L: James, you mentioned accountability. Creating a culture of accountability. What does that mean? Can you explain that and how, what it means to parents and kids.
J: First of all, when we start with accountability, one of the things that I talk to teachers and parents about is creating a culture of accountability. And that culture of accountability occurs between two people. So when we talk about what’s on TV, what they’re learning in the movies, what their video games is, that, that’s fine. But the culture of accountability comes with, this is how I’m gonna talk to you and this is how you have to talk to me. This is what I’m gonna expect of you and this is what you can expect of me. That’s very clearly learned out. That you’re accountable for the way you talk to me and treat me. You’re accountable for your responsibilities and you can expect me to take responsibility to be accountable for my responsibilities. I’m gonna pay the rent, I’m gonna have food on the table, I’m gonna make sure that we have a place to live. You have to talk to me appropriately, you have to do your schoolwork and you have to learn how to solve life’s problems without hurting other people.
MG: I think it’s important to note James that a culture of accountability isn’t just a parent child thing. We even as adults need to be accountable; we are accountable every day to someone.
J: That’s right, well, I don’t think people are accountable to a culture. I think that that develops between people. Between individual people and groups. So even personal relationships and work relationships.
J: Work. I’m accountable to that job. I’m accountable to my role in that business. I’m accountable to that business. They’re gonna pay me, that’s what I expect of them, they expect me to do the role that they defined for me. They also expect me to do it with some quality and some efficiency.
MG: So as a parent, what you’re setting your child up for by expecting him to be accountable to you is the whole mindset that you will always be accountable to someone. This is a coping skill. This is a problem solving skill you have to learn.
J: Absolutely. Look, when you hold your child accountable, when you develop that culture of accountability, you as a parent have a responsibility to teach that child to acquire the skills he’s gonna need to be able to be accountable. People who can’t be accountable for their homework disrespect other people. People who can’t be accountable for their behavior turn it around and challenge you and act out. So when you’re having a culture of accountability, there’s a two–way thing. I expect you to do the right thing and you can expect me to teach you how to do the right thing.
MG: So my job as a parent then is to set specific standards, to set specific goals, to set attainable landmarks that a child can say, if I do this, I become accountable. If I do this, I’m behaving responsibly.
J: Yeah, it’s not only setting goals. It’s giving the skills to reach the goal. So let’s say I’m a parent and my goal is that you’re gonna sink five throws from the free throw line in basketball out of ten. Well I just can’t put you up there with a ball and tell you do it, that’s my goal. I’ve gotta show you how to do it. I’ve gotta show you how you place your feet, how you place your arms. How you propel the ball. I’ve gotta spend some time practicing with you. I’ve gotta show you how to do these things and I’ve gotta practice them. So it’s not setting the goals, it’s giving the kid the skills. Acquiring the skills yourself for an understanding of what it takes. Using the tools and using the skills.
James Lehman had a very personal understanding of kids with behavior problems. He displayed severe oppositional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager, and became a Behavioral Therapist specializing in helping troubled children, teens and their families for 30 years.
Janet Lehman, MSW Child Behavior Therapist
Janet Lehman has over three decades of clinical experience working with out–of–control children and teens and their parents. Working in group homes and residential treatment centers, Janet helped children with serious behavioral disorders learn to get their behavior under control.
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Award-Winning EmpoweringParents.com Searching for Experienced Bloggers to Join Its Team
New, Easy-to-Use Online Blogger Application Added to Site
EmpoweringParents.com, the award-winning website and weekly newsletter for parents, is looking for more bloggers to add to its dedicated team of writers. Launched in 2007, the fast-growing site is the premier resource for parents of children and teens with tough behavioral issues. Since its inception, EP has been praised by parents and professionals alike for its practical articles full of hands-on parenting advice, instructive podcasts, and candid blog posts.
“We’re looking for experienced bloggers to join our already talented team and now we have a new online form that makes it even easier for people to apply,” said Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor of Empowering Parents. “The perfect applicant is an established blogger or parenting expert who enjoys writing about child behavior issues and who would like to grow their audience.” Wilkins stressed that potential candidates should also be empathetic to parents who are struggling with their kids’ behavior—problems that run the gamut from temper tantrums, and child rage to backtalk, ADD/ADHD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and risky teen behavior. “Our mission is to empower parents in a judgment-free zone. We’re not here to blame people for trying their best—we’re here to help them become more effective parents.”
“This is an opportunity for bloggers to increase their reach by partnering with an industry leader,” said Wilkins. “We can offer applicants a nationally recognized platform with traffic that has been increasing exponentially in the past two years.” EP has also recently improved its site searchability and seen its Facebook and Twitter presence grow rapidly.
EP’s content is authored by nationally-known child behavioral experts like James Lehman, MSW, creator of The Total Transformation® Program, and Dr. Bob Myers, author of The Total Focus® Program for kids with ADD/ADHD. EP articles have been featured on Yahoo! Shine and other leading parenting blogs and websites, and the child behavior site has also won an iParenting award for excellence.
Watch recent coverage of The Total Transformation on Fox News 8 in Cleveland, Ohio!
January 3, 2011:The Total Transformation in the News Watch this special report on The Total Transformation from Fox News 8 in Cleveland, Ohio. Teacher Zulma Placini Burke has used the program in her class at the H. Barbara Booker School for the past four years with great success. She says that the Total Transformation has helped her manage her students, many of whom have special needs, more effectively by teaching her practical methods of staying calm, sticking to routines, and using rewards and consequences.
Debbie Pincus MS LMHC, Joins the Total Transformation Advisory Board
There isn't a parent out there who doesn't get frustrated and angry from time to time when their child's behavior crosses the line from acceptable to inappropriate. The problem, as Debbie Pincus MS LMHC sees it, is that parents need to "stop reacting to their kids' reactivity." In her recent article, Calm Parenting: How to Get Control When Your Child is Making You Angry on the award-winning EmpoweringParents.com website, she explains the dilemma this way: "When you try to manage your child's behavior instead of your own anxiety, what you're saying is, ‘I'm out of control. I need you to change so that I can feel better.'"
According to Pincus, the key is to focus instead on getting yourself under control, which will in turn help your child to calm down. The popularity of Pincus's debut article in EP, which was the site's most-viewed article in the autumn line-up, might rest on the fact that parenting has never been more challenging. Pincus responds to that problem by giving parents practical, effective ways to maintain control and stay calm. To date, there have been more than 500 combined shares and "likes" of the article on the Empowering Parents Facebook page, and it has been emailed to others close to 600 times.
"We are thrilled that Debbie Pincus has joined our team of experts at Empowering Parents," says EP Editor Elisabeth Wilkins. "Her experience and extensive knowledge of child behavior and parenting issues make her a perfect fit for our website." In addition, "As a member of the Total Transformation Advisory Board, Debbie will offer our readers the practical advice they've come to expect—along with her own personal twist on parenting."
Pincus has been a therapist and coach for more than 25 years in the Greater New York area. She works with individuals, couples and parents and also facilitates parenting groups. Debbie Pincus is the author of numerous books for young people on interpersonal relations.
Legacy Publishing Company, the publisher of EmpoweringParents.com, is America's premier producer of personal development programs for families and couples. Legacy's flagship product, The Total Transformation Program—created by renowned child behavioral therapist James Lehman, MSW—has sold nearly a quarter of a million units to date. For more information or to schedule an interview with Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC, please contact Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor at 207-856-5600x3015 or firstname.lastname@example.org
200,000 Total Transformation Programs Sold—and Counting
Legacy Publishing Company’s acclaimed multi-media program helps more than 200,000 families manage defiant behavior in children and teens.
Westbrook, ME (PRWEB) January 14, 2010 -- Legacy Publishing Company, a premier producer and publisher of personal development products for families, has reached the 200,000 programs sold milestone of its foremost product, The Total Transformation® Program. The Total Transformation® Program is a step-by-step multimedia program created by noted behavioral therapist James Lehman to help parents manage child behavior problems.
Legacy Publishing Company founder Steve Anderson explains the success of the program: “I knew we had something uniquely effective for parents when we created the Total Transformation® Program with James Lehman. I wanted to make sure parents out there had access to real advice for the tough problems they face with their kids.”
The Total Transformation® Program
In addition to Legacy’s Parental Support Line, which parents can call any time they need help with their children’s behavior, Legacy also created the popular online magazine Empowering Parents, a website and weekly newsletter rich in parenting articles and advice from noted experts. “The Total Transformation® Program is the cornerstone of our company,” said Anderson. “Everything we do is born out of our desire to empower parents.”
Headquartered in Westbrook, Maine, Legacy Publishing Company is a leading publisher of self-improvement programs for families. Legacy puts the knowledge of America's most respected therapists in the hands of parents to give them practical tools they can learn, and principles they can apply quickly.
If you’d like more information on Legacy Publishing, the Total Transformation® Program or would like to schedule an interview, please contact Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor at 207-856-5600x3015 or email@example.com
EmpoweringParents.com Wins Prestigious iParenting Media Award
WESTBROOK, Me., February 26, 2008— EmpoweringParents.com announced today that it has been honored with a prestigious iParenting Media Award for Best Products of 2008.” With a growing subscriber base of more than 100,000 readers, EmpoweringParents.com has quickly become the premier online publication for parents who want to learn how to manage challenging behaviors in their children and teens.
Legacy Publishing Company, the force behind EmpoweringParents.com, continues to invest in the website by adding staff and working with renowned experts to provide meaningful content to its readers. Eric Winter, Vice President of Internet Business, said, “It’s great that EmpoweringParents.com was recognized as being one of the best parenting websites by iParenting. I'm proud of the quality of our content and of our team.”
“We are thrilled that the iParenting Media Awards chose to honor EmpoweringParents.com by giving us this award,” said Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor of Empowering Parents. “I believe we offer something unique to parents out there—a website devoted to covering the toughest issues families are facing right now. Our articles, blog posts, audio files and advice for parents focus on providing them with information they can really use in their day-to-day lives. ” James Lehman, MSW, a behavioral therapist who has worked with acting-out kids for the last 30 years, and Dr. Bob Myers, an expert on children with ADHD with 25 years experience, are both regular contributors to the online magazine and blog.
EmpoweringParents.com was launched in March of 2007. In 2008, the website has plans to add podcasting, video content and a parenting forum.
Headquartered in Westbrook, Maine, Legacy Publishing Company is a leading publisher of The Total Transformation® Program and The Total Focus Program for families. With an average annual revenue increase of 60 percent from 2005 through 2007, Legacy puts the knowledge of America's most respected psychologists in the hands of parents to give them practical tools they can learn, and principles they can apply quickly in their families. The company's web site is www.LegacyPublishingCompany.com.
If you’d like more information on Empowering Parents, Legacy Publishing, or The Total Transformation® Program, or would like to schedule an interview, please contact Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor at 207-856-5600x3015 or firstname.lastname@example.org
New Empowering Parents Blog Provides Weekly Insights for Parents in Crisis
EmpoweringParents.com to Feature Noted Behavioral Therapist
WESTBROOK, Me., February 6, 2008— Parenting in the 21st Century is perhaps the most difficult it’s ever been. Parents are facing a gamut of problems these days, from kids with ADHD or Oppositional Defiant Disorder to children and teens who act out and are seemingly beyond control. Enter James Lehman, MSW, a behavioral therapist who has worked with acting-out kids for the last thirty years, and Dr. Bob Myers, an expert on children with ADHD with 25 years experience. Both will be blogging, along with other top-notch contributors, for the new EmpoweringParents.com Blog, “The Blog for Effective Parenting.” Launched in March of 2007, the award-winning EmpoweringParents.com has quickly become the premier online publication for parents who want to learn how to manage challenging behaviors in their children and teens.
“In addition to EmpoweringParents.com, which features articles that are helping families deal with the most challenging behaviors kids can throw at you, our new blog will help us attain an even greater level of connection with our parents out there,” said Elisabeth Wilkins, Editor of EmpoweringParents.com. “Our subscribers will now have the chance to engage in conversations with the experts and each other about issues that are important to them, get information on the issues about which they worry most, and learn new techniques that will help them work through some of the most difficult situations parents can face as they raise their children.” Wilkins stated, “EmpoweringParents.com, to my knowledge, is the only publication out there dedicated to covering the toughest issues families are facing right now.”
In January of this year, EmpoweringParents.com was given a prestigious iParenting.com Media Award. In 2008, EmpoweringParents.com has plans to add podcasting, video content and a parent forum to its site.
Headquartered in Westbrook, Maine, Legacy Publishing Company is a leading publisher of behavior management products and child behavior programs for families. With average annual revenue increase of 60 percent from 2005 through 2007, Legacy puts the knowledge of America's most respected psychologists in the hands of parents to give them practical tools they can learn, and principles they can apply quickly in their families. The company's web site is http://www.LegacyPublishingCompany.com.
The Total Transformation® Program is available through Legacy Publishing Company, at www.thetotaltransformation.com. More than 100,000 units of the TTP have been sold to date with about 1,000 currently being sold per week. In August 2006, the National Association of Social Workers approved the Total Transformation® Program for 6 Continuing Education Units under the Long-Distance Learning for Social Workers guidelines.
Empowering Parents: New Online Magazine Gives Parents “Skills They Can Use in a Judgment-free Zone”
Online Magazine and Community Helps Parents Connect
WESTBROOK, Me. Aug. 29, 2007— Empoweringparents.com is a new magazine and online community for parents who are actively seeking solutions to parenting issues. Although the publication was launched earlier this year, parents are flocking to the site—the magazine now boasts more than 70,000 subscribers.
Steve Anderson is the founder of Legacy Publishing, the company that launched Empowering Parents. “We wanted to create a place online where parents could come and talk freely, a sort of virtual coffee house where parents can discuss problems and get practical help,” he said. “We called it ‘Empowering Parents’ because we want our website to do just that—empower parents by giving them the skills they need to parent to the best of their abilities.”
The monthly online publication features “straight talk and real results” for parents whose children fall within the range of normal acting out to those who have ADHD or ODD and are presenting more challenges. Articles run the gamut from “The War at Home: Oppositional Defiant Disorder” to “Motivating the Unmotivated Child.” Noted child therapists James Lehman and Dr. Bob Myers are regular contributors to the publication.
“At EmpoweringParents.com, we’ve created a place for parents and care-givers to learn about kids’ issues, discuss problems and get skills they can use right away in a judgment-free zone,” said Elisabeth Wilkins, editor of the magazine. Wilkins, who is also the mother of a four-and-half year old, added, “In the end, we want to provide lifelong learning for parents in a single place, a safe harbor where parents can come for knowledge and support.” Empoweringparents.com also features “One Minute Transformations,” audio installments of behavior modification techniques by noted child therapist James Lehman, creator of the Total Transformation® Program, as well as parenting tips and resources for parents.
Empowering Parents, published by Legacy Publishing Company, was created to provide useful problem-solving techniques to parents and children. Legacy Publishing is the company behind The Total Transformation® and Total Focus Programs-two unique products that have been used by thousands of parents, teachers, coaches and other mentors of children to improve communication and modify problematic behaviors.