems in the privacy of your own home
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  1. Admin

    5 out of 5

    The US Factor is very affirming

    The US Factor is very affirming. It’s very positive and emphasizes noticing the strengths, noticing what’s going well, and how to build on that. There’s no downside to it. It’s just really cool.
  2. Admin

    5 out of 5

    The US Factor makes us a unit

    The Us Factor is deeper than couples counseling, it finds a pattern that you have in the relationship and brings it to your awareness. We did a couple of counseling sessions, and it was almost like you’re looking for validation as “it’s his issue” or “it’s his stuff” or “It’s my stuff.” More The US Factor makes us a unit. It makes it “our stuff” and what we are contributing to each other. It unites us.
  3. Admin

    5 out of 5

    We’re feeling enriched, closer, I wouldn’t have thought we could have gotten closer, but we have...a beautiful experience.
  4. 5 out of 5

    The US Factor gave us an Opportunity to Talk to Each

    The US Factor gave us an opportunity to talk to each, understand each other’s place in our relationship and how we can communicate better…and understand how we can both complete our conversations so we both feel satisfied.
  5. 5 out of 5

    US Factor has helped me feel closer

    My experience with the US Factor has helped me feel closer to Elizabeth.
  6. 5 out of 5

    showed us how to bond again

    Our lives are so busy, the intimacy got lost and we started drifting apart. Joe got us back in touch with how to communicate with each other effectively and compassionately. He showed us how to bond again. We’re more open with each other now. We’re more of a team.
  7. I feel energized!

    I feel energized. The US Factor Program was very powerful, and I’m walking away with tools that I think we’ll be able to use forever.
  8. 5 out of 5

    Expectations were met, plus some

    All of my expectations of the US Factor were met, and then a couple of plusses
  9. 5 out of 5

    US factor: Helping to turn our marriage around

    After ten years of growing conflict, dissonance and distance - after two year-long commitments to therapy and many failed efforts to initate our own self-help program through books, the US factor is clearly helping us get a handle on toxic patterns of behavior that have sabotaged our marriage for years. More The "3rd party" approach (watching others with problems similar to ours)seems to be the key. Rather than get defensive as we each would when something was pointed out about either of us directly, this allows us to see ourselves and the mistakes we make more as a "witness" rather than a perpetrator. It's been very effective so far. We are now on lesson 6. We do one a week.
  10. 4 out of 5


    Helpful. The actual sessions with the couples were the most useful.The programs gave me some insight into issues that have grown over time between my wife and I.Now if I could only get her to start using the programs. It's a work in progress.
  11. 5 out of 5

    Initial Feedback

    So far my wife and I have been very pleased with the program. We've spend 3 years in and a lot of money on therapy with only marginal improvement to show for it all. This program seems to get at the heart of our issues - putting yourself in the shoes of your partner and knowing how to communicate in More a way that each partner is heard and appreciated for their position. We have both found the use of real couples to be one of the best aspects of the DVDs (if they are not real couples, they're phenomenal actors). Watching others repeating the same mistakes and subsequently working successfully through their issues provides a lot of encouragement. Moreover, it's pretty apparent to see these couples become more engaged with and 're-attracted' to one another as they learn to shed old habits. Check back in 2 months.
  12. 5 out of 5


    Dr. Melnick, I only wish that you practiced near to us. Your gentle yet firm way of counseling is like nothing that we have been able to find here. The one thing that many people don't factor in when trying to repair/recue a marriage is that financially it is difficult to keep going to a counselor. More Your program helped us work on "US" in the privacy of our own home as well as for a cost that was much less than we had been...or should I put "I" had been paying for a counselor. My husband was hesitant to go to a counselor because he is a business man in our small town and didn't really want to have anyone knowing that we were seeing help. He wanted help but, as many people are, he was embarassed. This was the perfect solution. It is also great because you can go back and refer to areas that you wanted to revisit when they were pertinent. We have found it very helpful. It also was helpful to see other couples and not feel like we were the "only ones". I would, and have, recommended it to others. Thank you.
  13. Admin

    5 out of 5

    I wasn’t seeing in a clear way

    The process of going through the US Factor enabled me to soften any guards that I had. It allowed me to be with my vulnerability in a different space, to be available with kindness, to be more available to the love that was always there and that maybe I wasn’t seeing in a clear way. I was seeing it More in maybe a defensive way. So I think we leave with more of an “us” rather than a “you and me.” And it’s a loving and kind us.
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Product Features: 

  • 12 Lessons on DVD
  • Bonus Lesson DVD
  • 282-page Workbook

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love takes skills.

No one ever teaches us the skills to be successful in a relationship. No wonder we get scared when we start feeling bored, distant or dissatisfied with our partner. Remember, problems like resentment, distance, boredom and lack of communication are normal. All you need are practical solutions to the most common and difficult relationship problems.

Stop blaming and start connecting:

  • No more feeling like you’re doing something wrong
  • Stop bad habits and blame from taking over
  • Truly connect with one another again
  • Rediscover your attraction for each other

In this program, you’ll learn:

  • The key skills for a good relationship
  • How to become aware of habits in your relationship
  • Ways to work through boredom, trust issues, resentment and constant arguing
  • The secret to ending broken promises and disappointment
  • Ways to trust your partner again
  • New moves to spark attraction
  • How to rekindle love, intimacy and excitement

Q: How does the program work?

A: The Us Factor uses a multi-tiered approach designed to help you learn about yourself and your partner. You will see dramatizations of Dr. Melnick working with couples through common issues in relationships. Dr. Melnick explains the theory behind the techniques in the program. You will learn how to start making changes in the way that you interact with your partner through workbook exercises that will help you to apply what you are learning.

Q: Do both partners have to participate in this program?

A: The program is designed so that you can achieve change in your relationship whether you are using it on your own or with your partner. If your partner is not yet willing to watch and use this program with you, that’s common. You can begin to learn about the program techniques and you can make some changes to your own ways of interacting with your partner. Once you commit to these changes, your partner will change in response to you.

Q: What's the difference between this program and couples counseling?

A: The Us Factor was created to teach couples techniques to build awareness of each other, strengthen their communication with each other, and to find new ways of connecting to each other. This program can be done at a time that works for you and at your own pace in the privacy of your own home.

Q: Will this program help us to address abuse or substance use?

A: The Us Factor is an educational program. It is not psychotherapy or counseling, and is not designed to replace it. If there is physical abuse, sexual abuse, alcoholism, or substance abuse in your relationship, or if there are serious psychological problems, then it is important to contact local resources such as your physician, therapist, clergy or legal authorities.


Joseph Melnick, PhD

Dr. Joseph MelnickDr. Joseph Melnick has worked as a couples and family therapist for over 25 years. He’s taught worldwide and is co-editor of Gestalt Review, published by the Gestalt International Study Center. Joe is author of numerous articles and books on intimacy, ethics, and organizational development. He is the creator of Us Factor and Hope, Forgiveness, and Love.