Parenting Articles about Bullying

Is your child being bullied? Has your teen bullied others? Read our articles for advice and perspective on the difficult issue of bullying.
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Bullying Brother: When Your Home is Ground Zero

Parent Blogger The weekend morning is quiet; the boys are sleeping in. But if today is like most mornings I can bet on what will soon happen. My eight-year-old son will wake up first. He will wander in and say good morning or head to the television. He will find some cartoons to watch or he may even help himself to some cereal.
Eventually my older, more challenging child will awake. He is in fifth grade. He isn’t as likely to seek me out for a morning “hello” while I am doing laundry or dishes. However I will know he is up because sooner or later I will hear a scuffle. Maybe some shouts of protests from his younger brother as he takes over the television or intrudes on whatever activity his younger brother is involved in. And if the situation quickly escalates, before I can intervene, I will even hear some crying. This sound is usually preceded by the sound of a smack, fist-hitting flesh.
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When Your Child is the Bully: No Easy Answers

Parent Blogger The principal at my son’s school and I are on a first name basis and it’s not because I am the president of the PTA. No, it’s because my son is a bully. I wonder whether other parents -- parents of non-bullies -- have ever given much thought to my position. I choose to bravely volunteer at the school, hoping I won’t run into my son sitting in the office, waiting to see the principal. For now it is an unwritten rule that I not help in his class or drive on his field trips. That only makes things worse. But I still volunteer at school. Maybe a part of me being there is to quell any rumors that I don’t care, that I’m not trying.
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Is Your Child Bullying Others? 5 Tips for Parents

Parent Blogger It seems bullying happens at every school, in almost every grade. Even the most proactive schools with anti-bullying education programs have trouble with bullying. I also have noticed that over generations, the easiest kids to pick on for bullies are special needs kids: the ones who are less able to defend themselves. Even children who are non-verbal can recognize that they are being teased. I’ve seen the tears streaming down these kids' faces with my own eyes after they were harassed by other students. Now that I have special needs children myself, I feel hyperaware of the bullying that goes on. I’m afraid my children will be picked on for those wonderful differences that make me love them so much. During the past school year, I noticed my oldest son has more of an issue with bullying than my youngest son. The only problem is, it’s my son doing the bullying! I can't tell you how shocked I was.
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The Squeaky Wheel Gets An IEP…Not Such A Bad Thing

Parent Blogger Ever since my son started school, his teachers told me that he was easily and often distracted, but he was bright and he was doing well in school. He had no real behavioral problems until he started middle school. During 6th grade, he was bullied for several months. During this time he began to act out – he had a lot of anger, hurt and frustration. This continued until I was able to have him moved to another team (teaching team) so he’d be away from his tormentors. Once he was moved he seemed fine again – behavioral issues seemed to disappear.
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But Mom, I Don't Want to Be a Tattletale! How Do You Deal with the Class Bully?

Blogger Lately, my seven-year-old son has been complaining about having mysterious stomach aches. He's also been going to the nurse's office at school a lot and begging to stay home. The other day, he even suggested I home school him. When I reminded him of how much he used to enjoy first grade, he mumbled, I used to like it before kids started bothering each other and being bullies. Uh oh. I very casually asked the words every parent dreads getting a yes response to: Is anyone bothering you at school? Long pause. In a small voice he said, The Mean Kid.
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No Matter How It's Done, Bullying is Still Bullying

Parent Blogger As a parent of two children who have gone through a bullying episode, I can tell you that the emotional, mental and physical stress can be overwhelming for both children and parents. After all, as a parent your natural instincts tell you loud and clear to protect your children against the forces that cause them pain -- whether it's mental, emotional or physical.
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A Bullying Story: Why I Don't Let My Kids Ride the Bus

Parent Blogger I haven't put my kids on a school bus for the past six years. The bus picks up students right next to our house at 8 o'clock. At 8:10 a.m. I load my children in the car and drive them to school. Some mornings we pick up a friend or two and cart them to the drop-off zone at the local elementary and middle schools.  Sometimes we sit in traffic right behind the same bus that picks up the neighbors.
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School Bullies: How the Parents of One Child Are Fighting Back

Blogger What do you do when your child is bullied? It's one of the toughest things for a child to go through...and one of the worst things a parent can ever experience. When it happened to my son, I felt like I was stuck on the sidelines, talking to teachers and giving Alex advice at home -- and hoping that my child would make it through OK. But recently, there have been too many stories about bullying incidents which have taken a deadly turn. It's made me realize that the sidelines are not a safe place for a parent to be anymore.
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Does Bullying Change a Kid's Personality? (And How Can We Use It as a Life Lesson for Our Kids?)

Parent Blogger As a parent blogger for EP, I've mostly drawn upon my memories of parenting my 15 year old son for material. But a recent post by Mandy under the blog about Bullying and Sportsmanship made me recall a truly seminal series of events in my childhood. It concerns bullying, group dynamics, school politics and how these things can make our children miserable, but how they can also make them into the kind of adults I think we need more of in this society.
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Where Has All the Sportsmanship Gone in Kids' Sports?

Blogger OK, I have to start this blog post by saying that I am not a violent person. I don't even like to watch violent movies. But what do you do when your kid is getting hurt and no adults are stepping in to help? Do you encourage them to fight back, or run away every time? What if they can't run away? And is there ever a good time to fight back? The reaction I had last week surprised me. 2 Saturdays ago, my husband Joe took our son Alex to soccer practice. He's on the kindergarten soccer team, which basically entails a bunch of five and six-year-olds swarming the soccer ball in a big kid-sized clump and having a little fun. Except last week. You see, there was a first grader on the opposing team who was knocking kids down left and right, and hitting, pushing and kicking anyone in his way (yes, even the girls). For some reason, this boy's coach wasn't doing anything to stop him. The kid's dad was standing behind my husband saying, in a loud voice, Well, this is a rough sport, you know? That's the way the game is played, and kind of chuckling a little.
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Help! What Do You Do When Your Child is Excluded?

Blogger School started off with a bang this year, and all seemed to be going well until last week, when my 5-year-old son began coming home and reporting that no one would play with him and nobody wanted to be his friend. My stomach twisted into a knot as I watched him dejectedly kicking the rocks on our way home from the bus stop.  Apparently, one little cherub in his class has even been saying things to him like, I don't like you. You can't sit here. I wish you were in another school, and of course, it happens to be the girl he has his first crush on. The mama bear in me wanted to march down to the school and pull some pony tails, but (with great restraint) I managed to control myself.
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How Do You Teach Kids to Be Empathetic? (And Why It's Important)

Blogger It wasn’t until my son came home from middle school one day with a story about witnessing some kids bullying a boy with disabilities that I was forced to take a long, hard look about what I was teaching my kids about empathy. Sure, I was aware of the importance of empathy: the ability to put oneself in someone else's shoes, promoting kindness, teaching tolerance. But this situation had me wondering: How exactly am I promoting empathy at home so that my kids can then do the same at school or in social situations?
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Bullying-- It Ain't Just for Big Kids Any more

Blogger Jessica tells Sophie she can't play dress-up with her and her group of friends because Sophie doesn't watch Hannah Montana.  Three boys form a gang at day camp and terrorize the rest of the kids during free time.  Pop Quiz: How old are the kids I'm talking about here? 
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A Whole New Way to Bully: Peanut Butter as a Weapon

Blogger From the Weird New Ways to Bully file: In the news this past week, there have been stories about kids bullying classmates who are allergic to peanut butter. They're hiding the offending food in lunch boxes or in the lockers of children who are known to have the dreaded allergy. Now, an eighth grader in Kentucky has been charged with a felony for crumbling up peanut butter cookies and putting the potentially lethal substance into the lunch box of a classmate. (Luckily, the classmate did not suffer a reaction.) Believe it or not, for some people even trace amounts of peanut oil can cause a severe reaction or even death: as in the case of the 13-year-old Australian boy who died last month when he came into contact with peanuts at a school camp.
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