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Regain control of your child, your family and your life.

You need help in the moment when you are overwhelmed with defiance and bad behavior. You need tools you can use at home to get your child to solve their own problems without acting out. And you need the fighting, screaming and defiance to stop.


Stop disrespect, defiance, backtalk and more with step-by-step parenting tools from renowned child therapist James Lehman, MSW.


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It’s so helpful to understand what’s going on when a child is acting out and how to respond appropriately. Being able to respond appropriately using the tools we learned from the Total Transformation eliminated the feelings of helplessness and frustration. We can now parent with a pro-active approach instead of a reactive approach. We have seen a slow but steady positive change in our daughter since we have been using the Total Transformation.

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Every precept James Lehman teaches about in the Total Transformation program has the ring of truth about it. We recognized lots of things we already “knew,” but which weren’t clear or which we weren’t sure how to go about implementing. I don’t think there was a single issue that we have already faced or will be facing that was not addressed in the TTP. In following this plan, it seems possible for anyone to be able to raise children to be happy and productive members of society.

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The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.” James Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

  • ADHD and School Issues

    Jo-Ann and Kath were looking for ways to help their son Brennan, who is diagnosed with ADHD and Slow Processing Disorder. They recognized that Brennan is talented, creative, and a natural leader, but his tendency to challenge authority and test limits created serious issues at school and at home.

  • Angry Outbursts

    The Bentley family was looking for answers to help 14-year-old Alex manage her anger differently. Her ADHD made it difficult for her to control her behavior when she got frustrated. Outbursts of anger led to slamming doors and disrespect, which left the family feeling disconnected and discouraged.

  • Physical Violence & Disrespect

    Carolyn Nash saw a big change in her son Theo after she and his father divorced. His disrespect led to outbursts of rage and even physical violence. Carolyn tried everything from grounding to counseling, but nothing seemed to work—until The Total Transformation.


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Q: What are the system requirements for the Learning Center?

An Internet connection and your Empowering Parents account username and password are required to log in. For detailed Learning Center instructions, download the Learning Center Usage Guide.

Q: What is The Total Transformation®?

The Total Transformation is a 7-lesson multimedia program that helps parents understand and manage child behavior. Created by renowned child therapists James Lehman, MSW and Janet Lehman, MSW, Total Transformation will teach you how to develop your child’s problem solving skills and create a “Culture of Accountability” in your home, stopping bad behavior for good.

Q: What types of behaviors are covered in The Total Transformation®?

Total Transformation helps parents with specific techniques for fighting and arguing, lying, temper tantrums, talking back, destroying property, picking on siblings, bullying, acting sullen and withdrawn, lack of motivation, risky behavior, and behavior problems in school and in the community.

It’s important to note that the skill-set honed in the program helps build stronger relationships with all children in the family, not only those who have attitude or behavior problems.

Q: What is the age range for Total Transformation®?

The Total Transformation is recommended for children ages 5 to 18, but you may see immediate results with children of any age. By the time a “typical” child reaches the age of 5, all of the concepts in Total Transformation would apply to him or her. As your child grows, you’ll see the added benefit of the advanced features of the program. Each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for yours.

Q: How long will it take to achieve real change in my child’s behavior?

You may see a change in your child’s behavior almost immediately after implementing the program. As families adopt more effective parenting roles, use behavior management techniques and hone problem-solving skills, significant, lasting change can occur.

Q: My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will the program work for him/her?

Yes. Total Transformation was born out of James and Janet Lehman’s decades of experience working with defiant, oppositional youth, many of whom had these diagnoses. A good approach for many families is to use the program tools in conjunction with the support of a trusted, qualified, local professional.

Q: Should I use The Total Transformation® in place of counseling or medication?

Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication, and you should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: Can I use The Total Transformation if I’m a grandparent, mental health professional, counselor, or teacher?

Absolutely. Countless grandparents, teachers, mental health professionals and caregivers use our program on a daily basis. Every adult who interacts with children in a meaningful way can benefit from the concepts and practical ideas presented in Total Transformation.

Empowering Parents also offers 6 Continuing Education Contact Hours that are approved by the National Association of Social Workers as a distance-learning continuing education program. Those interested must successfully complete an exam on The Total Transformation and submit a brief evaluation. We recommend you check with your licensing board to determine if these credits can be useful to you.

If you have purchased The Total Transformation and would like an exam and evaluation sent to you, send an email to

Q: Is there anyone who shouldn’t use Total Transformation®?

Children with autism, profound intellectual disabilities, and severe psychiatric disorders that result in an inability to communicate may not benefit from the techniques outlined in Total Transformation. Their parents, however, may benefit from the concepts taught in the program.

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Q: What if The Total Transformation® doesn’t work for me?

At Empowering Parents, we strive to help you get to what works. If you are not completely satisfied with your program, we offer a 60-day money-back guarantee on all purchases. Simply call us at 1-800-460-2235, Monday – Friday, 9am – 5pm EST within 60 days from the date you receive your delivery (Order date, plus 7 days) to return the program for a full refund of the purchase price paid (excluding shipping and handling charges, if any). We will provide all return instructions for your purchase (if applicable). You may be responsible for any return shipping and handling costs.

Q: How much is shipping if I order Total Transformation® CD/DVDs?

Standard shipping is free for orders within the U.S. and Canada, and $25 for international shipping and processing.

For international orders, we ask that you allow up to 30 days for the shipment to arrive. We also ask that you please contact us once your package arrives, to confirm receipt.

Q: How do I change/cancel my subscription?

You can make changes or cancel your subscription at any time. Simply call us at 1-800-460-2235, Monday – Friday, 9am – 5pm EST.

Q: I still have more questions. Who do I talk to?

We’re happy to help. Send us an email at, or call 1-800-460-2235 Monday – Friday, 9am – 5pm EST.

What Are Parents Saying?

  1. 5 out of 5


    This program was a huge benefit for my whole family. I learned so much about myself, my children and others. This program to me goes way beyond just kids it's all the people we have in our lives. In regards to my son and his behaviour issues. There has been a wonderful change and our relationship has More improved greatly and his communication at school has improved tremendously. I highly recommend this program for everyone.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Needed Help

    WE use the program to help with a grand son. James I liked a whole lot because he did not allow excuses and had a no nonsense approach to bring up misguided children or maybe I should say misguided parents. We had good success with the program but you have to follow it to get results. I would recommend. More

  3. 3 out of 5

    Not too happy

    I was real excited with getting the total transformation before I received it. After receiving it and trying to go through the work book I found it difficult. I believe it should be more simplified. It seemed too much on a professional level then on a simply person's level. I then became discouraged. More I ended up paying for something that was so difficult that it was too hard for me to even get it for free. I felt like I got suckered in to it. So I still haven't even finished all the CD's. I know I'm not going to believe all the promotion on something again.
    • Dear Mary,

      Thank you for your candid feedback about The Total Transformation Program. We’re disappointed to hear that our program hasn’t been helpful for you. We strive to create the most effective programs to help all families. We also understand that each family More situation is unique and that it can be discouraging when you are not seeing the results you had hoped for. Please don’t give up. Our Support Line Coaches are here to help you use the program tools with your grandchild and create an action plan to address the problem behaviors you are facing. They can help you find a starting point and make the entire process easier for you. Please know that we want to help you achieve the results you were looking for when you called us and that we’re here for you. You can reach our Customer Support Team at 800-460-2235. We’ll be glad to help you.

  4. 5 out of 5


    this program is very helpful to me and my family it give me the tools to know what to do and how to do things better.

  5. 4 out of 5

    very good tool

    it helped us to get structure and understand our kids better.

  6. 5 out of 5

    The light at the end of the tunnel

    Mitchell is very bright and ahead of his class in all subjects but his behavior led to suspensions from school, loss of friends and quite often we did not get to do any family activities because of his behavior. With the help of this program, we learned how to communicate with our son and he learned More to communicate and take responsibility. Now teachers and adults only have to point out the "trigger" item or behavior and he immediately stops and backs away from what ever is upsetting him. This program also helped us prove Mitchell was not ADHD but that he does suffer from childhood depression so we could get him the help he needed and get rid of any medication he did not need. We can't thank you enough for everything, you have helped our family in so many ways.

  7. 5 out of 5

    You can do it!

    I didn't use the parental support line or speak with customer service, so I don't know how to rate them, but if it's as good as the program then it must be good. I used this program with my 2 girls growing up about 8 years ago and now using it to raise my 3 grandchildren ages 7, 5, and 3. Even tho they More are young, the oldest one a boy has ADHD and ODD. Terrible for the first two years in school. Took him to psychiatrist who prescribed methylphenidate and it works tremendously along with the Total Transformation program. Just knowing what to say when they act out or are disrespectful is so helpful. These kids have responded wonderfully. The teachers and special ed teachers all have raved about how obedient he has become and how focused he is on his schoolwork. His behavior is totally changed. Use the perforated cards! Put them wherever you may be so you can refer to them immediately; purse, car, kitchen! And I also found it helpful to let family members know that we were implementing the Total Transformation program so they didn't interfere with the discipline in case it happened in front of them. Our home is quieter, and my sanity was saved through this very trying time in our lives. We had to take over care of three little ones due to unfortunate circumstances and since my husband and I are near 60 years old, it was difficult. I'm glad I ordered the program to help my sweet babies. Hopefully, they won't have problems as they become teens and young adults having lived this program and its teachings.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Total Transformation

    He seems more calm and will set and talk things out that is bothering him. He is not perfect but is a lot better and I think it helped his mom

  9. 5 out of 5


    I don't know where to start! The program is totally awesome. My grandson became legally free at the age of 7, and human services sent him to live with us. He tried every negative behavior described in the tapes. I bought the program because I was desperate. Little Johnny was abusive and hurting people, More months of counseling were of no effect. We were ready to give up on this child and send him back to the state. But, we were told that we were his last chance at family life. If he washed out here, his next stop was a group home. We saw a dramatic change the very first day. I know that sounds impossible, but it's true. The first time his words dropped dead on the floor. He knew things had changed.

  10. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    The Total Transformation Program assisted me with my ADHD/Mood Disorder/Austic/Residentially Treated son through his treatments and visitations. It enabled me to approach normally difficult behavior management in the most apprporiate manner particular to my son's needs. "Trigger management" was well More defined, and easier to work with opposed to "anger management". It provided a means to handling the prevention/limited exposure to the cause/root and focus of the anger. Goal setting and rewards systems for my child were made easier to attain and maintain. Moreover, the program helped me in the daily dealing encountered with my students in my instruction sessions at work. Be specific, well-defined, consistent, honest, and sincere in dealing with behavior issues. Making certain that the punishment/discipline is appropriate to the behavior. Well defined choices and consequences were also valuable in behavior management.

  11. 5 out of 5

    parents of adhd and odd teenage boy

    We we were really impressed with some of the skills we learned with the program we felt like this program helped us more than helping our son because we were able to come up with a plan and stick to it. We also are noticing a big difference in his school work and ability to reason and that helps tremendously More thanks to total transformation.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Even Beneficial for a Granny

    I enjoyed working through the Total Transformation Program and completing the workbook. Because of the tools provided through this course, I agreed to take care of my 4 grandsons last summer for a two day overnight stay with them. My young grandsons responded well to me once I set the tone with my expectations More and their responsibilities. We had a glorious time with full participation and cooperation in every situation. I mainly used the reward method with incentives for special activities or special privileges and they had a fun time too. Because of the age differences it proved at times to be quite challenging but it did not drain me as I had anticipated at the onset. I recommend this program highly to every new or experienced parent. This is a great program to be used as a preventative measure to insure a more stressless child rearing experience. It also will prevent major problems that often arise as the kids mature. Using Dr Lehman's method of child rearing will result in well adjusted, happy and responsible future citizens of the world.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Help at last

    I was at my wits end with my son. Then I puchased the Total Transformation and I got help. The tipa and information really help me put things into perspective as a parent. There is no need to fight with your child.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Great results!

    There has been a marked improvement in my son's attitude and behavior after following the instructions in the Total Transformation.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Mom of ADHD

    I really am a busy working mom, but had to take the time to show my appreciation to Total transformation! Great tips and skills and most of all took away that guilty conscious I always had for no reason! Thank you!

  16. 3 out of 5

    None Given

    Takes time to change reacting to teens actions and attitudes. Changing things slowly but I am determined.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Excellent! Worth every penny!

    I purchased this program because I wanted to empower my children and other family members with concrete methods about how to communicate with our children. It is a comprehensive method that provides sound strategies for helping children become responsible and respectful adults. Thank you Janet and James More for this wonderful gift!

  18. 4 out of 5

    Great parenting tool

    As a parent of 3 boys, I ordered the Total Transformation on a day when I was feeling at the end of my rope. I don't have any more than the typical battles of raising teenage boys, this program gave me the confidence and reassurance in my parenting. I am so grateful forr the tools I was given. For More me it was just hearing that the disrespect was unacceptable and that I need to take the emotions out of it and run my home like a business. The reminder to not engage in the battle has made a big difference as well. It gave me the confidence to stand on what I knew was right and through that, my boy's behavior has improved alot.

  19. 5 out of 5


    Absolutely fabulous program! James Lehman explains difficult concepts in very easy to follow terms and steps. I began to change my methods immediately after the quick star DVD. With my change in approach, my child's attitude began to change just as fast. I continue to use what I've learned through this More program, and my child has made a 180 degree turn. THANK YOU JAMES.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Total Transformation School of Rock

    I found this program to be extremely helpful in many ways. From learning how to talk to different types and give age appropriate consequences and rewards. I believe the key to raising responsible, respectable, positive, and productive children is to start at a very young age to teach them the VALUE More of living by the rules and teach them to have the consciousness and tools to make good/positive choices on their own. This program teaches you how to do that. If you do not start at a very young age (1 to 2 years old) you can lose control of your child very quickly. If you have lost control and respect, or starting to lose control and respect, then you need this program to start learning these methods as SOON AS POSSIBLE. The Total Transformation company is honest, caring, true to their word, respectful and can help you and your children bond together... it's going to take work, but it's worth it! Best to You!

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