Two Parents, One Plan™

2 DVDs (103 minutes), 47-page Workbook

4.71 out of 5 based on 7 customer ratings
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Getting on the same page is hard enough under normal circumstances. Getting on the same page when dealing with a defiant child’s behavior can seem impossible. You don’t have to keep playing good cop/bad cop, or get blamed by your partner. Through parent/child demonstrations, James Lehman helps you get on the same page so you can parent effectively as a team.

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  1. 4 out of 5

    Hope for Unity

    My spouse and I have been polarized and stuck on how to handle our 12 year old...problems with disrespect, anger outbursts, took weeks to get my spouse just to watch the fact, we've only just viewed it...but we are ready to attack things differently after watching the first video...we More are very hopeful the techniques we saw will start to turn things around, based on the success we had with just one of us trying the Total Transformation program. Responsibility, accountability, communication...we are sure good things will come...even if in tiny measures.
  2. 4 out of 5

    two parents one plan

    I think the program is good when both parents agree together.We weren,t on the same page and this program has helped us come closer with the problems we were having.Especially on disrespect.
  3. 5 out of 5

    Divorced but united

    My EX and I used the TWO PARENTS ONE PLAN and stand united with our 13 yr old. Her attitude has shifted and she now is way more respectful and does homework and chores without arguing and fighting. While he and I are on different sides of town and we each have a week at a time, the techniques are easy More to use and incorporate into daily uses.
  4. 5 out of 5

    School Counselor loves your programs

    I often see oppositional behavior at the elementary level, and understand how preventable it is! I have purchased several of the programs to help parents in our school district. They have loved your DVD, Two Parents One Plan, because it gives them the tools to stop that oppositional behavior quickly More while saving marriages at the same time. When people ask me for resources, Empowering Parents is the first on my list.
  5. 5 out of 5

    Excellent realistic program

    We purchased this program because our daughter\\\\\\\'s behavior was out of control and we had different parenting styles and philosophies because of the careers that we have chosen. The DVD Two Parents One Plan was helpful because it gave us a starting point and it reassured us that it was not going More to be always a happy ending but that we needed to find on point in common where we could agree and then make small changes. We both agreed that we wanted our daughter to take responsiblity and we both agreed that we wanted her to be successful
  6. 5 out of 5

    Getting on the same page!

    Me and my wife sees everything different! She was raised completly different then myself. We both want whats best for our child, but cannot agree on things or ways of raising our child. Mr. Lehman has open our eyes and showed us how to move forward toward a common goal for the better of our child. Effective, More easily understandable, and direct approch. Thank you, James Lehman
  7. 5 out of 5

    Two parents one plan.

    I am a psychotherapist and am always looking for effective tools for my clients. I love the way James cut right through the emotion of a situation and gets to the facts. Dealing with the facts helps the parents to see how they are enabeling poor behavior or getting in the way of desired behavior.
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Product Features:

  • 2 Instructional DVDs (103 minutes)
  • 47-page Workbook

Learn to work toward the same goals.

Dealing with a defiant child can be overwhelming, especially when you and your partner disagree on the best parenting strategy. In this program, we’ll show you how to work together and align your goals for better behavior and the happiness of your family.

Come together for your child.

  • Break the good cop/bad cop routine
  • Stop getting stuck when you don’t see eye-to-eye
  • Prevent blaming each other or your child
  • No more passing blame to your co-parent or child
  • Avoid persistent arguing with your co-parent
  • Collaborate as parents with a single strategy

In this program, you’ll:

  • Learn how to function with your co-parent as a team
  • Find ways to re-connect around your common interest: your child
  • Model effective conflict resolution for your family
  • Collaborate, not get your partner to simply agree with you
  • Learn how to deal with a co-parent when you’re divorced or living apart

This program works best when used with the behavior management plan of The Total Transformation® Program.

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When you need guidance through a specific situation, have questions about your program or just need someone to listen when you’re overwhelmed, our professional 1-on-1 Coaches are waiting to help. Each is highly experienced with our range of learning programs, and dedicated to personally motivating and supporting you. Simply call or email and get personalized guidance related to your program. Plus, since 1-on-1 Coaching is an optional service, you can elect to use it as long as you need it.

Our professional staff of 1-on-1 Coaches is here to help guide you through your learning program. Many have experienced parenting challenges firsthand, and offer a fresh and knowledgeable perspective.

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Q: I am currently seeing a counselor with my co-parent. Should I use this program instead of counseling?

A: This program is not designed to be a replacement for therapy or counseling. Many parents find that it is a helpful addition to local, in-person support they are currently receiving to address parenting differences they may be experiencing.

Q: What if my spouse/co-parent refuses to listen? Can the program still work?

A: It can be frustrating when your co-parent refuses to work together to address parenting differences you may be experiencing. However, it is not a requirement that the co-parent go through the program with you.  James Lehman explains how to develop an individual “culture of accountability,” which exists between you and your child. He also explains how you can own your role in the interactions with your child, and how you can respond most effectively.

The James Lehman Approach

Drawing from personal experience and 30 years in the field

“I was a kid with behavior problems—about the worst problems you can imagine.”  James LehmanJames Lehman, MSW

James Lehman, who dedicated his life to behaviorally troubled youth, created The Total Transformation®, The Complete Guide to Consequences™, Getting Through To Your Child™, and Two Parents One Plan™, from a place of professional and personal experience. Having had severe behavioral problems himself as a child, he was inspired to focus on behavioral management professionally. Together with his wife, Janet Lehman, he developed an approach to managing children and teens that challenges them to solve their own problems without hiding behind disrespectful, obnoxious or abusive behavior. Empowering Parents now brings this insightful and impactful program directly to homes around the globe.

“Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.”

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