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Sibling Rivalry

Are you tired of the constant fighting and arguing that comes with sibling rivalry? If so, you're not alone. Sibling rivalry is one of the most common issues we encounter at Empowering Parents. From name-calling and teasing to verbal abuse and aggression, it’s no wonder many parents feel frustrated. Why can't everyone just get along? There is another way to look at this. Try and see sibling rivalry as an opportunity for kids to practice using skills like negotiation, compromise and respectful disagreement. If you are able to step back, it gives your children a chance to use effective conflict resolution skills. Of course, it is appropriate to intervene if their fighting becomes abusive or bullying. Here you'll find articles that can help teach your children how to resolve their own disagreements, so you don't have to play referee. Siblings at War in Your Home? (Declare a Ceasefire Now!) 6 Ways to Stop Sibling Bickering and Rivalry The Lost Children: When Behavior Problems Traumatize Siblings

6 Ways to Stop Sibling Bickering and Rivalry

“Mom, he just called me a bad name.” “I did not, you liar!” “He did too, Mom, and he always does; you just never see it!” “Get lost, you brat; you’re such a baby!” “I hate you!” Siblings bicker; it’s what they do. They tease and taunt and fight. It can drive parents crazy and wear us down—and for good... Read more »

Kids Fighting? Read This Before Summer Starts

Why are our kids often at each other’s throats in the summer? The biggest cause of fighting during the long summer break is the fact that you’re spending a whole lot of time together. If external stresses increase—if there’s trouble at work, a bad break–up for one of your teens, or you’re caring... Read more »

Sibling Rivalry: Good Kid vs. Bad Kid

As an advisor to 1-on-1 Coaching, I frequently hear calls involving sibling rivalry conflicts. An important thing to remember is that sibling rivalry is a normal emotional state in children. Children compete with each other for their parent’s approval and affection. In fact, adult children still can feel competitive about their parents’ attention. One of... Read more »