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Lying

When we catch children in a lie, we naturally feel betrayed, hurt, angry and frustrated. We may feel scared about what this means for our child’s future. Sometimes we may feel like we can never trust our child again.  But here’s the truth: lying is normal. It's wrong and goes against our values, but telling a lie to get out of a challenging situation or to get something doesn’t necessarily mean that your child is headed for deep trouble. Lying is actually a faulty problem–solving skill. It’s our job as parents to teach our children how to solve those problems in more constructive ways. We can also teach our children the natural consequences that occur when they choose to lie. Lying is a challenging issue to address, but there are effective things you can do as a parent to address it. For understanding why kids lie and how to handle it when they do, we suggest the following articles/blog posts. Below that is a full listing of our articles and posts on lying. How to Deal with Lying in Children and Teens Why Kids Tell Lies And What To Do About It

How to Talk to Your Child About Lying

When your child lies to you, it stirs up a potent mix of emotions. You might feel angry, hurt and offended all at once. Lying is extremely upsetting for parents because it shakes the foundation of trust we have in our child. So it’s understandable and normal if you have an emotional reaction to lying—whether... Read more »

Kids and Lying: Does Your Child Twist the Truth?

You: “You failed your biology test? You said you studied!” Your child: “Well, I forgot my books at school the night before the test. It wasn’t my fault!” You: “Why didn’t you tell me? I’m so tired of your lies.” When your child lies to you, whether she does it by telling a half–truth ... Read more »

How to Deal with Lying in Children and Teens

When you catch your child in a lie, it’s natural to feel betrayed, hurt, angry and frustrated. But here’s the truth: lying is normal. It's wrong, but it's normal. In fact, we all do it to some degree. Consider how adults use lies in their daily lives: When we’re stopped for speeding, we often minimize... Read more »

Why Kids Tell Lies And What To Do About It

Q: When your child lies to you, it hurts. As parents, it makes us angry and we take it personally. We feel like we can never trust our child again. Why does lying cause such anger, pain and worry for parents? James: Parents are understandably very afraid of their children getting hurt and getting into trouble,... Read more »