The Total Transformation®

Jump Start, 7 Audio Lessons (+1 Bonus), Parent's Workshop Video, 116-page Workbook

4.68 out of 5 based on 1470 customer ratings
1488 customer reviews

Most parents struggle with bad behavior, whether it’s disrespect, arguing or severe defiance. But with the right skills and support, you don’t have to struggle anymore. The Total Transformation Program takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good.

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ADHD and School Issues

Jo-Ann and Kath were looking for ways to help their son Brennan, who is diagnosed with ADHD and Slow Processing Disorder. They recognized that Brennan is talented, creative, and a natural leader, but his tendency to challenge authority and test limits created serious issues at school and at home.

Angry Outbursts

The Bentley family was looking for answers to help 14-year-old Alex manage her anger differently. Her ADHD made it difficult for her to control her behavior when she got frustrated. Outbursts of anger led to slamming doors and disrespect, which left the family feeling disconnected and discouraged.

Physical Violence & Disrespect

Carolyn Nash saw a big change in her son Theo after she and his father divorced. His disrespect led to outbursts of rage and even physical violence. Carolyn tried everything from grounding to counseling, but nothing seemed to work—until The Total Transformation.


What Are Parents Saying?

  1. 5 out of 5

    whole new world

    love it. we are m aking progress...what a blessing. no meds did we have to use.thank u
  2. 5 out of 5


    This was a tremendously clearly outline program. It gave direct instructions on how to address behaviors. I just wished it helped me with keeping my energy up with such a challenging child.
  3. 5 out of 5

    Thank you!

    I could tell you everything this program has done for my family, but I'd just be repeating all of the testimonials we watched on the 1st DVD. Thank you so much for helping us get our son back!
  4. 4 out of 5

    It's Working Already!

    I have had the system for a while, but only recently started *using* it. My son was failing in school because he simply refused to do his homework. After enumerating my expectations for the week's homework check, and having him repeat it to me so I knew HE knew and accepted what was expected, he failed More to meet the reuirements we had agreed upon. He lost one weekend, and had the opportunity to 'try again' on Monday. I actually overheard him on the phone (which I did NOT take away, like I usually did) telling a friend, " I know it's my responsibility to do it, and I blew it." !! I almost squealed with joy!! And, it's only the FIRST week of actually *using* the program! And there was Very Little arguing when I told him he had lost his weekend...usually this was a screaming fit. I am Very Pleased with the results I have seen so far!
  5. 5 out of 5

    I thought you had personally met my child!

    What a blessing! I had no idea so many people were dealing with my same issues. The analagies were what stuck in my brain. They were very helpful! I have told 12 more people about this program! I'm just sorry I didn't get it sooner.
  6. 5 out of 5

    Hamilton Family

    Currently on lesson 5. The information is eye opening. My wife and I are very impressed with this realistic approach and common sense methods. I would have to describe it as an old school method with a new century influence. It really gets to the heart of how members of a society should respect themselves More and others and take responsibility for their actions. These are excellent tools and I would recommend the program to all parents. Thank You
  7. 4 out of 5

    Frances Young Tribe

    As a mother of 4, with a large gap between siblings; I let a lot of my basic parenting knowledge be usurped to exhaustion and teenage persuasion. Your techniques have put me back on track. However,it is very hard to keep ones child on course to a positive life's experience. This I feel is due to societies More pull, with all of it's immoralities it contains. Also, with 2 teenage daughter's,close in age, I find it hard to get the truth out; if ever. It is a never ending battle of gaining trust and finding the truth.
  8. 4 out of 5

    Helping me be in control

    I have done the whole program and am now listening again. While it is not a "magic" or "miraculous" change, the TTP has helped me develop some strategies and feel much more in control. Before the program, I was reluctant to address my son's tantrums between incidents. Now I understand that this behavior More won't just go away without specific strategies on my part. We have worked out rewards, consequences, and are doing the alternative response techniques. It's a lot of work, but it is helping when consistently applied. I appreciate the common sense and emphasis on accountability, responsibility and correcting faulty thinking. In the past I have made excuses for this child's behavior, but the TTP has helped me realize that this did not help us. Although I was reluctant to spend the $$ for this program, I am glad I did so.
  9. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    I was in a bad place when I ordered the TT package and am now like a walking advertisement. I can't say enough about it. It has only been 2 months but we have had MAJOR improvements. My 15 year old rarely calls me names anymore and on the rare occasion she does she handles the punishment and is also More apologetic. This has made things so much calmer in our household.
  10. 5 out of 5

    Try the program before calling a therapist

    I am a family therapist who recommends your program to desperate parents who call in for appointments. It is excellent. If your program is not enough to solve their problem after they have listened to it, and tried it, then I book an appointment for them.
  11. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    I wish this program was out when my kids were little. We as parents need help like this, no manual was given at birth. I feel better knowing that I am not alone with how my child is acting. I feel good knowing I can call at talk to somebody. My son is away a college but when he returns I feel more More prepared to deal with what\'s ahead.
  12. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    The program is easy to follow, the techniques are easy to use and so far we are seeing some success from using this program.
  13. 5 out of 5

    Total Transformation works

    Working with the program I learned it is the whole family that needs to change their way of thinking and doing things to make the program successful. We have noticed a positive change in all of us since starting the program.
  14. 4 out of 5

    Great Program

    The voice on the CD is soothing and empowering at the same time. I felt supported and validated in my ability to appropriately discipline. The techniques worked wonders with both my 5 year old bio son and 17 year old foster child.
  15. 5 out of 5

    slow and steady wins the race

    When I ordered the package we thought that we had an usual situation with our son. We were totally perplexed how our once loving and studious son turned into a lackluster, unmotivated and extremely disrespectful human being. The impact on our entire family was negative and disruptive. A colleague More of mine heard your ad on the radio and forwarded the link. I ordered the program and started listening right away. Although the instructions say to listen to one a week, I wanted to absorb as much as I could to see more immediate results. Things were BAD!! I listened to the Jump start, disc one and then the 10 quick tips (which was the best). I made some notes on a post- it and I keep one on my desk at work and another in my car. I immediately started using the techniques and started seeing the time I got to disc three, I labelled myself as a negotiator (I always called myself the peacemaker)and immediatley started working on my behavior. I have found the choice of words, the "disengaging" from arguments, and making rules hard and fast have changed things dramatically. I will not say we have perfection but who decides what perfection is anyway? Our son's grades are improving, he is following rules without repetitive demands and our home is less chaotic and much happier. My next step is to have my husband listen to the CD's so he can have an understanding of my reasoning, my son's reaction and find the "peace" for himself as well.
  16. 4 out of 5

    Mother of 26 yr old still at home

    I am still learning the discs and am finding them helpful with my son who is in and out of trouble, he's had part of his brain removed (R frontal lobe) due yo AVM at the age of 12. He is starting to make some better decisions but I have to REMIND him. He also has seizures now which prevent him from More holding a job. SO he is on disability. It is hard and I don't always know how to handle things. Sometimes I excuse unacceptable behaviour because of his disability, but he won't have me around much longer, due to my serious health problems, and I sometimes think I am doing him a disservice letting him stay at home and stay lazy. I keep telling him to get an education, we live 2 blocks from a college and I feel there is no excuse not to continue his education so that he can eventually do something with his life. Blowin off steam!
  17. 5 out of 5

    Patience is a Virtue

    It takes time to ingest everything at a week at a time pace, but the 10 things in One Minute CD should be listened to FIRST to ramp up the learning curve. My teenager still has a way to go, but big change!
  18. 4 out of 5

    The only thing that has worked so far!

    This program is excellent. It does however require alot of time,effort, and patience to work through it. This is no quick fix, but a challenging program that really does stop abusive behavior, but not overnight. Be prepared for things TO GET WORSE before they get better as your child challeges YOU to More see what you are made of!Don't let your "normal" be abuse anymore!!The child will back down if you consistantly use the techniques over a period of weeks or months.
  19. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    The program provides tools and real examples to help parent work with their children. I would recommend the program to all parents who are having difficulties with their children.
  20. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    This is a wonderful program...My son is diagnosed as "likely to be ADHD" and though he is too young for some of the lessons to be applicable, they have given me great ideas for keeping his attitude from moving into a more defiant one later. I really need to get the Total Focus program to really get More a handle on the ADHD issues. The Total Transformation seems to be more for defiant kids than ADHD kids.
  21. 5 out of 5

    It works if you work it

    I believe the Total Transformation Program is very workable. I just wish I could get my husband to use it! He actually listened to the first 2 or 3 CDs with me, but never put anything into practice. I will just have to complete the CDs myself and do the best I can on my own.
  22. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    The program is awesome. The transformation for me as a parent I like alot if we could only get all parents to try this maybe the kids today would have less tempers and mouths and more respect. As well as giving parents the technics to be less stressed. I havent mastered it all the time but i will. i More love it. Thank you
  23. 5 out of 5

    Thanks for helping me see myself

    I think the most valuable part of the transformation is the one that the parent goes through. This program has really helped us work with our son and see ourselves and him in a different way
  24. 4 out of 5

    Time is precious

    I'm still listening and learning. Life is too short to constantly be arguing. I listen more; I speak concisely; and I expect a response. I believe the children are learning more trust from this approach, and I feel more in control.
  25. 5 out of 5

    Great Parental Advice Ever

    I really enjoyed this program because you can use the techniques immediately with your children and it works. I have been to many parenting classes and this beats them all. Thank you.
  26. 4 out of 5

    Amazing results

    I was amazed at how quickly my boys shaped up after I implemented some of the techniques into our daily routine.
  27. 5 out of 5

    Just getting started

    I am just getting started with the program. So far it has been very beneficial with my son. I am finally feeling that there is hope for our family. Thank you for what you have done by making this program available. I have been recommending it to all my friends.
  28. 3 out of 5

    None Given

    The practical, no nosense information contained on these disks was so useful. I listened to them three times to make certain I fully integrated the practices into my vernacular. My two sons are young, 6 and 10, and I think the strategies put into practice early are helping me define boundries and expectations, More and therefore avoiding serious attidude problems in the future. It also helped me recognize my behaviors that might invite trouble in the future. Thank you for giving me very realistic suggestions and in a straight forward delivery.
  29. 5 out of 5

    The most effective program there is!!!!

    I have learned soooo much from you. There are so many up hill batteles with raising children, and your words have really helped my family. I have a blended family (his mine and ours) We were really struggling because I felt as if there were two sets of rules in our home. This program not only helped More with the children but helped my husband and I realize that we were overlooking a few things too. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this program and helping so many families around the world. It not only is helping save our kids but our marrige also!
  30. 4 out of 5

    I have already recommended it to 3 friends

    My son turned 10 years old, had a growth spurt, then began acting-out in school and at home. Over the course of 3 months of terror, he was ultimately expelled from the Catholic school he attended for the prevous 5 1/2 years (Pre-K to mid fourth grade). In despiration and the recommendation of the Catholic More school principal, we took him to a psychiatrist who diagnosed him with mild Asberger Syndrome in just two, 1-hour sessions....four other licensed professionals, including a neurologist, disagreed. Now, being in public school he was evaluated by the "Child Study Team" who found that he has an IQ of 128 and a cognitive age of 14...with no special education required. His behavior improved at the public school (somewhat) but it was still "war" very often. With no where to turn, I began researching the internet under oppositional definance disorder and found The Total Transformation course. I was familiar with The Total Transformation from the XM Radio infomercial. My son was not diagnosed with oppositional defiance but his behavior was certainly pointing that way. My son is now in the fifth grade and I've had the course for almost 2 mos. and listened to it twice. I've used the exact language that Mr. Lehman suggests and it really has been working. Mr. Lehman brings you back to basics. Slowly, the day-to-day fights are becoming more of a sigh on his part and a victory on mine! Having my masters degree in education, I thought this could never happen to my family, but it did. Mr. Lehman has given me the specific tools and wording to use with my son to regain control and sanity in our home!
  31. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    Haven't yet finished the program but so far I'm impressed.
  32. 4 out of 5

    None Given

  33. 5 out of 5


    we have atotally different boy (14 years); living here now. He responds well to limit setting and even seems to feel better with it. Since making him responsible for his own actions his schoolwork has improved; going from failing to getting passing grades in all subjects. He is our grandson, and More being responsible for a teenager at our age is not easy, but this program has made it less of a battle. Indeed, we have NOT had a screaming match since August of 2007. Thank you
  34. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    The total transformation program helped tremendously. Our son was extremely oppositional defiant as well as adhd. After trying several suggestions from the tapes as well as working in the work book things began to get easier at home and our responses in dealing with this type of child was more than More helpful.
  35. 4 out of 5

    Jacob on Total Transformation

    Jacob responds well to the responses that Total Transformation teaches us to use. He seems to be dumb-founded and unable to respond in any but, the most positive ways. The lessons that we are learning seem to definitely be helping him.
  36. 3 out of 5

    A Special Educator\'s View

    I ordered this program to get a better look into the mind of children that were having behavior problems. This is a down-to-earth common sense approach to working with children. Many times parents like to use excuses. The truth is the child still needs to live in the world. Let\'s give them all we More can. This program seems to offer much in a friendly supportive manner. I favor the reality approach.
  37. 5 out of 5

    None Given

    The program reiterated my weak parenting areas & gave me the courage to inforce tough love.
  38. 5 out of 5

    Effective Program

    Thank you so much! The Total Transformation Program is a concise, highly effective program. Parental resistance is the hardest thing to overcome -- the kids fall in line quite easily once parents do their part. Similarities to the "Dog Whisperer" are remarkable. The dogs aren't the problem, it's More the owners who need the training.
  39. 4 out of 5

    foiling consequences became her next game

    The screaming has stopped, and our discussions seem to be more effective. We have 2 good days and then her desire for "fun" is strogner than her desire to avoid consequences. She has learned that she can do anything while we are sleeping, including sneaking into our room and stealing a cell phone to More contact friends and then sneak out at night. We don't know how often this has occured because we are sleeping. Total Transformation has helped us stay calm through this, but we are not sure we are really changing her behavior.
  40. 4 out of 5

    great program - hard to follow

    This is a great program, I have no doubt in my mind that it works. I have used some of the methods and they have helped tremondously. I just wish there was a James Lehman in my area that could teach us these on a weekly basis. finding the time to listen to the disk & read the book is difficult for me. More For anyone that has a child with ODD this program is a god send!I believe in this program.
  41. 5 out of 5

    My experience with TT... experience has been life-altering. The tools are logical, simple, and effective. The transformation in me created a transformation in my child. Our family is happier.
  42. 5 out of 5


    Your program has helped me manage my behavior and thoughts and helped me acquire an understanding of difficult behaviors in my children. In gaining this understanding, I am able to respond more appropriately and calmly while helping them attain problem solving and coping skills so they may become more More independent and successful in life. It has brought me closer to them and helped me be strong in implementing consequences for inappropriate behavior.
  43. 4 out of 5


    The program is helpful but difficult to remember all of the actions and steps that need to be implemented to foster change. When I remember, the advice is effective. I have also found that a couple things just do not work with my kids.
  44. 5 out of 5

    It works

    I'm still working the program and I like it very much. It makes great sense to me. I have not needed the parental support as I have no children at home. I will be using the information in a self help program I'm in. I have not needed Customer Service. Thanks for a great program. I believe It is More a bit expensive.
  45. 5 out of 5

    It changed Me!

    Here I was trying to figure out why my kids weren't listening to me! HA! Look in the mirror Mom. I found that making them accountable for their actions made such a change. I took the responsibility for past actions with them as well as asking them to forgive me was an important step. My 5 year old More is still needing a little bit of help but I was able to get my 3 older children to respect me and do things for themselves. Thank you for your words and letting me see I was the problem in some of the reasons why my children were in chaos.
  46. 4 out of 5

    Enjoyed the program

    I am a mother of three children ages 12, 10 and 2. The program worked great for my preteens. Just wish you could help me with the terrible twos.
  47. 5 out of 5

    transformation transition

    Total transformation has help my husband and I during the transition from kid to teenage to adult. We are still in the midst of it. That's why I say 'during'. IT has helped us promote the skills my son needs. It gives me a great sense of peace knowing I can re-hear, and re-read the materials at our convienence. More I can call when I need to. IT also gives me peace to know that my husband and I can take inventory of our unique strengths and weakness and it helps us understand the entire dynamics/effects/affects of our joint parenting. I told the elementary school VP, a friend about this program. A couple of days later a new family moved to the school system, and announced their use of the program. I've shared the info with other parents. I l ove this program because it as closer to affordable, and much more helpful than a counselor. IT is concrete and realistic. IT gives help sooner.
  48. 5 out of 5

    Worked like a charm

    My issue's, with my daughter was back talking and she would not do her chores.I studied the course and seen what I was doing wrong.Instead of memorizing what to say back to my child after an issue, I typed up different consequence what would happen if she back talked,Didn't do her chores etc.Then I had More her sign and date it and gave her a copy.I treated our relationship as a business rather then my friend. Since I've done this, I have had no problems. Thank You
  49. 5 out of 5

    Relief with a capital R

    I thought I had seen and heard them all. But the Total Transformation program outdid them all. This is a wonderful series and would recommend them to anyone! I hope my DVDs don't wear out from all the use!
  50. 4 out of 5

    None Given

    I liked what I saw and heard, although I have not gotten through the entire series. It will be good to have as a resource if I need to follow through on an issue.
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  • Jump Start CD
  • Parent’s Workshop DVD
  • 7 Audio Lesson CDs
  • 116-Page Workbook
  • Bonus Audio Lesson CD

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Regain control of your child, your family and your life.

You need help in the moment when you are overwhelmed with defiance and bad behavior. You need tools you can use at home to get your child to solve their own problems without acting out. And you need the fighting, screaming and defiance to stop.

Restore peace and sanity in your home.

  • No more walking on eggshells around your child
  • End frustration and exhaustion from constant arguing
  • Stop pleading and negotiating with your child
  • Feel empowered, not helpless
  • Stop blaming yourself for your child’s behavior
  • No more feeling like a bad parent
  • Replace power struggles with accountability

In this program, you’ll:

  • Get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school
  • Learn the 10 words to say when your child talks back
  • Eliminate “acting out” in public
  • Stop the blame game for good
  • Master specific consequences for kids of all age groups
  • Discover exactly what to say and do to stop arguments and get through to your child
  • Understand how to prevent future issues before they start
  • Get your child to cooperate and comply, without raising your voice
  • Learn how to talk so your child will listen and respond appropriately
  • Teach your child problem solving skills
  • Rediscover the joys of being a parent
  • Establish lasting respect between you and your child

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Q: What is The Total Transformation® Program?

A: Total Transformation takes you step by step through understanding and managing your child’s behavior and shows you exactly what you need to do to develop your child’s problem solving skills—stopping bad behavior for good. The program works well for parents of children from 5 to 18 years of age who are exhibiting anger, underachievement, poor school performance, substance abuse, lashing out (physically or verbally, including abusive behavior), defiance and disrespect, but can be helpful for any child—even adult children. Total Transformation is designed to assist parents in dealing with negative behaviors (both typical and extreme) children and adolescents engage in.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® really work?

A: We think the families who’ve used our learning programs answer this best. In fact, thousands of parents, grandparents, teachers and professionals have shared their positive experiences—with each other, online, and in video testimonials—about the effectiveness of Total Transformation with their children and teens. Created by renowned child therapists James Lehman, MSW and Janet Lehman, MSW, the program is a life-changing tool in helping parents to quickly address unwanted child behaviors. Check out our constantly updated reviews where you can see our customers’ authentic and unedited comments. Our goal is to help you get to what works with your child so you can form a better relationship, starting today.

Q: Can this program work for me if I'm divorced and my ex lets my child(ren) get away with everything at his/her house?

A: Yes. One of the primary goals of Total Transformation is to develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your child. You will be able to teach your child to be accountable for his behavior in your home, regardless of the standards of behavior and expectations in the other parent’s home.

Q: Can I return my Empowering Parents product?

A: At Empowering Parents, we strive to help you get to what works. If you are not completely satisfied with your program, we offer a 60-day money back guarantee on all purchases. Simply call us within 60 days from the date you receive your delivery (Order date, plus 7 days) to return the program for a full refund of the purchase price paid (excluding shipping and handling charges, if any). We will provide all return instructions for your purchase. You may be responsible for any return shipping and handling costs.

Q: What happens after I purchase?

A: You will receive your program by mail in an unmarked package to protect your privacy.

Q: What does The Total Transformation® teach, and what types of behaviors are covered?

A: Total Transformation helps parents with specific techniques that enable them to deal with problems such as fighting and arguing, lying, temper tantrums, talking back, destroying property, picking on siblings, bullying, acting sullen and withdrawn, lack of motivation, risky behavior, and behavior problems in school and in the community. It’s important to note that the skill-set honed in the program helps build stronger relationships with all children in the family, not only those who have attitude or behavior problems.

Q: Will The Total Transformation® work for all children?

A: Various factors impact whether the program is effective with a particular child—including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s environment/background, and the parents’ consistency in applying the program. Acknowledging that, every day we hear from parents, grandparents, teachers and other caregivers who have found success in using Total Transformation. These concerned parents come from all walks of life and from all over the globe. We encourage you to read their authentic and unedited reviews.

Q: My child's behaviors are not as extreme as James Lehman describes. Will this program work for me?

A: The program is designed for children ages 5 to 18 and is very effective for most child behavior problems, ranging from mild to severe. Any parent can benefit from the effective parenting strategies taught in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® religious-based?

A: Total Transformation does not have any religious affiliation. Parents of all faiths (including those who don’t practice any religion) have used the program successfully with their families while remaining true to their own core values. Our emphasis is on helping all families to change unwanted behaviors in their kids.

Using The Total Transformation® Program

Q: My child has a diagnosis (such as ADD/ADHD, ODD). Will it work for him/her?

A: Yes. Total Transformation can be helpful for children with these conditions, and was in fact born out of James and Janet Lehman’s decades of experience working with defiant, oppositional youth. A good approach for many families is to use the program tools in conjunction with the support of a trusted, qualified, and local professional.

Q: Is there anyone who shouldn't use the program?

A: Children with autism, profound intellectual disabilities, and severe psychiatric disorders that result in an inability to communicate may not benefit from the techniques outlined in Total Transformation. However, their parents may benefit from the parenting concepts taught in the program.

Q: How long will it take to achieve a real change in my child's behavior?

A: Not long at all. In fact, you might see a change in your child’s behavior almost immediately after you begin implementing the program. As they adopt more effective parenting roles, use behavior management techniques, and hone problem-solving skills, most families say they experience significant, lasting results as they work with the program.

Q: Can grandparents use The Total Transformation®?

A: Many, many grandparents use Total Transformation with great results. Some of these grandparents are raising their grandchildren, while others share the program with their grandchildren’s parents. Total Transformation will help you develop a “Culture of Accountability” between you and your grandchild, and teach him or her to be accountable for his/her behavior in your home.

Q: Can The Total Transformation® be used by teachers, educational technicians and counselors?

A: Absolutely. Countless teachers, mental health professionals and caregivers use our program on a daily basis. Every adult who interacts with children in a meaningful way can benefit from the concepts and practical ideas presented in Total Transformation.

Q: Is The Total Transformation® the same as therapy?

A: Total Transformation is not therapy. Where therapy is usually child-centric, our program is parent-centric. Total Transformation addresses how a parent can change the behavior dynamic by learning effective parenting skills.

Q: Should I use The Total Transformation® instead of counseling and/or stop my child's therapy, counseling, medication, etc.?

A: Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication, and you should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: What is the age range for which The Total Transformation® is designed to be used?

A: Total Transformation is a valuable resource for parents of children of any age, because it provides guidelines to help you develop the most effective and productive parenting style for any given situation. Although it is recommended for children ages 5 to 18, you may see immediate results with children of any age. By the time a “typical” child reaches the age of 5, all of the concepts in Total Transformation would apply to him or her. As your child grows, you’ll see the added benefit of the advanced features of the program. Each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for yours.

Q: Does The Total Transformation® work with children with medical diagnoses?

A: James and Janet Lehman designed Total Transformation as a powerful tool for parents—a tool that also supports behavior therapy goals at home. The best way to see if the program will be helpful in your specific situation is to try the program in your home, along with the support and guidance of your mental health and medical treatment professionals. Various factors may affect whether the techniques are effective with a particular child, including the child’s age and developmental level, the child’s setting/environment, and the parent’s skill in applying the techniques.

Note: Total Transformation is not designed to deal with children who have severe psychological disorders or medical conditions that impair their communications or problem solving skills. Children who exhibit signs of dangerous behavior, either to themselves or others, should be placed under the care of a qualified professional. Total Transformation is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment. Parents of children who are currently under the supervision of a professional should not discontinue such care without speaking to this professional. This program is not intended as a substitute for medication. You should never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

Q: How can I get in touch with James Lehman?

A: Unfortunately, James Lehman passed away in May of 2010 after a long illness. His legacy lives on in The Total Transformation® family of products for parents, and on Empowering Parents, where you can still read his articles. His wife, child behavior therapist and co-creator of the program, Janet Lehman, MSW, continues James’ work to teach the principles of The Total Transformation® Program to families, and in her popular articles on Empowering Parents.

Cost & What’s Included in The Total Transformation® Program

Q: How much does The Total Transformation® cost?

A: Total Transformation retails at $327. Our goal is to make it accessible and affordable for any family in need of an effective program that can be practiced in the privacy of their home, so we provide unique incentives and promotions periodically.

If you would like to place an order or have further questions, please call Customer Service at 1-800-258-4315, Monday through Friday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. EST.

Q: Do you ship internationally?

A: We do ship internationally. Total Transformation cost is $327 plus $25 for shipping and processing. All prices quoted are in U.S. currency. Upon receipt of the order, we will bill $352 to the credit card provided and will then ship the entire program to you. We do ask that you allow up to 30 days for the shipment to arrive. We also ask that you please contact us once your package arrives to confirm receipt. If you have any questions or would like to place an order, please call Customer Service at 011-207-856-5600, Monday through Friday, 9:00am to 5:00pm EST.

Q: What comes with The Total Transformation®?

A: The following items are included in The Total Transformation® Program:

  •  The Jump Start Audio Lesson (CD)
  •  7 Audio Lessons (on 7 CDs)
  •  Bonus Audio – The One Minute Transformation (CD)
  •  Parenting Seminar Video (DVD)
  •  118-page Workbook
Each lesson in the workbook is broken down into three sections: a pre-test, with objectives and materials to go along with the audio lesson; specific “action steps,” a section on what to expect when implementing the lesson; and finally, a note from James Lehman, using real-life examples to illustrate how the specific technique has helped parents and children in similar situations.
The workbook will take you step-by-step through each lesson. There is also space for you to write your plans, reminders to keep you on track, and even reminder cards. These reminder cards are for you to tear out and use throughout your day to keep you focused on exactly what to say and do—and how to say and do it.

The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.”  James LehmanJames Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

“Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.”

1-on-1 Coaching

Only Empowering Parents offers professional 1-on-1 Coaching to help guide you through our learning programs, answer your questions and listen when you need to talk.

Simply call or email when you are ready for personal, 1-on-1 support and we’ll be there to help you.

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