Janet Lehman has worked with troubled children and teens for over 30 years. She is a social worker who has held a variety of positions during her career, including juvenile probation officer, case manager, therapist and program director for 22 years in traditional residential care and in group homes for difficult children. She specializes in child behavior issues — ranging from anger management and oppositional defiance to more serious criminal behavior in teens.
Janet graduated with a BA in Sociology from Farleigh Dickinson University in New Jersey, and received her Master’s in Social Work from the University of West Virginia.
A Word from Janet Lehman, MSW
“My goal for Total Transformation is the same every year- reach more families, provide great advice, and create positive and sustainable change for families. We want to be effective, accessible, and affordable for everyone. Equally as important is to remove the stigma for asking for assistance in managing behavioral health whether it is for a child, a spouse, sibling, or anyone that you care about.”
"Being consistent is the hardest thing of all," many parents tell us. And it's so true—it’s easy to lay down a rule and then let it slide when you’re tired or in a hurry. In this article, Janet Lehman explains why consistency is the key to your child’s behavior—and tells you ways to keep on... Read more »
Your child: “Everyone else is going to the party. Why can’t I?”
You: “I don’t care what ‘everyone else’ is doing. You can’t go and that’s final.”
Your child: “Why are you so mean? You never let me do anything. I hate you!”
Do you ever wonder if your rules are too strict—or too lenient? When is it... Read more »
Establishing curfews, and holding your children to them, can often feel daunting, whether it’s because you know your child will challenge it or because you know you will experience some anxiety as you let your older teen stay out later as they get older.
Here are 6 tips that will help you be more comfortable and... Read more »
Have things become so difficult with your teen that you’re considering sending him to a boot camp? You’re not alone.
Many people first find Empowering Parents and The Total Transformation® Program when they are searching the web or information on behavioral boot camps for teens. It’s not unusual to reach the point where you consider... Read more »
“It’s not fair! You’re always yelling at me, even when it’s not my fault!”
Sound familiar? The minute you say no, or set limits, or try to enforce the rules, your child immediately says that you’re not being fair and that you always pick on him. He overreacts constantly to routine requests and takes no responsibility... Read more »
Does this sound familiar?
“Stop hitting your sister. If you don’t stop, you’ll have to go to your room.”
“You can’t tell me what to do!”
“I most certainly can! Now get to your room…or else.”
Backtalk can be terribly aggravating to parents, often evoking a strong emotional response. It feels hurtful and disrespectful, and we just want it... Read more »
Do your kids make you feel like an ogre when you set limits? Does the word “no” kick off whining, yelling and protests? How many times have you heard your nine-year-old say something like:
“That’s not fair! Brandon’s mom lets him watch Sons of Anarchy!” Or does this sound familiar: “Jessica’s dad lets her stay... Read more »
Even as adults, managing our anger can be hard, and we’ve had years of practice. For our children, who are just learning about their emotions, keeping their anger in check can be especially difficult. Kids can easily lash out at people who make them angry or situations that frustrate them: name-calling when they lose a... Read more »
As parents, many of us do things for our kids that we were able and expected to do for ourselves when we were children. Our parents didn’t often feel the need to negotiate with our sports coach, solve our every problem, or entertain us in our free time. A big difference from... Read more »
Being a mother or father is a balance of taking care of your kids while letting them grow up and learn from their mistakes.
Your role of simply loving and protecting your baby from pain and discomfort changes to one of accepting that your child or teen will need to experience natural consequences for his... Read more »