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Is your child being bullied? Has your teen bullied others? Read our articles for advice and perspective on the difficult issue of bullying.
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The Cool Kids: How to Help Your Child or Teen Deal with Peer Pressure, Exclusion and Cliques

The Cool Kids: How to Help Your Child or Teen Deal with Peer Pressure, Exclusion and Cliques

When we think of peer pressure, we typically have a picture in our minds of a kid handing another kid a cigarette, a joint, or a beer and saying something like, “Come on, just try it.” But at times peer pressure can be felt without a single word being spoken, like when a clique excludes others or rolls their eyes at the (in their opinion) uncool kids who walk by.

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Child and Teen Bullying: How to Help When Your Kid is Bullied

Child and Teen Bullying: How to Help When Your Kid is Bullied

Bullying is really just another form of abuse: it’s about kids using power to control other kids, sometimes with the intention to cause harm. What can we do as parents when our kids find themselves the target of another child's cruelty or physical aggression? Read on to learn 10 ways you can help your child or teen.

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Is Your Child Being Bullied? 9 Steps You Can Take as a Parent

Is Your Child Being  Bullied? 9 Steps You Can Take as a Parent

As we all know too well, name–calling, cruel taunts, cyberbullying and physical bullying happen every day to kids across the country. When your child is being bullied, it’s hard to concentrate on anything else—all you want to do is make it stop immediately. Janet Lehman, MSW explains what you can do to help your child—and what could hurt them in the long run.

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The Secret Life of Bullies: Why They Do It—and How to Stop Them

The Secret Life of Bullies: Why They Do It—and How to Stop Them

Why do some kids turn to bullying? The answer is simple: it solves their social problems. After all, it’s easier to bully somebody than to work things out, manage your emotions, and learn to solve problems. Bullying is the proverbial “easy way out,” and sadly, some kids take it.

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Girl Fighting and Your Child

Girl Fighting and Your Child

Chances are that at some point your daughter will come home from school feeling excluded, targeted, or ostracized, maybe even scared. If you are lucky, she will turn to you for guidance on what to do, and share with you how she feels. As a parent, that sad and sometimes frustrating moment can be an opportunity, as long as you feel even a little bit prepared.

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Combat CyberBullying: Be a Part of Your Daughter’s Life—the Real and the Virtual

Combat CyberBullying: Be a Part of Your Daughters Life—the Real and the Virtual

In this age of MySpace, cell phones and instant messaging, it has never been more important to ensure that you are a part of your daughter’s life: the real and the virtual. It is no surprise that girls are enamored with social communications as a way to make connections and keep in touch. By the time they are ten or eleven, they may be developing their own websites, and creating fun emoticons, avatars, and colorful texts for their emails.

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Girl Violence in the News (And How to Talk to Your Child about It)

Girl Violence in the News (And How to Talk to Your Child about It)

Empowering Parents asked bullying expert and award-winning author Peggy Moss to address issues of girl violence and bullying, noting, “Even if the press perhaps sensationalizes certain events, how do we address these bullying episodes in order keep our children safe?”

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My Child is Being Bullied—What Should I Do?

My Child is Being Bullied—What Should I Do?

Are name-calling and teasing just part of growing up, a rite of passage that all kids go through? Many people out there think that adults are making too much of a fuss about it, that we should leave kids to their own devices. We know better now,” argues Peggy. “I have talked to 80-year-olds who remember the name of the person who tormented them in school, and the name of the child who stood up for them in first grade. This is pain that has lasted a lifetime. We have the information to stop bullying now, so why wouldn’t we?”

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Top Five Concerns for Back to School

Top Five Concerns for Back to School

Last month, we invited readers to email us with their “Number One Concern” for their child in the upcoming school year. Our Parental Support Line staff responded to each inquiry with suggestions based on the Total Transformation and Total Focus Programs. Read on to see what you can do to help you and your child get through the school year with flying colors.

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The Truth About Bullies

The Truth About Bullies

The public perception of bullying is that bullies are acting out to cover their own fears. They may indeed be afraid, but accepting this as a reason makes bullies sound like victims of their fears -- like we’re supposed to feel sorry for them and not hold them responsible for their abusive actions.

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When To Reach Out To Your Child’s Teacher

Blogger Your daughter is having a tough time navigating the social dynamics at school. Your son sometimes gets so frustrated with his reading homework that he’s brought to tears. When exactly should you reach out to your child’s teacher? Maybe it’s the fear of adding to a teacher’s already overworked schedule or leftover deference from my Catholic school days, but I almost always wait until the parent-teacher conference to raise issues my children might be having. According to new research by social scientists David Maxfield and Joseph Grenny, I shouldn’t wait. Last fall, Grenny and Maxfield surveyed over 1,000 parents and teachers about how best to handle school-related issues. I called Joseph Grenny, co-author of Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High. He said the research shows teachers want to hear from parents. “They don’t see your reaching out to them as a burden,” Grenny assures me. In fact, he says, parents should know it’s their responsibility to check in with a teacher, not the other way around. I never thought of it that way. “If you check in from time to time, then when issues arise, you’ll already have a relationship—they’ll know you’re working together as a team, not assigning blame,” says Grenny. “Build the relationship by sending teachers affirming emails early and throughout the school year, telling them about how their lessons are reaching your child,” he says. If a problem does arise, Grenny suggests calling the teacher when you’re still in the “curious, questioning stage,” so that you can problem-solve effectively together. “If you go in early, at the exploratory stage, there’s a 99% chance you’ll have a successful conversation about it.” The researchers offer these tips for starting the conversation:
  • Check your motives.  Remember, Grenny says, you and the teacher have a common goal: To help your child succeed. Approach the conversation with that in mind.
  • Start on a positive note.  “Begin by letting the teacher know you’re here to understand the problem, not to blame,” he says. “Let the teacher know you see him/her as a partner in solving this problem.”
  • Use facts, not emotions.  Be fact-based and specific in your conversation. “And if your child is in any way at fault, be quick to admit it,” he says.
What has your experience been like with teachers? Do you take a proactive approach? Or, have you been reluctant like me? Jennifer is freelance writer for The Wall Street Journal and several national magazines.   Earlier in her career, she was a journalist for 60 Minutes.  She lives in New York with her husband and their three children, ages 9, 7 and 4.  You can read her other work at www.JenniferBWallace.com.
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Does My Child Need To See A Therapist?

Blogger Your seven-year-old son, Justin, is so embarrassing.  He approaches adults and asks personal questions that seem inappropriate.  He seems to have no sense of shame, and little interest in conforming to social norms.  You cringe at the thought of taking him to family affairs and public events, where you never know what kind of catastrophe might transpire.  And when you broach the topic, he easily dismisses it and hardly makes eye contact.  You have already heard dubious murmurs regarding your parenting capabilities on several occasions, causing you to feel completely misunderstood.  All this despite the parenting lectures you invested in!
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Mean Girl Bullying Has Changed for Millennial Teens: 5 Reasons Why

Blogger I see from my teen clients that girl drama has reached a new peak, or in reality, a new low.  Teen girl social strife and the drama that accompanies it are magnified to a new scale of meanness in today’s social climate.
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Today's School Climate: Everyone's a Victim and Nobody's a Bully

Blogger At the 2013 Tennessee School Counselors and Administrators Institute I attended, there was much talk about bully prevention programs. The school where I work has such a program, and we have been utilizing it now for almost a full school year. The problem is, I'm not sure if the problem of bullying over the years has gotten better -- or worse.
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