Does Your Child Say This?
"My Teacher’s an Idiot"
Almost every kid will eventually have a teacher they don’t like, but that’s not an excuse for them to refuse to follow the rules of the classroom. When you side with your children in this scenario, believe it or not, you are actually undermining your own authority in the process. The bottom line is that it’s a mistake to denigrate authority figures with your children, even if you agree with them. Keep the focus on the matter at hand, and off your child’s feelings about their teacher. Read on to see how James Lehman advises you to handle the situation.
“My teacher’s an idiot. I hate her.”
Translation: I don’t like my teacher. Therefore, I don’t have to comply with what she asks me to do.
Ineffective parenting response: “Yeah, she’s really a jerk sometimes. You’ve still got to listen to her, though.”
Effective parenting response: “It doesn’t help to call the teacher names. What can we do to get your work done on time?”
About James Lehman, MSW
James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation® Program, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.