The Gift of Unhappiness

The Gift of Unhappiness

When I was eight years old, my friend was invited to a neighborhood birthday party and I wasn’t. There was ice cream cake and the promise of a piñata. I was devastated. My parents could have asked the neighbors to invite me. They could have sent me along to the party uninvited. They could have… Read more »

Coach Advice: Stick to the Facts

Coach Advice: Stick to the Facts

As a coach (and a mother), I remind myself and others to “stick to the facts” when parenting in difficult situations. What do I mean? “Stick to the facts” is shorthand for focusing on your child’s behavior – not the way that behavior makes you and your child feel. How can you make this happen?… Read more »

Build Your Parenting Team

Build Your Parenting Team

Imagine a crowd cheering you on each day as you parent your kids. They encourage you, support you, and maybe take over for a bit when you need a break. As parents, we need all the support we can get. That’s why I talk to parents about “building their team.” Who can be your cheerleaders?… Read more »

A Tip for Picking an Effective Consequence

A Tip for Picking an Effective Consequence

A frequent question we hear from parents is, “What should I choose as a consequence?” Our answer is always to choose a task-specific consequence. These are the consequences that will help your child practice skills and behaviors that need improvement. Here’s an example of what we mean by task-specific. For example, instead of saying, “Clean… Read more »

A Tip to Stop Power Struggles

A Tip to Stop Power Struggles

If there’s a surefire technique in parenting, we think this is it: Leave the room when things get heated. We hear from parents all the time about power struggles with their children. Kids won’t get out of bed. They refuse to do their homework. Toddlers fight putting their shoes on. The list goes on, but… Read more »

Parenting Mistake? Let’s Fix It.

Parenting Mistake? Let’s Fix It.

Can you relate to this? Here’s a typical situation our coaching team hears from parents: “Last night was awful. My son came home two hours after curfew and when I tried to talk to him, he started making excuses and blaming me for making the curfew too early. I got so mad, we started yelling… Read more »

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Earlier this week, we wrote about celebrating success with your family. But what if things suddenly seem to be getting worse? Don’t panic. Setbacks are a normal but difficult part of the change process. With a good plan, you’ll get through these tough times and back to celebrating more success. Here are some tips for… Read more »

Are You Doing Better Than You Think?

Are You Doing Better Than You Think?

It’s easy for parents to skip over some accomplishments and jump right to the next thing – the undone dishes, the afternoon homework battle – but learning to identify and celebrate your family’s success, even if it’s small, can really help to create positive momentum and lead to lasting change. Maybe this is the first… Read more »