Chronic Negativity in Kids: 4 Survival Tips


Mother holding her hands in front of her face to shield herself from her negative child

Let’s face it, we all have bad days. And sometimes kids seem to have never-ending bad days! Nothing ever seems good enough or makes them happy.

Kids can get stuck in negative patterns, especially during certain stages of development. Here’s how to deal with chronic negativity at home.

1. Know that Negativity is Part of Normal Development

Negativity is normal, especially for toddlers and teenagers. Normal doesn’t make it more pleasant, but it can give you some perspective.

2. You Don’t Have to React Right Now

A negative attitude is very powerful and can draw other people into its orbit. When your child says something negative, choose to ignore them. Don’t give the negativity any more power.

3. Don’t Struggle Against It

No matter how ridiculous or overblown your child’s attitude may seem to you, they have a different perspective. Empathy can go a long way toward helping both of you cope.

4. Find an Outlet

Constant negativity can be frustrating and draining to live with. It’s important to find a way to help yourself feel better.

Acceptance is key to effectively coping with negativity. You can’t force your child to change their attitude; you can only accept where they are right now. It doesn’t mean they will be this way forever. In the meantime, we realize that it’s not easy for you or them.

Remember, it’s not your job to make your child feel a certain way.

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Hang in there, stay strong, and take a break when you need it. Know that we’re here for you.


Denise, Empowering Parents Coach


Denise Rowden is a parent of two adult children and has been a parenting coach since 2011. She has worked in Special Education, Alternative Education and adolescent group homes. She has a BS in Psychology from the University of Southern Maine and is currently working on her Life Coach certification from the International Coach Federation.

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