“Help! My Kid Complains Constantly!”

“Help! My Kid Complains Constantly!”

Does your child complain constantly? No matter how hard you try, something is always wrong: from what you made for dinner, to the horrible school you force her to attend, to the unfair rules in your house and everything in between. If you’re like most parents, you’ve tried to point out that things aren’t nearly… Read more »

What to Say to Motivate Your Teenager

What to Say to Motivate Your Teenager

This mom sums up what a lot of people are experiencing: “My child will not take her college applications seriously! She has to take an interest in her grades, her college applications, her test scores. She just blows it off. Why won’t she take this stuff seriously?! It’s HER future!” Sound familiar? You want your… Read more »

4 Ways to Make Natural Consequences Work

4 Ways to Make Natural Consequences Work

At Empowering Parents, we’re often asked about appropriate consequences. But in many cases, the most effective consequences require you to do nothing at all. Most of us learn nicely from our mistakes or missteps. If we drive too fast, we might get a ticket – an expensive lesson. Our children are no different. They learn… Read more »

Coach Advice: Stick to the Facts

Coach Advice: Stick to the Facts

As a coach (and a mother), I remind myself and others to “stick to the facts” when parenting in difficult situations. What do I mean? “Stick to the facts” is shorthand for focusing on your child’s behavior – not the way that behavior makes you and your child feel. How can you make this happen?… Read more »

Build Your Parenting Team

Build Your Parenting Team

Imagine a crowd cheering you on each day as you parent your kids. They encourage you, support you, and maybe take over for a bit when you need a break. As parents, we need all the support we can get. That’s why I talk to parents about “building their team.” Who can be your cheerleaders?… Read more »

Are You Doing Better Than You Think?

Are You Doing Better Than You Think?

It’s easy for parents to skip over some accomplishments and jump right to the next thing – the undone dishes, the afternoon homework battle – but learning to identify and celebrate your family’s success, even if it’s small, can really help to create positive momentum and lead to lasting change. Maybe this is the first… Read more »

Kids Home for Winter Break? Enjoy a Stress-Free Holiday

Kids Home for Winter Break? Enjoy a Stress-Free Holiday

The kids will be home for the holidays soon. You’re trying to stay optimistic, but you can’t shake the feeling that this winter will be like all the rest… The children argue, make messes or spend all their time with friends instead of family. You’re busy breaking up fights and doing extra housework. Whatever happened… Read more »

Parenting Differences Between Partners: Finding Common Ground

Parenting Differences Between Partners: Finding Common Ground

Upon reviewing last month’s credit card statement, you nearly have a heart attack. Clothes, video games, electronics…all charged to your account. You realize it wasn’t you who made the purchases…it was your child. After a few deep breaths, you explain your discovery to your husband. Furious, he insists on teaching your son a lesson by… Read more »

The Importance of Following Through

Waking your kid up for school can be a nightmare. He sleeps in until the last minute. Over breakfast, he fights to stay awake. He’s late to school because he’s “too tired to go.” The whole day starts off on the wrong foot! Exasperated, you try to set limits… “From now on, bedtime starts an… Read more »

What to Do When Nothing Is Working

Some days, parenting is like running through a maze…no matter where you turn, each path feels longer and more tiring than the last. Just as you get closer to a solution, a new obstacle blocks your way. You’ve hit a wall with your child’s behavior. “I’ve tried everything. He’ll never change…I just don’t know what… Read more »