Say Goodbye to Disrespectful, Obnoxious, and Abusive Behavior
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A Parent's Program for Managing Challenging Behaviors in Children

Are you struggling with a child who is disrespectful, obnoxious, or even abusive toward you? Are you frustrated and exhausted from arguing constantly? Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" around your child, trying to avoid saying something that will set him or her off? Have you tried talking, screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating—but your child still walks all over you?

The Total Transformation® has been used by thousands of parents just like you to change their child's behavior and restore peace in their lives. The program, developed by child behavioral therapist James Lehman, is a series of online audio and text lessons and exercises that give you concrete tools to change behavior.

What's included with The Total Transformation®

The program is a series of lessons delivered by James Lehman right to your phone, tablet, or computer. You control your pace so you can work through the lessons as fast or slow as you like; with our online platform you can save your progress so you can always pick up right where you left off. Here's a look at what's included:

Jump Start Audio 40 minutes (Preview)
Lesson 1: Why does my child act this way? 52 minutes
Lesson 2: Why won't my child listen to me? 48 minutes
Lesson 3: Breaking through 57 minutes
Lesson 4: Transformation tools 43 minutes
Lesson 5: Understanding faulty thinking 30 minutes
Lesson 6: What to do after your child acts out 38 minutes
Lesson 7: How to stop it before it starts 26 minutes
Parent's Workshop Video 95 minutes
Bonus Audio: The one-minute transformation 34 minutes
Interactive workbook 116 pages
Here's a look at some of the things you'll learn.
How to Stop Any Argument with Your Child INSTANTLY
This is a powerful technique parents love because it pulls the plug on any argument with your child. You'll be stunned at how quickly it works—even if your teenage son is 6'2" tall and you're just 5'4"!
The 10 Words to Say When He Gets Mouthy
The technique that puts the brakes on "backtalk" and cursing matter how nasty your child gets.
How to Eliminate "Acting Out" in Public
If your son or daughter acts out even more when his or her friends are around, this strategy is something you need to know!
Stopping the "Blame Game"—for GOOD
We'll give you a word-by-word script to use with your child to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
Consequences 101
How to give them, which ones work and which ones don't, including specific consequences for kids in all age groups.
Preventing Future Issues—Before They Even Start!
Instead of talking back, screaming, or blaming you, your child will now have a way to solve his problems that gets him better results and better reactions from teachers and other adults.
"The results from The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation."
- Lisa, mother of four
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The Total Transformation®
What is The Total Transformation® Program?
Does The Total Transformation® really work?
Can this program work for me if I'm divorced and my ex lets my child(ren) get away with everything at his/her house?
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What does The Total Transformation® teach, and what types of behaviors are covered?
Will The Total Transformation® work for all children?
My child's behaviors are not as extreme as James Lehman describes. Will this program work for me?
Is The Total Transformation® religious-based?
Using The Total Transformation® Program
My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will it work for him/her?
Is there anyone who shouldn't use the program?
How long will it take to achieve a real change in my child's behavior?
Can grandparents use The Total Transformation®?
Can The Total Transformation® be used by teachers, educational technicians and counselors?
Is The Total Transformation® the same as therapy?
Should I use The Total Transformation® instead of counseling and/or stop my child's therapy, counseling, medication, etc.?
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Defiant Teenager

Juakson Carpenter witnessed a hot temper and defiant behavior from teenage Raschid. “I didn’t have the tools to deal with it so I avoided it,” said Juakson. After hearing an ad for The Total Transformation on the radio, Juakson ordered the program that would completely change her family relationship.

ADHD and School Issues

Jo-Ann and Kath were looking for ways to help their son Brennan, who is diagnosed with ADHD and Slow Processing Disorder. They recognized that Brennan is talented, creative, and a natural leader, but his tendency to challenge authority and test limits was creating serious issues at school and at home. Once the Birch family started using the Total Transformation, real change happened immediately. The child behavior program taught Jo-Ann and Kath ways to hold their son accountable to meeting expectations, regardless of his diagnosis.

Stubborn Child

“My daughter is my world,” says Kevin Cleaver about his young daughter Jessie. “She deserves the best.” But Kevin and his wife were struggling to find the best way of addressing Jessie’s out of control behavior when she didn’t get her way. They tried one thing, and when that didn’t work, they would try something else. The Cleaver family found the Total Transformation Program, a parenting program that helped their family all get on the same page with great results.

Get instant online access to:

  • Jump Start
  • Parent’s Workshop Video
  • 7 Audio Lessons
  • 116 Pages of Interactive Workbook Lessons
  • Bonus Audio Lesson

Online Version

Regain control of your child, your family and your life.

You need help in the moment when you are overwhelmed with defiance and bad behavior. You need tools you can use at home to get your child to solve their own problems without acting out. And you need the fighting, screaming and defiance to stop.

Restore peace and sanity in your home.
  • No more walking on eggshells around your child
  • End frustration and exhaustion from constant arguing
  • Stop pleading and negotiating with your child
  • Feel empowered, not helpless
  • Stop blaming yourself for your child’s behavior
  • No more feeling like a bad parent
  • Replace power struggles with accountability
In this program, you’ll:
  • Get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school
  • Learn the 10 words to say when your child talks back
  • Eliminate “acting out” in public
  • Stop the blame game for good
  • Master specific consequences for kids of all age groups
  • Discover exactly what to say and do to stop arguments and get through to your child
  • Understand how to prevent future issues before they start
  • Get your child to cooperate and comply, without raising your voice
  • Learn how to talk so your child will listen and respond appropriately
  • Teach your child problem solving skills
  • Rediscover the joys of being a parent
  • Establish lasting respect between you and your child
Online Parent Coaching

When you need guidance through a specific situation, have questions about your program or just need someone to listen when you’re overwhelmed, our professional online parent coaches are waiting to help. Each is highly experienced with our range of learning programs and dedicated to personally motivating and supporting you. Exchange unlimited messages and schedule phone calls with your personal coach. Since parent coaching is an optional service, you can elect to use it as long as you need it.

Our professional staff of parent coaches is here to help guide you through your learning program. All have experienced parenting challenges firsthand and offer a fresh and knowledgeable perspective.

Coaching is available for the Online Version only and can be added to your order during the checkout process.

James Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation® Program, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

Online Parent Coaching

Empowering Parents offers professional online parent coaching to help guide you through our learning programs, answer your questions and listen when you need to talk.

Exchange unlimited messages and schedule phone calls with your personal coach.

Coaching is available for the Online Version only.

Select parent coaching during the checkout process.