The Total Transformation®

Jump Start, 7 Audio Lessons (+1 Bonus), Parent's Workshop Video, 116-page Workbook

4.68 out of 5 based on 1470 customer ratings
1488 customer reviews

Most parents struggle with bad behavior, whether it’s disrespect, arguing or severe defiance. But with the right skills and support, you don’t have to struggle anymore. The Total Transformation Program takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good.

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ADHD and School Issues

Jo-Ann and Kath were looking for ways to help their son Brennan, who is diagnosed with ADHD and Slow Processing Disorder. They recognized that Brennan is talented, creative, and a natural leader, but his tendency to challenge authority and test limits created serious issues at school and at home.

Angry Outbursts

The Bentley family was looking for answers to help 14-year-old Alex manage her anger differently. Her ADHD made it difficult for her to control her behavior when she got frustrated. Outbursts of anger led to slamming doors and disrespect, which left the family feeling disconnected and discouraged.

Physical Violence & Disrespect

Carolyn Nash saw a big change in her son Theo after she and his father divorced. His disrespect led to outbursts of rage and even physical violence. Carolyn tried everything from grounding to counseling, but nothing seemed to work—until The Total Transformation.


What Are Parents Saying?

  1. 4 out of 5

    Total Transformation School of Rock

    I found this program to be extremely helpful in many ways. From learning how to talk to different types and give age appropriate consequences and rewards. I believe the key to raising responsible, respectable, positive, and productive children is to start at a very young age to teach them the VALUE More of living by the rules and teach them to have the consciousness and tools to make good/positive choices on their own. This program teaches you how to do that. If you do not start at a very young age (1 to 2 years old) you can lose control of your child very quickly. If you have lost control and respect, or starting to lose control and respect, then you need this program to start learning these methods as SOON AS POSSIBLE. The Total Transformation company is honest, caring, true to their word, respectful and can help you and your children bond together... it's going to take work, but it's worth it! Best to You!
  2. 5 out of 5


    Absolutely fabulous program! James Lehman explains difficult concepts in very easy to follow terms and steps. I began to change my methods immediately after the quick star DVD. With my change in approach, my child's attitude began to change just as fast. I continue to use what I've learned through this More program, and my child has made a 180 degree turn. THANK YOU JAMES.
  3. 4 out of 5

    Great parenting tool

    As a parent of 3 boys, I ordered the Total Transformation on a day when I was feeling at the end of my rope. I don't have any more than the typical battles of raising teenage boys, this program gave me the confidence and reassurance in my parenting. I am so grateful forr the tools I was given. For More me it was just hearing that the disrespect was unacceptable and that I need to take the emotions out of it and run my home like a business. The reminder to not engage in the battle has made a big difference as well. It gave me the confidence to stand on what I knew was right and through that, my boy's behavior has improved alot.
  4. 5 out of 5

    Excellent! Worth every penny!

    I purchased this program because I wanted to empower my children and other family members with concrete methods about how to communicate with our children. It is a comprehensive method that provides sound strategies for helping children become responsible and respectful adults. Thank you Janet and James More for this wonderful gift!
  5. 3 out of 5

    None Given

    Takes time to change reacting to teens actions and attitudes. Changing things slowly but I am determined.
  6. 5 out of 5

    Mom of ADHD

    I really am a busy working mom, but had to take the time to show my appreciation to Total transformation! Great tips and skills and most of all took away that guilty conscious I always had for no reason! Thank you!
  7. 5 out of 5

    Great results!

    There has been a marked improvement in my son's attitude and behavior after following the instructions in the Total Transformation.
  8. 5 out of 5

    Help at last

    I was at my wits end with my son. Then I puchased the Total Transformation and I got help. The tipa and information really help me put things into perspective as a parent. There is no need to fight with your child.
  9. 5 out of 5

    Even Beneficial for a Granny

    I enjoyed working through the Total Transformation Program and completing the workbook. Because of the tools provided through this course, I agreed to take care of my 4 grandsons last summer for a two day overnight stay with them. My young grandsons responded well to me once I set the tone with my expectations More and their responsibilities. We had a glorious time with full participation and cooperation in every situation. I mainly used the reward method with incentives for special activities or special privileges and they had a fun time too. Because of the age differences it proved at times to be quite challenging but it did not drain me as I had anticipated at the onset. I recommend this program highly to every new or experienced parent. This is a great program to be used as a preventative measure to insure a more stressless child rearing experience. It also will prevent major problems that often arise as the kids mature. Using Dr Lehman's method of child rearing will result in well adjusted, happy and responsible future citizens of the world.
  10. 5 out of 5

    parents of adhd and odd teenage boy

    We we were really impressed with some of the skills we learned with the program we felt like this program helped us more than helping our son because we were able to come up with a plan and stick to it. We also are noticing a big difference in his school work and ability to reason and that helps tremendously More thanks to total transformation.
  11. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    The Total Transformation Program assisted me with my ADHD/Mood Disorder/Austic/Residentially Treated son through his treatments and visitations. It enabled me to approach normally difficult behavior management in the most apprporiate manner particular to my son's needs. "Trigger management" was well More defined, and easier to work with opposed to "anger management". It provided a means to handling the prevention/limited exposure to the cause/root and focus of the anger. Goal setting and rewards systems for my child were made easier to attain and maintain. Moreover, the program helped me in the daily dealing encountered with my students in my instruction sessions at work. Be specific, well-defined, consistent, honest, and sincere in dealing with behavior issues. Making certain that the punishment/discipline is appropriate to the behavior. Well defined choices and consequences were also valuable in behavior management.
  12. 5 out of 5


    I don't know where to start! The program is totally awesome. My grandson became legally free at the age of 7, and human services sent him to live with us. He tried every negative behavior described in the tapes. I bought the program because I was desperate. Little Johnny was abusive and hurting people, More months of counseling were of no effect. We were ready to give up on this child and send him back to the state. But, we were told that we were his last chance at family life. If he washed out here, his next stop was a group home. We saw a dramatic change the very first day. I know that sounds impossible, but it's true. The first time his words dropped dead on the floor. He knew things had changed.
  13. 4 out of 5

    Total Transformation

    He seems more calm and will set and talk things out that is bothering him. He is not perfect but is a lot better and I think it helped his mom
  14. 5 out of 5

    You can do it!

    I didn't use the parental support line or speak with customer service, so I don't know how to rate them, but if it's as good as the program then it must be good. I used this program with my 2 girls growing up about 8 years ago and now using it to raise my 3 grandchildren ages 7, 5, and 3. Even tho they More are young, the oldest one a boy has ADHD and ODD. Terrible for the first two years in school. Took him to psychiatrist who prescribed methylphenidate and it works tremendously along with the Total Transformation program. Just knowing what to say when they act out or are disrespectful is so helpful. These kids have responded wonderfully. The teachers and special ed teachers all have raved about how obedient he has become and how focused he is on his schoolwork. His behavior is totally changed. Use the perforated cards! Put them wherever you may be so you can refer to them immediately; purse, car, kitchen! And I also found it helpful to let family members know that we were implementing the Total Transformation program so they didn't interfere with the discipline in case it happened in front of them. Our home is quieter, and my sanity was saved through this very trying time in our lives. We had to take over care of three little ones due to unfortunate circumstances and since my husband and I are near 60 years old, it was difficult. I'm glad I ordered the program to help my sweet babies. Hopefully, they won't have problems as they become teens and young adults having lived this program and its teachings.
  15. 5 out of 5

    The light at the end of the tunnel

    Mitchell is very bright and ahead of his class in all subjects but his behavior led to suspensions from school, loss of friends and quite often we did not get to do any family activities because of his behavior. With the help of this program, we learned how to communicate with our son and he learned More to communicate and take responsibility. Now teachers and adults only have to point out the "trigger" item or behavior and he immediately stops and backs away from what ever is upsetting him. This program also helped us prove Mitchell was not ADHD but that he does suffer from childhood depression so we could get him the help he needed and get rid of any medication he did not need. We can't thank you enough for everything, you have helped our family in so many ways.
  16. 4 out of 5

    very good tool

    it helped us to get structure and understand our kids better.
  17. 5 out of 5


    this program is very helpful to me and my family it give me the tools to know what to do and how to do things better.
  18. 3 out of 5

    Not too happy

    I was real excited with getting the total transformation before I received it. After receiving it and trying to go through the work book I found it difficult. I believe it should be more simplified. It seemed too much on a professional level then on a simply person's level. I then became discouraged. More I ended up paying for something that was so difficult that it was too hard for me to even get it for free. I felt like I got suckered in to it. So I still haven't even finished all the CD's. I know I'm not going to believe all the promotion on something again.
    • Dear Mary,

      Thank you for your candid feedback about The Total Transformation Program. We’re disappointed to hear that our program hasn’t been helpful for you. We strive to create the most effective programs to help all families. We also understand that each family More situation is unique and that it can be discouraging when you are not seeing the results you had hoped for. Please don’t give up. Our Support Line Coaches are here to help you use the program tools with your grandchild and create an action plan to address the problem behaviors you are facing. They can help you find a starting point and make the entire process easier for you. Please know that we want to help you achieve the results you were looking for when you called us and that we’re here for you. You can reach our Customer Support Team at 800-460-2235. We’ll be glad to help you.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Needed Help

    WE use the program to help with a grand son. James I liked a whole lot because he did not allow excuses and had a no nonsense approach to bring up misguided children or maybe I should say misguided parents. We had good success with the program but you have to follow it to get results. I would recommend. More
  20. 5 out of 5


    This program was a huge benefit for my whole family. I learned so much about myself, my children and others. This program to me goes way beyond just kids it's all the people we have in our lives. In regards to my son and his behaviour issues. There has been a wonderful change and our relationship has More improved greatly and his communication at school has improved tremendously. I highly recommend this program for everyone.
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Product Features:

CD/DVD Version

  • Jump Start CD
  • Parent’s Workshop DVD
  • 7 Audio Lesson CDs
  • 116-Page Workbook
  • Bonus Audio Lesson CD

Online Version

One year of instant and unlimited access to our online program on desktop, tablet or mobile device.

  • Jump Start Audio Lesson
  • Parents Workshop Video
  • 7 Audio Lessons
  • 116-Page Digital Workbook
  • Bonus Audio Lesson

System Requirements: An Internet connection and your account username and password to log in.


Regain control of your child, your family and your life.

You need help in the moment when you are overwhelmed with defiance and bad behavior. You need tools you can use at home to get your child to solve their own problems without acting out. And you need the fighting, screaming and defiance to stop.

Restore peace and sanity in your home.

  • No more walking on eggshells around your child
  • End frustration and exhaustion from constant arguing
  • Stop pleading and negotiating with your child
  • Feel empowered, not helpless
  • Stop blaming yourself for your child’s behavior
  • No more feeling like a bad parent
  • Replace power struggles with accountability

In this program, you’ll:

  • Get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school
  • Learn the 10 words to say when your child talks back
  • Eliminate “acting out” in public
  • Stop the blame game for good
  • Master specific consequences for kids of all age groups
  • Discover exactly what to say and do to stop arguments and get through to your child
  • Understand how to prevent future issues before they start
  • Get your child to cooperate and comply, without raising your voice
  • Learn how to talk so your child will listen and respond appropriately
  • Teach your child problem solving skills
  • Rediscover the joys of being a parent
  • Establish lasting respect between you and your child

1-on-1 Coaching

When you need guidance through a specific situation, have questions about your program or just need someone to listen when you’re overwhelmed, our professional 1-on-1 Coaches are waiting to help. Each is highly experienced with our range of learning programs, and dedicated to personally motivating and supporting you. Simply call or email and get personalized guidance related to your program. Plus, since 1-on-1 Coaching is an optional service, you can elect to use it as long as you need it.

Our professional staff of 1-on-1 Coaches is here to help guide you through your learning program. Many have experienced parenting challenges firsthand, and offer a fresh and knowledgeable perspective.

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Q: What is The Total Transformation® Program?

A: Total Transformation takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good. The program works well for parents of children from 5 to 18 years of age who are exhibiting anger, underachievement, poor school performance, substance abuse, lashing out (physically or verbally, including abusive behavior), defiance and disrespect, but can be helpful for any child—even adult children. Total Transformation is designed to assist parents in dealing with negative behaviors (both typical and extreme) children and adolescents engage in.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® really work?

A: We think the families who’ve used our learning programs answer this best. In fact, thousands of parents, grandparents, teachers and professionals have shared their positive experiences—with each other, online, and in video testimonials—about the effectiveness of Total Transformation with their children and teens. Created by renowned child therapists James Lehman, MSW and Janet Lehman, MSW, the program is a life-changing tool in helping parents to quickly address unwanted child behaviors. Check out our constantly updated reviews where you can see our customers’ authentic and unedited comments. Our goal is to help you get to what works with your child so you can form a better relationship, starting today.

Q: Can this program work for me if I'm divorced and my ex lets my child(ren) get away with everything at his/her house?

A: Yes. One of the primary goals of Total Transformation is to develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your child. You will be able to teach your child to be accountable for his behavior in your home, regardless of the standards of behavior and expectations in the other parent’s home.

Q: Can I return my Empowering Parents product?

A: At Empowering Parents, we strive to help you get to what works. If you are not completely satisfied with your program, we offer a 60-day money back guarantee on all purchases. Simply call us within 60 days from the date you receive your delivery (Order date, plus 7 days) to return the program for a full refund of the purchase price paid (excluding shipping and handling charges, if any). We will provide all return instructions for your purchase. You may be responsible for any return shipping and handling costs.

Q: What happens after I purchase?

A: You will receive your program by mail in an unmarked package to protect your privacy.

Q: What does The Total Transformation® teach, and what types of behaviors are covered?

A: Total Transformation helps parents with specific techniques that enable them to deal with problems such as fighting and arguing, lying, temper tantrums, talking back, destroying property, picking on siblings, bullying, acting sullen and withdrawn, lack of motivation, risky behavior, and behavior problems in school and in the community. It’s important to note that the skill-set honed in the program helps build stronger relationships with all children in the family, not only those who have attitude or behavior problems.

Q: Will The Total Transformation® work for all children?

A: Various factors impact whether the program is effective with a particular child—including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s environment/background, and the parents’ consistency in applying the program. Acknowledging that, every day we hear from parents, grandparents, teachers and other caregivers who have found success in using Total Transformation. These concerned parents come from all walks of life and from all over the globe. We encourage you to read their authentic and unedited reviews.

Q: My child's behaviors are not as extreme as James Lehman describes. Will this program work for me?

A: The program is designed for children ages 5 to 18 and is very effective for most child behavior problems, ranging from mild to severe. Any parent can benefit from the effective parenting strategies taught in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® religious-based?

A: Total Transformation does not have any religious affiliation. Parents of all faiths (including those who don’t practice any religion) have used the program successfully with their families while remaining true to their own core values. Our emphasis is on helping all families to change unwanted behaviors in their kids.

Using The Total Transformation® Program

Q: My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will it work for him/her?

A: Yes. Total Transformation can be helpful for children with these conditions, and was in fact born out of James and Janet Lehman’s decades of experience working with defiant, oppositional youth. A good approach for many families is to use the program tools in conjunction with the support of a trusted, qualified, and local professional.

Q: Is there anyone who shouldn't use the program?

A: Children with autism, profound intellectual disabilities, and severe psychiatric disorders that result in an inability to communicate may not benefit from the techniques outlined in Total Transformation. However, their parents may benefit from the parenting concepts taught in the program.

Q: How long will it take to achieve a real change in my child's behavior?

A: Not long at all. In fact, you might see a change in your child’s behavior almost immediately after you begin implementing the program. As they adopt more effective parenting roles, use behavior management techniques, and hone problem-solving skills, most families say they experience significant, lasting results as they work with the program.

Q: Can grandparents use The Total Transformation®?

A: Many, many grandparents use Total Transformation with great results. Some of these grandparents are raising their grandchildren, while others share the program with their grandchildren’s parents. Total Transformation will help you develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your grandchild, and teach him or her to be accountable for his/her behavior in your home.

Q: Can The Total Transformation® be used by teachers, educational technicians and counselors?

A: Absolutely. Countless teachers, mental health professionals and caregivers use our program on a daily basis. Every adult who interacts with children in a meaningful way can benefit from the concepts and practical ideas presented in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® the same as therapy?

A: Total Transformation is not therapy. Where therapy is usually child-centric, our program is parent-centric. Total Transformation addresses how a parent can change the behavior dynamic by learning effective parenting skills.

Q: Should I use The Total Transformation® instead of counseling and/or stop my child's therapy, counseling, medication, etc.?

A: Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication, and you should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: What is the age range for which The Total Transformation® is designed to be used?

A: Total Transformation is a valuable resource for parents of children of any age, because it provides guidelines to help you develop the most effective and productive parenting style for any given situation. Although it is recommended for children ages 5 to 18, you may see immediate results with children of any age. By the time a “typical” child reaches the age of 5, all of the concepts in Total Transformation would apply to him or her. As your child grows, you’ll see the added benefit of the advanced features of the program. Each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for yours.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® work with children with medical diagnoses?

A: James and Janet Lehman designed Total Transformation as a powerful tool for parents—a tool that also supports behavior therapy goals at home. The best way to see if the program will be helpful in your specific situation is to try the program in your home, along with the support and guidance of your mental health and medical treatment professionals. Various factors may affect whether the techniques are effective with a particular child, including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s setting/environment, and the parent’s skill in applying the techniques.

Note: Total Transformation is not designed to deal with children who have severe psychological disorders or medical conditions that impair their communications or problem solving skills. Children who exhibit signs of dangerous behavior, either to themselves or others, should be placed under the care of a qualified professional. Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue such care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication. You should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: How can I get in touch with James Lehman?

A: Unfortunately, James Lehman passed away in May of 2010 after a long illness. His legacy lives on in The Total Transformation® family of products for parents, and on Empowering Parents, where you can still read his articles. His wife, child behavior therapist and co-creator of the program, Janet Lehman, MSW, continues James’ work to teach the principles of The Total Transformation® Program to families, and in her popular articles on Empowering Parents.

Cost & What’s Included in The Total Transformation® Program

Q: How much does The Total Transformation® cost?

A: Total Transformation retails at $327. Our goal is to make it accessible and affordable for any family in need of an effective program that can be practiced in the privacy of their home, so we provide unique incentives and promotions periodically.

If you would like to place an order or have further questions, please call Customer Service at 1-800-258-4315, Monday through Friday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. EST.

Q: Do you ship internationally?

A: We do ship internationally. Total Transformation cost is $327 plus $25 for shipping and processing. All prices quoted are in U.S. currency. Upon receipt of the order, we will bill $352 to the credit card provided and will then ship the entire program to you. We do ask that you allow up to 30 days for the shipment to arrive. We also ask that you please contact us once your package arrives to confirm receipt. If you have any questions or would like to place an order, please call Customer Service at 011-207-856-5600, Monday through Friday, 9:00am to 5:00pm EST.

Q: What comes with The Total Transformation®?

A: The following items are included in The Total Transformation® Program:

  •  The Jump Start Audio Lesson (CD)
  •  7 Audio Lessons (on 7 CDs)
  •  Bonus Audio – The One Minute Transformation (CD)
  •  Parenting Seminar Video (DVD)
  •  118-page Workbook
Each lesson in the workbook is broken down into three sections: a pre-test, with objectives and materials to go along with the audio lesson; specific “action steps,” a section on what to expect when implementing the lesson; and finally, a note from James Lehman, using real-life examples to illustrate how the specific technique has helped parents and children in similar situations.
The workbook will take you step-by-step through each lesson. There is also space for you to write your plans, reminders to keep you on track, and even reminder cards. These reminder cards are for you to tear out and use throughout your day to keep you focused on exactly what to say and do—and how to say and do it.

The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.”  James LehmanJames Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

“Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.”

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