Getting Through To Your Child™

2 DVDs (103 minutes), 46-page Workbook

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When your child is rude, defiant and verbally abusive, it affects everyone in the family, as well as your child’s development. But it is possible to stop verbal abuse and turn the behavior around. In this program, James Lehman uses parent/child demonstrations to show you the step-by-step, word-for-word way to get kids to look at their abusive language, identify what triggers it, and make better choices next time.

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  1. 5 out of 5

    I Got Through to My Child

    I needed a structured way to approach problem solving with my children. This has worked wonderfully for my children and me.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Another Empowering Parents Program that works

    I got this program because I was still having some lingering issues with disrespect from my teenage daughters. This program explained how to talk to my girls, how to get both sides of an issue out calmly and come to a mutually respectful conclusion. We still have some issues but for the most part, we More can talk thru things.

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Product Features:

  • 2 Instructional DVDs (103 minutes)
  • 46-page Workbook

Yes, behavior can change.

We’ve seen even the most defiant, obnoxious and verbally abusive kids change, time and time again. To achieve these results, you just need to learn the right tools and process for when abusive and defiant behavior kicks in and takes over.

Trade the chaos for calm.

  • End getting flustered at your child’s behavior
  • Break the pattern of yelling and screaming
  • No more reasoning and negotiating
  • Stop groping for words in the moment
  • Never give in to your child’s demands again

In this program, you’ll learn:

  • The 8-step conversation model that works for virtually every behavioral situation
  • Effective ways to stop your child’s verbal abuse
  • How to get to the trigger behind the behavior
  • Ways to deal with the most common problems, such as lying and breaking curfew, out-of-control anger and intimidation, refusal to do homework, bad grades, manipulation, and fighting between siblings
  • A framework to develop more constructive behavior. This program works best when used with the behavior management plan of The Total Transformation® Program.

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When you need guidance through a specific situation, have questions about your program or just need someone to listen when you’re overwhelmed, our professional 1-on-1 Coaches are waiting to help. Each is highly experienced with our range of learning programs, and dedicated to personally motivating and supporting you. Simply call or email and get personalized guidance related to your program. Plus, since 1-on-1 Coaching is an optional service, you can elect to use it as long as you need it.

Our professional staff of 1-on-1 Coaches is here to help guide you through your learning program. Many have experienced parenting challenges firsthand, and offer a fresh and knowledgeable perspective.

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Q: My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will it work for him/her?

A: Yes. Getting Through To Your Child can be helpful for children with these conditions, and was born out of James and Janet Lehman’s approach to working with defiant, oppositional youth to develop more effective problem-solving skills. A good approach for many families is to use the program tools in conjunction with the support of a trusted, qualified, and local professional.

Q: Is there anyone who shouldn't use the program?

A: Children with autism, profound intellectual disabilities, and severe psychiatric disorders that result in an inability to communicate may not benefit from the techniques outlined in Getting Through To Your Child.

The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.”James LehmanJames Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents, One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

“Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.”

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