Your adolescent son or daughter disappears down the hall punching the wall and slamming their bedroom door. Your Tween just grunts and walks away, or your younger child has a complete temper tantrum every time you say "no." Parenting a child who seems to have "anger overload," -- and who doesn’t want to talk, problem solve, or communicate in any... Read more »
What are the warning signs that your child is about to explode? Do they wait until you’re in a compromising situation or a busy store? Does it only happen at home? What are some things you can do to prepare yourself?
My advice to parents is to think back to the times your child has lost... Read more »
Holes punched in the walls. Doors kicked in. Cursing, name-calling and screaming tirades. Violent outbursts. If this sounds like your child or teen, you're not alone. According to a new study, nearly 66 percent of U.S. teens say they've had "anger attacks" where they've destroyed property, threatened violence -- or resorted to it. The study... Read more »
My son enjoyed playing tennis as he was growing up, and actually, he was quite good on the courts. He went to practice three days each week and competed in junior level tournaments throughout the year. My son practiced with a group of kids whom I got to know well. One boy always wore a... Read more »
If you're afraid of your child, you are not alone. Many parents are frightened of their kids' tantrums, violence, and their own lack of control over the situation. On the 1-on-1 Coaching team, we hear about the pain parents experience as a result of their children’s behavior: the social scrutiny and the isolation that accompanies... Read more »
Many times on the 1-on-1 Coaching team, we coach parents to say to their kids, “You need to calm yourself down,” and then walk away from their screaming child to allow both parent and child space to do so. The reason why we give this advice is because we recognize that when anyone (adult or... Read more »
Working with middle schoolers, I hear a lot about how boys have “anger problems.” For most, this is terribly inaccurate. That's because the anger is not the problem, but rather it’s the lack of anger control. As boys grow into their teen years, their bodies are flooded with high doses of testosterone. This causes emotions,... Read more »
Do you ever feel like your situation with your oppositional, defiant child is hopeless? You might have more in common with the parents of Steve Jobs than you realize.
On the surface, you wouldn't think Steve Jobs had a fortuitous start in life. His biological parents were grad students from Wisconsin (his mother was an American... Read more »
With all the many stressors that our teens face on a daily basis, it's not surprising that many find themselves with a large dose of adolescent anger. We've all experienced this emotion, and know that rarely are the results of an outburst beneficial. However, it’s important to be in control of anger rather than allowing... Read more »
Watching your teen having a temper tantrum is scary. Adolescent anger management is not something most parents want to deal with, but unfortunately, the situation often can't be avoided. Here are four strategies that we used in our household with great results:
1. Communication: "There's nothing wrong with feeling angry."
Sometimes my teenage son would become so... Read more »